eternal flame Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I am close to 30 and have been dating a girl that I really care for alot. We met almost a year ago and our relationship has progressed nicely over which time I have really started falling in love. In recent days she has become more distant and non responsive to my calls or texts. At first I did not worry much since she is very independent and has always kept her distance and liked her space. However I recently told her I love her and this past weekend we were supposed to spend together at my family's house and she said she had plans with friends and wouldnt be able to make it. Naturally I am concerned and have been sick to my stomach all weekend worried about what is really going on here. I feel whenever I get close to a girl this kind of situation arises and its always tough to handle. Additionally I feel that I have not made it clear enough to her that we are together and thus may be suffering because of that fact. I feel perhaps if I talk to her and let her know firmly how I feel things could change for the better. I was just looking for some general advice about the best way to proceed with this situation. Thank you ahead of time for anyone s advice.
triphopper414 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I would definitely talk to her about it for your sake and hers. If things are not working out (and I hope they do for you), you need to talk about it so you do not prolong your suffering. There is a chance that she has never been told 'I love you' before. She could be scared and not know how to deal with the situation. I would definitely discuss your relationship status too. There was obviously a communication breakdown at some point.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) I think she is planning on dumping you. This is typical pre-dump behavior. You can talk to her, but if she is planning on dumping you she isnt going to fess up to it. She needs you as her safety net just in case she doesnt make it happen with the new guy. Talk to her about it, see if she is happy, tell her you feel like she is distancing herself, but dont ask her in a needy way. If she doesnt tell you the truth, your best bet is to dump her now before she dumps you. Assume she is going to so that you wont be surprised. Make sure to look at her body language closely when you ask her. Also, if you want to know how to avoid this situation again, post what tyou did to let her know that you fell for her, and do you know for sure that she fell for you? If you fell for her first, this is why youre in this situation. Edited August 14, 2011 by Eddie Edirol
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