Madman59770 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 SO obviously, this will be kinda long, but I'd appreciate it if someone gives me some good advice on this So my gf and I have been relatively together for a year and a half- we did have a break that lasted a few months, but we were basically friends with benefits at that time and we got back together and were really happy to be together. Anyways, skipping like 7 or 8 months after we got together, I came home from a 3 week trip out of town. Nothing seemed to have really changed, which was good. Then one day while hanging out, she was acting really nice, cuddly, and everything. I thought I was in heaven lol. But on a walk to the park, she brings up that we should break up. Idk if it was pure denial or anything, but I didnt argue or feel TOO sad at that time- we were arguing a little more than often lately. She said her reasons were that she still loved me as much as she did before, but that her love sort of transitioned into more of a friend kind of love- not the kind of love I had for her. Also, she said that since we're so young (we're about to enter senior year of high school), that we should see other people. She said she wouldn't be surprised at all if one day we married. Anywho, **** finally hits the fan after that day (which was amazing if one could ignore the breakup) and I get all sad and whatnot, and she says she wonders if it as a mistake. We stay "friends", but I get more jealous than usual (I was just thinking every guy in the world was her plan since she was now single and break up with me). Though, I will admit now that I believe I was being a dick and that those guys were legitimate friends. Anyways, one day we go to a concert with her friends and I act all stupid because she doesn't really pay much attention to me, and we argued that night a lot over text. We decided to break off completely-no contact. She did not give a time frame, but at that point, I was gonna give it a month or so until I contact her if she does not contact me by then. So we hang out one day just to give closure to everything, and dumb me acts really emotional and desperate-like, but really sweet to her. We walk around downtown and have a pretty good time (though, the elephant in the room being this would be our last time seeing/talking to each other for a while). We pretty much were a couple that day- we made out, held hands, had carefree talks and times for the most part. Finally, we give our sad, dramatic goodbyes and "I love you"s and went our separate ways. Longest 10 second walk to my car ever, I might add. Anyways it's been almost two weeks since we completely broke off, and I was a wreck for the majority of this time, but I've learned to control myself and be productive. I've also appreciated just who she was a lot more in this time. I plan to initiate contact in a few weeks, with thew hope that she has missed me a lot and will consider us again. I'm going to be casual and relatively calm at this initial meeting- I don't want to seem hopelessly desperate again. If this fails, then I think I will consider just being friends, as stupid and short-term of a plan as that could be, just because I've missed her A LOT. <--Stupid backup plan, I know, but I kinda don't give a **** atm So ya... What do you guys honestly think of this situation? Do I have a chance in hell in getting the girl back? What should I do if she still loves me as a friend? What should I do in this situation, in general? Honestly, I just hope she legitimately just wants space; we were a very close couple. Thanks for reading this long-ass post, people!
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