Butterflying Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) I'm in a long distant relationship. We recently decided to be exclusive. When we met six months ago we were both casually dating. In fact, we met at the airport. He was on his way to Argentina to spend a week with a woman he refered to as a friend. As soon as he returned, we began dating. We only live a few hundred miles apart, so we see each other much more often than he could ever see that woman. In the time we've known each other, he and I have shared intimate details about our ex's. Seen photos, told stories about why the relationships didn't work out. One flaw I've noticed about this guy is dishonesty. Of course everyone lies sometimes, we all do it. But I don't know if his lies are worth being worried about. The way he lies is by "leaving out" certain details. For example, he refuses to tell me the name of the woman he was dating in Argentina. He also won't allow me to see photos of her. Since he has been so open about his other ex's, naturally I wonder whats so different about her. Why is he hiding her from me? He doesn't know that I looked at all his friends on Facebook. Only one is a female from Argentina. I've noticed she comments on ALL of his post. She also leaves sweet comments on his wall referring to him as her teddy bear and saying how much she longs for his hugs and kisses. But his relationship status was "single" until after he and I listed ourselves in a relationship. Now it says boldly he's in a relationship with me. I suspect she might be the woman in question. At the end, I wonder if I should be worried about his involvment with her. The one thing I admire about him is that he seemed to be cautious about taking our relationship to the next level. It seemed like he wanted to wait until he was sure about commitment. I never pushed to take it to the next level. But I made it clear when we began dating, I was looking for a soul mate, not an FWB. In six months, we've taken several trips together, spent lots of time together, and see each other at least every two weeks. We don't talk every day. But when we do talk, the conversations are substantial. So should I be worried about this woman in Argentina? Edited August 14, 2011 by Butterflying
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