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Hi all, so I was speaking to my boyfriend the other day, talking to him about my concerns about living up to how his ex was in bed.. he told me I shouldn't worry because she just "****ed like a slut" and that it was good, but he likes sex better with me because it actually feels like making love to him and there's emotions tied into it, whereas with her, he thought there was emotions, but once they broke up he realized there really wasn't any.

 

I mean if you hear that a girl "****s like a slut" wouldn't you think a guy would rather have sex with her? My question to you all is, what would you rather? Meaningful sex with someone you love, or sex with a slut?

 

It's hard for me to tell if my boyfriend is telling the truth or not, I guess it doesn't really matter, but I just always thought guys would enjoy the opposite so I'm curious what other people think about that..

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Hi all, so I was speaking to my boyfriend the other day, talking to him about my concerns about living up to how his ex was in bed.. he told me I shouldn't worry because she just "****ed like a slut" and that it was good, but he likes sex better with me because it actually feels like making love to him and there's emotions tied into it, whereas with her, he thought there was emotions, but once they broke up he realized there really wasn't any.

 

I mean if you hear that a girl "****s like a slut" wouldn't you think a guy would rather have sex with her? My question to you all is, what would you rather? Meaningful sex with someone you love, or sex with a slut?

 

It's hard for me to tell if my boyfriend is telling the truth or not, I guess it doesn't really matter, but I just always thought guys would enjoy the opposite so I'm curious what other people think about that..

 

You are looking too deep into it. How does one f--- like a slut anyway? I don't think they have any exclusive abilities.

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Hi all, so I was speaking to my boyfriend the other day, talking to him about my concerns about living up to how his ex was in bed.. he told me I shouldn't worry because she just "****ed like a slut" and that it was good, but he likes sex better with me because it actually feels like making love to him and there's emotions tied into it, whereas with her, he thought there was emotions, but once they broke up he realized there really wasn't any.

 

I mean if you hear that a girl "****s like a slut" wouldn't you think a guy would rather have sex with her? My question to you all is, what would you rather? Meaningful sex with someone you love, or sex with a slut?

 

It's hard for me to tell if my boyfriend is telling the truth or not, I guess it doesn't really matter, but I just always thought guys would enjoy the opposite so I'm curious what other people think about that..

 

There's a third option. Make love to each other in most instances and f*ck each other in other instances, that way you combine the best of both worlds. It doesn't have to be an either-or kind of thing. That being said, as a guy, if I had to choose I would go for making love, but my opinion might not reflect the opinion of other if not most guys, just saying.

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How does one f--- like a slut anyway? I don't think they have any exclusive abilities.

 

I have no idea, that's what I was wondering.. I would say maybe like how un-realisticly they do it in porn? Or she f---s like she's been around a lot? I don't even know.. and I'm not sure I wan't to :sick:

 

There's a third option. Make love to each other in most instances and f*ck each other in other instances, that way you combine the best of both worlds. It doesn't have to be an either-or kind of thing. That being said, as a guy, if I had to choose I would go for making love, but my opinion might not reflect the opinion of other if not most guys, just saying.

 

Thanks, yeah that's what we normally do. I guess with her it was just straight up sex and never what me and him have.. which is what makes it so strange to me that he said it was good with her. I know I don't "f--- like a s---" so it just left me wondering where I stand with him about our sex life if he thought that was good and that's not how I do it exactly.

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Why the separation?

 

You know what they say about the ideal woman: A lady by day, a slut by night.

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I'm with the Prof + Nexus on this one as well. Why don't you mix it up a bit in the bedroom, or the kitchen or the library or wherever.

I was also curious on 'How does one f--- like a slut' when it comes to a committed relationship. Seems like he has not elaborated, so just ask him outright, and consider incorporating some of it.

I was also curious on the comment 'like how un-realisticly they do it in porn'. Excluding the fact that the actors have great bodies + some of the freaky German stuff, what aspects are un-realistic?

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I don't even understand what that means, but there are times for f*cking, there are times for sex, and there are times for making love... and all of those should be having space in a good sexual relationship, in my opinion. I'm actually disturbed that you are insecure enough to be talking about his sex life with his ex and your ability to live up to it though.

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He was telling you that his ex was better than you in bed but it doesnt matter to him because he loves you more than he did toward her.

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You really need to let go of the idea that his sex life with his ex is your concern in ANY way. Stop talking about it with him. If you want to talk about how to make your sex life with him as great for both of you as it can possibly be, this can happen without bringing up other sex partners.

 

I don't know whether you are prodding him about what she was like in bed, or he's volunteering the info, but either way it's not cool.

 

Are you also sharing with him what YOUR ex(s) were like during sexy time? I hope not!

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Thanks, yeah that's what we normally do. I guess with her it was just straight up sex and never what me and him have.. which is what makes it so strange to me that he said it was good with her. I know I don't "f--- like a s---" so it just left me wondering where I stand with him about our sex life if he thought that was good and that's not how I do it exactly.

 

About the bolded: are you absolutely incapable of switching it up?

 

I'm confused. Does your sex life combined loving love making and animal sex or not?

 

Who cares about comparing yourself to his ex? That's not the question. The question is: How can you make your sex life all that it can be? Why not experiment with kinky sex sometimes? Play dress up? Continue to enjoy intimate loving moments too? I mean, bf and I switch from one to the other in a matter of minutes in one single love-making session. I fail to comprehend how one is in opposition to the other.

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He was telling you that his ex was better than you in bed but it doesnt matter to him because he loves you more than he did toward her.

 

Don't agree with Musemaj on much but yeah, this is basically what your bf's comment boils down to. :o

 

That being said, the whole conversation was just a horrible idea in the first place. Now that the damage is done and you know WAY more details about his sex life with this ex than you should (none, would be most appropriate), you've just gotta suck it up and let it go.

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I would be concerned that he has so little respect for his ex to even say something so stupid as "she just f*cked like a slut." I mean wtf? Apparently he enjoyed her "sluttiness" enough to continue having sex with her. That's just such a dick thing to say. It's also really stupid, because f*cking and making love don't have to be mutually exclusive. My husband and I enjoy both. ;)

 

Anyway, why are you guys even talking about this? I assume you're pretty young/inexperienced because you seem way too wrapped up in what he did in the past, and in comparing yourself to his ex. Let it go. Quit having these ridiculous conversations with him.

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