Steen719 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I have a laptop (I use for work from home) and in my house is also a desktop computer that had previously been used at our business (which we both owned). We no longer have the building where the business was and our old desktop died, so we took this one out of storage and this is the computer my H uses. I also use it about 2x a week, primarily to print what I need as it is attached to a printer and my laptop is not. I teach online and need to print grading sheets, etc. I installed a keylogger and found some inappropriate conversations between H and an "old friend...ex-honey". I cannot use it in court; I am in a no-fault state and so I have no "legal" use for it. However, it has done a couple of things for me. One, it helped me make up my mind to leave the POS and it also made me know that I was not "crazy for thinking something was up". I really have no intention of telling the OW's H, but my H thinks I might and told me it was illegal to use it (although he is not sure this is what I have done and he is not computer savvy). I am poor due to excessive medical bills (H's) and his inability to work (until recently..but he still is not working). I am not even sure how I am going to afford a divorce..but I will somehow. I have no attorney to just call and ask, so I thought someone here might know if this has actually been illegal. I am in Florida. I appreciate any information. Thank you.
Spark1111 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 No it's not I would surmise. The computer is the joint property of a married couple, right? And in marriage, despite popular opinion, there is no guaranteed right to privacy protecting one spouse from another. In fact, the law protects one spouse from having to testify against the other. If it was a work computer and was owned by a corporation, that would be a different story. You could be charged with hacking, but if no trade secrets were stolen they too would not prosecute. Your H is gaslighting you. How about you make some copies of what you have and send them to the "honey's" hubby?
Author Steen719 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 I have thought about it, but got on tonight and also found another woman who he is trying to work on. I am just so pissed that I have decided just to move along with a divorce asap and getting the house ready to put on the market. He is trying to tell me that he doesn't want a divorce and doing this sh*t. He is a lying POS. He wants to fight about every little item in the house. He is on FB tonight as usual and is trying to find out how I am getting all of my information. I am really trying to keep my cool. My son is home from college for the next week and the last thing he needs is to hear a lot of stuff. Thank God I am busy with work. It provides some distraction. Thanks for your answer.
Author Steen719 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Thanks for the answers. He contacted facebook and they must have given him some information about how to stop it and he did whatever they told him and he thinks I can't read anything. Not so! I can still look with the KL, so I don't think I'll worry about it. He is so sure I cannot read any more messages, so I'll let him think that. As I said, I cannot use it as a legal tactic, anyway, and it was more of a way for me to verify what I thought was going on. He is talking to this other woman who's H left her for a prostitute and she is telling him what a POS her X is and he is saying...oh, that's bad. She wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole if she knew he was also a POS, but she really does not seem too interested anyway. All the while, he is telling me he does not want the divorce. Good God, what is wrong with some people? 22 years! At least we are moving closer to an agreement with the finances, so we can move on the divorce, filing ourselves. Again, thanks for your answers and for listening to me.
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