Hopeless Girl Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Well. We dated for one month and then we broke it off cause things we're getting weird. I still care about him. On Monday we bumped into each other and then I left for home and I told him to come home. He went to my house and we talked till like 6 am. Nothing happened. Just like 3 sec. kiss. Anyways, when he was gonna leave I told him don't leave and he stayed. He told me at first he saw me as his girl and then said he didn't want anything serious (he tells me this when we were dating). He is also leaving in like a month to another state to study so I wont be seeing much of him. I dunno, Im trying not to make drama and be his friend. I really want him and I to work but I care more about him than he does me. The day he came to my house I said "I don't like you like that" but then acts differently. That's my story. Any thoughts. PS. He says he care about me
Nohbody Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 'Care' is a word people can use with regard to another person that is so flexible that it is essentially meaningless. There are three realities here: How you feel, How he feels, and How you think he feels. You know how you feel, and you know how you think he feels, but you don't know how he feels, and only he really knows that. My advice is to assume the worst, and begin to move on. He just doesn't seem that into you, and the timing is very bad if he's about to leave the state (especially if you can't follow him).
Author Hopeless Girl Posted August 13, 2011 Author Posted August 13, 2011 Then why does he text me and go to my house really late, and answer my phone calls? You know he had a roadtrip planned for us 2 weeks after we broke up. The roadtrip didn't happen because we had a discussion. I am strong I've been through worse and this is nothing but I'll do anything to be with him but I can't.
Author Hopeless Girl Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Wow. Thanks Nohbody. I wanted a little more depth into it to see if there's a chance between us .
katie.x Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Wow. Thanks Nohbody. I wanted a little more depth into it to see if there's a chance between us . Is he making an effort to see you or just responding to your efforts? If he's going away then yeah, that's bad timing and if he's not interested in being with you it's probably because he's going away and doesn't see the point when you won't be around. The worst situation would be he's hanging around hoping for some nookie and affection then goes away and doesn't think twice about you. So consider that and if you'd care if it happened.
Author Hopeless Girl Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Is he making an effort to see you or just responding to your efforts? If he's going away then yeah, that's bad timing and if he's not interested in being with you it's probably because he's going away and doesn't see the point when you won't be around. The worst situation would be he's hanging around hoping for some nookie and affection then goes away and doesn't think twice about you. So consider that and if you'd care if it happened. Well that last time he pursued me was in a hangout and he was asking me where I was... He did this a couple of times. After that we had this huge fight and he tells me we shouldn't speak anymore. I was devastated cause I really hurt his feelings with things I said. Like 1 week and so passed and we reconnected again and he acted like he wanted me again. Holding my hand, saying he wanted to kiss me but shouldn't and I was like just let it be and we kissed. That's just it.
katie.x Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Well that last time he pursued me was in a hangout and he was asking me where I was... He did this a couple of times. After that we had this huge fight and he tells me we shouldn't speak anymore. I was devastated cause I really hurt his feelings with things I said. Like 1 week and so passed and we reconnected again and he acted like he wanted me again. Holding my hand, saying he wanted to kiss me but shouldn't and I was like just let it be and we kissed. That's just it. Either he wants your attention now because he can get it and theres no strongs as he's going away. Or he's confused because he likes you and is going away and doesn't know what to do, whether to try or just leave it. Maybe you should straight up ask him, that's the only way to know whats he's thinking which is ultimately what you want.
Author Hopeless Girl Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Either he wants your attention now because he can get it and theres no strongs as he's going away. Or he's confused because he likes you and is going away and doesn't know what to do, whether to try or just leave it. Maybe you should straight up ask him, that's the only way to know whats he's thinking which is ultimately what you want. Well LIke I said, he doesn't want a relationship but pursues me. What's left for me to do is either block him out of my life completely or keep trying and in the end get good results or get hurt. I remember those first days of being together. They were so magical and then things started getting weird and awkward because in my mind I know he was leaving. But now I want to try something different so I can get him back but I don't know exactly what to do.
wilsonx Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Nohbody was right about the word care, it only means care as a friend in my interpretation. I care for my friends. But after reading your initial post, you only dated for 1 month. He doesn't want a relationship, he's about to move away to school, you have to let go. Logically, this is the correct thing to do. I've dated before for a month, it sucks, things pop up in people's lives and you move on. Focus your attention on yourself for a while. What do you want for yourself? (something besides another person)
Author Hopeless Girl Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Nohbody was right about the word care, it only means care as a friend in my interpretation. I care for my friends. But after reading your initial post, you only dated for 1 month. He doesn't want a relationship, he's about to move away to school, you have to let go. Logically, this is the correct thing to do. I've dated before for a month, it sucks, things pop up in people's lives and you move on. Focus your attention on yourself for a while. What do you want for yourself? (something besides another person) AGH. You're totally right... Thanks
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