mr.dream merchant Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Since February of this year, I've not engaged in sexual penetration with a woman. All that's been on my agenda is work, school and the gym..as usual. Been practicing new things, brushing up on my gentlemanlike ways, and doing my best not to judge a woman based off of how she dresses, her need for male attention, and her sexual encounters and quantity of the like. I can't say that it's really fetched me any kind of success. Still go through the same ol' same ol' with women. They let me chat them up, tease and flirt with me, but when it comes time to go out on a date, or step up, they end up flaking or disappearing on me. Not sure why, or for what reasons, it's totally on them. Tried the online dating bit, and saw tons of success as far as women wanting to meet me and profile views. Once again, when I get to messaging them, it seems that's all they want to do....is message. Some even disappear after an exchange of 2-4 messages. Traded #'s with a few, some were very demanding and pushy, and others didn't even respond back to text messages. Been fooling around with a lovely woman @ work though. Occasionally we'll sneak over to the vacated office we use for storage of lab equipment, and engage in sexual activities other than penetration. I've also been catching, what seems like, hints from some of the women in the office. They'll do small things like say something out loud when they're walking by and I'm not facing them, or touch me unnecessarily. One girl will always include herself in conversations I'm having with someone else, and hold eye contact with me only. I've been hesitant on approaching them for several reasons. I don't know if it's such a good idea to be involved with women at work. Also, these women are lovely. And most of the men at work are always feeding them attention and compliments. I do neither. So I don't know if they're after me for their own personal ego boost or what, or if they're genuinely trying to see what's up. I've been getting so much of the latter though, that I'm burned out and not really looking to have my energy and time go to waste just for another woman's own self benefit (esteem +++). As expected, the lack of success and surplus of time and energy wasted is slowly starting to make me bitter....again. I don't understand why everything has to be such a game. Been talking to one guy, and he's got an army of 10/10 women at his feet. His method? Play their game, and manipulate them with push and pull techniques. I employed it for a month, and I had a whole "team" of women and numbers on my phone. Lewd photos and what not. It didn't last long, cause as soon as I dropped the game playing for a second, and exposed my genuine self and genuine interest, they disappeared on me. So now I have no women on my phone, no lewd photos, etc. Just trying to figure out when all the time and energy wasted will be worth it? Because as far as I've gotten, it's almost hopeless. For some reason or another, women go the opposite way when you show them that you're interested in getting to know them. Maybe they've got other options on the table? :/ The dating game is really tough when you're dealing with lovely women in their 20's. It's just a game to them, and guys are highly expendable to them, at least that's how they treat me. But older women will always ask me why I'm single, like I'm supposed to have an army of women at my feet or something? One even asked me if I was gay, to which I laughed, smiled and replied with a solid "No.". She said she couldn't understand why a guy like me can't find a nice girl...and damnit man, I told her I didn't either. I don't understand why it's so difficult, and why it's such a gauntlet. Guess these women just have too many options to settle. So their life is just one giant party and ego inflation, or at least, that's how it pans out from my side of the table. -Mr. Dream Merchant
LoveandSuch Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 "Been fooling around with a lovely woman @ work though. Occasionally we'll sneak over to the vacated office we use for storage of lab equipment, and engage in sexual activities other than penetration. I've also been catching, what seems like, hints from some of the women in the office. They'll do small things like say something out loud when they're walking by and I'm not facing them, or touch me unnecessarily." Gross, you have got to be kidding. Are women that desperate? Really now?
thehead Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 How old are you? I just turned 30 and agree dating women in their 20s is hit and miss. Where and how you meet them counts for a lot too. I've never done online dating but your experience sounds typical. Have you tried dating women in their later 20s or early 30s who are career oriented and stable? Forget the party girls. I mean women who aren't in that scene and are interested in something real.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 The while "game" thing is designed to work in women who want games played. Where are you trying to meet quality women? If you go fishing in the wrong pond, you may only pull up boots and garbage. A lot of women have the same issues.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Funny that you suggest older women, because that's who I connect with more so than my peers. But I never make that move because I'm 22 and the woman will be mid to late twenties, early thirties. I assume by default, they won't be interested because of the obvious age difference. As far as where I'm looking, lately POF, work, and the gym. School picks up next week, I plan on seeing some success there, hopefully. :> The PUA stuff works, for sure. But you have to constantly engage in mental manipulation with these women who are also playing the game. So eventually, I'm inclined to feel like we're playing mind **** chess, not having fun. -Mr. Dream Merchant
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