loves Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I`ve been seeing this guy for about 6 months.. He talks about family, how he feels & opens up about his harsh past.. 2 days ago we got into a little arguement and he told me it was over and to go do me.. I told him I will, bye.. 30 minutes later he called me and i didn`t answer and then he texted saying fine if you want to go to sleep mad then do it, i have work at 8 so i'm going to sleep, goodnight i didn't answer back because i was still upset about the name calling and the whole breaking up (he does this often) .. i`m not sure if he does it for attention or what! .. but i ignored him all night and called and texted him the next day and NO RESPONSE AT ALL! we have never gone a day without talking.. Do you think he is just doing this for attention and showing me who`s boss .. Will he ever come around.. Sorry, i overthink every little thing, i don`t let it be known though lol
NursingGirl Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 His harsh past meaning harsh childhood? People with harsh childhoods have a different dynamic working. Their trust issues are screwed up. They do alot of "splitting" early in relationships until someone, miraculously, gets past their wall that they put up as a guard. Splitting as in, "you are good" then "you are bad"...black and white, you are either "in" or "out". I do it. I hate it. I don't know if that is the case with your guy but if his childhood was rough and he has no to little self awareness, he will act like this. He will let you in and shut you out so often he will have your head spinning. There isn't much you can do about it without him becoming self aware so I don't know if you want to go down that road with him or not.
wilsonx Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 No he's not playing "the game" with you. He's emotionally immature like Nursing described. They do not like arguing or fighting at all. Once it happens they wall up. Just let him go, you honestly do not want to be in a relationship with someone like that, trust me!! It will be a constant push pull and its extremely emotionally draining. I promise you, you are better off without him
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