loves Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I`ve been seeing this guy for about 6 months.. He talks about family, how he feels & opens up about his harsh past.. 2 days ago we got into a little arguement and he told me it was over and to go do me.. I told him I will, bye.. 30 minutes later he called me and i didn`t answer because i was still upset about the name calling and the whole breaking up (he does this often) .. i`m not sure if he does it for attention or what! .. but i ignored him all night and called and texted him the next day and NO RESPONSE AT ALL! we have never gone a day without talking.. Do you think he is just doing this for attention and showing me who`s boss .. Will he ever come around.. Sorry, i overthink every little thing, i don`t let it be known though lol
Eddie Edirol Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 if he does this alot, then he isnt really into you, he is just using you as a backup. but if you ignored him, then he thinks he cant play the game with you anymore since youre making it tougher for him to win, so he ignored your calls. Leave him alone, you dont need to be with someone that wishy washy about you.
madjac74 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 and he told me it was over and to go do me Haha! I like how you put that. I think he is playing mind games because he may be a little insecure. He seems to want to establish dominance in the relationship because you seem very level headed and sure of yourself and maybe he is not. And these games of being stubborn and not answering your calls are to see how much you chase him. I've tried these tactics before because my GF is very confident and always knows exactly how to respond and she made me feel very insecure in the past. I soon learned that by trying to ignore her and play these games that I was only hurting myself because it was much worse to not talk to her than to just admit how I was feeling. I dont think you are a backup or he doesnt care because he wouldnt get all discombobulated over you if that were the case. If he cares enough about you there is hope that he will come around and learn that these silly games arent helpful. May I ask what you guys fought about?
Author loves Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Haha! I like how you put that. I think he is playing mind games because he may be a little insecure. He seems to want to establish dominance in the relationship because you seem very level headed and sure of yourself and maybe he is not. And these games of being stubborn and not answering your calls are to see how much you chase him. I've tried these tactics before because my GF is very confident and always knows exactly how to respond and she made me feel very insecure in the past. I soon learned that by trying to ignore her and play these games that I was only hurting myself because it was much worse to not talk to her than to just admit how I was feeling. I dont think you are a backup or he doesnt care because he wouldnt get all discombobulated over you if that were the case. If he cares enough about you there is hope that he will come around and learn that these silly games arent helpful. May I ask what you guys fought about? I think you have the most helpful honest answer lol i'm more then positive he likes me! He says he loves me.. And whenever we fight he constantly feels the need to throw other girls in the mix of our arguement.. I'm a very pretty girl, i model, very independent, funny! I pretty much have every quality (Not to be cocky) .. Our arguement was about him saying how his mom doesn't trust me because I never make time to see him so it's fishy ect.. But it's definetly these little back and forth games! I mean I'm also a virgin so it's not like he gets anything from me.. We haven't even been physical with eachother in that way yet.. So i'm more then positive it's not him using me or me being a back up!.. I apologized yesterday in a text and he called right away to make up but i didn't answer! and so he didn't attempt to call again! It is a dominance thing! Ever since the beginning I noticed it .. It's like he has to be the man in the relationship .. Were both 22 years old, I know girls he talks to definetly don't act like me.. no offence but there all a little slutty =/
madjac74 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 whenever we fight he constantly feels the need to throw other girls in the mix of our arguement.. I'm a very pretty girl, i model, very independent, funny! I pretty much have every quality (Not to be cocky) .. Except how to spell "argument" haha just teasing! Our arguement was about him saying how his mom doesn't trust me because I never make time to see him so it's fishy ect.. But it's definetly these little back and forth games! It sounds like he is using his mom as an excuse to say that HE doesn't trust you. And the fact that he tries to throw other girls in your face when you argue suggests that he is very insecure and very immature. This seems like further proof of his need to establish dominance by trying to make you feel that there are other girls lined up for him and he doesn't need you. It's like he has to be the man in the relationship .. This really shouldnt be an issue unless you are a lesbian Although my GF and friends joke that I am the girl in the relationship because Im very sensitive and overly emotional and she is much more strong and stable. But I am confident enough in who I am to be fine with our role reversal and to laugh about it. You seem far too mature for this guy. His immaturity and insecurities will likely get old. I hope for your sake and his that he grows up quickly because slutty girls are great when you are young but eventually (when or if he grows up) he will regret losing a quality girl like you.
Author loves Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Except how to spell "argument" haha just teasing! It sounds like he is using his mom as an excuse to say that HE doesn't trust you. And the fact that he tries to throw other girls in your face when you argue suggests that he is very insecure and very immature. This seems like further proof of his need to establish dominance by trying to make you feel that there are other girls lined up for him and he doesn't need you. This really shouldnt be an issue unless you are a lesbian Although my GF and friends joke that I am the girl in the relationship because Im very sensitive and overly emotional and she is much more strong and stable. But I am confident enough in who I am to be fine with our role reversal and to laugh about it. You seem far too mature for this guy. His immaturity and insecurities will likely get old. I hope for your sake and his that he grows up quickly because slutty girls are great when you are young but eventually (when or if he grows up) he will regret losing a quality girl like you. Haha yes, hopefully soon! Thank you for your help!
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