Sweetheartt Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I knew I shouldnt had done it lol. Seriously tho, I messed up in talking to 2 guys yesterday & couldnt get rid of them. The 1st was at starbucks yesterday when my 2 friends said this guy was watching me & how cute he was. I thought he looked ok but didnt think he was my type but my friend thought so. Anywayssss lol, he was on the other line I guess waiting for his order w/e, & I came over to see if my order came so I asked him if he saw my drink. He laughs & says no but then he wont stfu! He starts asking me my name, where Im from, yada yada, if I got a bf bla bla bla, he wants my number yada yada. I said I had a bf & got the **** outta there lol. My friends thought it was funny but I hated it uggggh! Then at this party late last night I said hey, thats my drink because this cute guy took the wrong martini glass. We chatted for like 3 minutes then he tells me how special I am & how great a girl I am & how he wants to treat me right yada yada. Im like Omg whats your problem! U dont even know me! Not approaching guys no more because this is the price I pay. They all act like Im the last woman on earth so guys u keep the leg work.
zengirl Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I knew I shouldnt had done it lol. Seriously tho, I messed up in talking to 2 guys yesterday & couldnt get rid of them. The 1st was at starbucks yesterday when my 2 friends said this guy was watching me & how cute he was. I thought he looked ok but didnt think he was my type but my friend thought so. Anywayssss lol, he was on the other line I guess waiting for his order w/e, & I came over to see if my order came so I asked him if he saw my drink. He laughs & says no but then he wont stfu! He starts asking me my name, where Im from, yada yada, if I got a bf bla bla bla, he wants my number yada yada. You minded that he started talking to you? I mean, if he was flirting and you weren't into it, you could not encourage that, but yes. . . don't initiate conversations with people you don't want to talk to. How did he know how many sentences were appropriate? I said I had a bf & got the **** outta there lol. My friends thought it was funny but I hated it uggggh! Do you have a BF? If not. . . Why didn't you just say, "Oh, thanks for asking," but decline to give him the number? It's not that hard. YOU went up to HIM, so yes, don't do that if you aren't into at least a conversation (I'm not saying you have to be romantically interested into every guy you talk to, but he doesn't sound like he said anything wildly inappropriate). Then at this party late last night I said hey, thats my drink because this cute guy took the wrong martini glass. We chatted for like 3 minutes then he tells me how special I am & how great a girl I am & how he wants to treat me right yada yada. Im like Omg whats your problem! U dont even know me! Well, true, those guys are idiots. The "treat you right" crowd really won't actually treat you right, they'll just talk about it, but again, what's the harm in a conversation? Sounds to me like what you need is to learn to assert yourself and admit to men when you aren't interested in anything but a chat or whatever you said. At any rate, I wouldn't call this "approaching" anyone, as you weren't interested in these guys anyway, and the 2nd one, you were actually just trying to get your proper drink.
Easyguy14 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 You minded that he started talking to you? I mean, if he was flirting and you weren't into it, you could not encourage that, but yes. . . don't initiate conversations with people you don't want to talk to. How did he know how many sentences were appropriate? Do you have a BF? If not. . . Why didn't you just say, "Oh, thanks for asking," but decline to give him the number? It's not that hard. YOU went up to HIM, so yes, don't do that if you aren't into at least a conversation (I'm not saying you have to be romantically interested into every guy you talk to, but he doesn't sound like he said anything wildly inappropriate). Well, true, those guys are idiots. The "treat you right" crowd really won't actually treat you right, they'll just talk about it, but again, what's the harm in a conversation? Sounds to me like what you need is to learn to assert yourself and admit to men when you aren't interested in anything but a chat or whatever you said. At any rate, I wouldn't call this "approaching" anyone, as you weren't interested in these guys anyway, and the 2nd one, you were actually just trying to get your proper drink. ^^she offers good advice and probably a lot older than you sweetheartt. I think its good that you made some kind of move but you did the first one just because your friends thought "he" was your type but he wasn't. you should've told your friends Im not going there and left it at that. as for the guy at the party, you wanted something to start with since you were attracted to him, but he took it too far with you. I can easily discern this for the younger crowd, early to mid 20s. its clear you're not used to approaching men first. why dont u just sit and just put yourself within our area so that we can do the approaching since we've always been experts at this art.
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