Author Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Well I guess we are just different because face,height boobs, makes no difference to me. It is all equally rude, all very hurtful and something I would never dream of saying to a woman. I do not think OP is "bitch" because I don't think she was trying to be malicious and the guy was an idiot to ask the question without being prepared to handle the response. Having said that, IMO the OP lacked a little compassion by saying his height was the reason. Just say "we don't have chemistry" and leave it that. And again... lol. I didn't just randomly blurt out a reason why I wouldn't date him. He had just pointed out that his moms new bf is 4 inches shorter than her... So then asked (implying a height difference) if I would date him. I did not say "no you're short." I said no because it feels weird to me. There is an actual difference. I WOULD be a bitch to just tell him he is too short to date. If he had out of the blue asked if i would ever date him, I would have said no because there is no chemistry on my end and he is my friend.
Cypress25 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Is there anything a short guy can do to make her feel small and dominated? Just because I'm short doesn't mean I can't pick a girl up and carry her around like she's a doll. I don't think most women want to feel dominated (maybe some do, but that word generally has a negative connotation), they just don't want to be bigger than their man. I prefer men who are taller than me, but I wouldn't want a man who towers over me. And I sure as hell don't want to feel dominated. I'm insecure about my height as it is, the last thing I want is a tall man who makes me feel like a midget in comparison. Maybe this is just me, since I've always been short and I've spent a good portion of my life having friends pick me up, but I hate being picked up. HATE IT. One of my guy friends recently picked me up and started to carry me across the room because he thought it was funny, and I went so ballistic on him that he's actually afraid of me now. I am not a doll and I do not want to be treated like one. His reply: "Um well to be honest, I dont know what too think right now. I always though you were one of the sweetest most caring, beautiful people. And not wanting to date a men who is shorter than you just makes you a bitch. I though you were better then that. I don't know if I can be a friend to some one who is that arrogant." I didn't reply... because he made me a little irritated. You should be irritated. He's not a true friend, let him sulk by himself. And name-calling is never OK. He's acting like your little brother or something. He can say that what you said hurt his feelings, but he can't say that it makes you a bitch. Because it doesn't. Your personality is still the same. You're still the sweet, caring person he always thought you were. You can be a sweet, caring person who is not attracted to shorter guys. That doesn't make you a bitch. I mean, if you had said you're not attracted to taller guys, would he have called you a bitch? Probably not. Basically, he's saying you're a bitch because you're not attracted to him. For the record, there are many attractive short male celebrities: Tom Cruise (5'7"), Michael J. Fox (5'5"), Daniel Radcliffe (5'6"), Robert Downy Jr. (5'8"). There are more. It's not hopeless for the short guys. They just need to stop blaming women for their insecurity.
somedude81 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I don't think most women want to feel dominated (maybe some do, but that word generally has a negative connotation), they just don't want to be bigger than their man. I prefer men who are taller than me, but I wouldn't want a man who towers over me. And I sure as hell don't want to feel dominated. I'm insecure about my height as it is, the last thing I want is a tall man who makes me feel like a midget in comparison. Maybe this is just me, since I've always been short and I've spent a good portion of my life having friends pick me up, but I hate being picked up. HATE IT. One of my guy friends recently picked me up and started to carry me across the room because he thought it was funny, and I went so ballistic on him that he's actually afraid of me now. I am not a doll and I do not want to be treated like one. That's what I don't get. How can a man who is shorter than you make you feel bigger than him if he weights more than you and is many times stronger? That's another thing; I've seen couples where the guy is normal sized and the girl is obese. While she may be several inches shorter, she might be 30 pounds heavier. Essentially she is bigger than the guy. But that doesn't stop her.
unuh Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Tasha49 - I'm 5'1" and people feel the need to make rude remarks about my height and then tell me not to get offended because they were trying to be funny. No matter what, it's rude. If I date a guy shorter than me I could only begin to imagine the sort of horrible jokes that people would make. Now, it's difficult to meet men who are shorter than me. But like you I do find myself attracted to taller men. Your friend was mean to you. You apologized. Let him cool off and if he can agree to just move on and you can too I say resume your friendship. But you're not a terrible person.
Cypress25 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 How can a man who is shorter than you make you feel bigger than him if he weights more than you and is many times stronger? He still looks smaller than her because height is the most obvious difference when two people are standing side by side. Like Tasha said, it makes her feel weird when she has to look down at a guy. It's not his fault, that's just the effect it has on her.
Negative Nancy Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Have not had a chance to read all post, so if I repeat something that was said sorry. I am pretty tall and prefer a taller guy myself. I do not see anything wrong with it having preferences. I know guys that will only date blonde blued women, know guys that will only date petite skinny girls. So if a guy can be picky about who he would and wouldn't date why are we called b*tches or other names if we express our prference? Kinda goes back to the difference stereotyping between male and female i.e male that sleep around or dates multiple girls as a player or "the man", but a female doing the same thing called a skank or ho. this is a very good post and hits the nail on the head.
Author Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 You should be irritated. He's not a true friend, let him sulk by himself. And name-calling is never OK. He's acting like your little brother or something. He can say that what you said hurt his feelings, but he can't say that it makes you a bitch. Because it doesn't. Your personality is still the same. You're still the sweet, caring person he always thought you were. You can be a sweet, caring person who is not attracted to shorter guys. That doesn't make you a bitch. I mean, if you had said you're not attracted to taller guys, would he have called you a bitch? Probably not. Basically, he's saying you're a bitch because you're not attracted to him. For the record, there are many attractive short male celebrities: Tom Cruise (5'7"), Michael J. Fox (5'5"), Daniel Radcliffe (5'6"), Robert Downy Jr. (5'8"). There are more. It's not hopeless for the short guys. They just need to stop blaming women for their insecurity. Thank you! I mean I am not a perfect person but as you have said my personality never changed. I just told him my preference. And I think he IS only hurt because of the fact that he likes me. If I had a friend who told me they don't date people named Tasha... more power to them lol. I would not react like that. Also I will date a guy even 5'7. He doesn't have to be tall. Just not shorter to where I am looking down into his eyes. I feel so odd lol. I went on a date a few years back where they guy was shorter and after that first experience it has just felt weird and now a preference for the guy to be taller. Oh and Tom Cruise is icky lol
Negative Nancy Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I seriously can't help feeling out of place by having to look down to a guy. It makes me feel like the guy and he the girl. that, and it also makes me feel like i'm looking after a son or a younger brother..the man being smaller totally upsets the natural balance of the male-female-relationship. i don't know, that's how it would feel to me, it would give off a mother-son or sister-brother vibe...the guy doesn't have to be significantly taller, like, i don't demand 6 foot and taller, but he can't be smaller than me. and somedude thx for the clarification and sorry for the harsh words, i just found it hypocritical that you get upset by female height preferences when you have your own dating standards too.
aaaaaiiiiieeeee Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Everyone has preferences. I don't date single moms, fat women (120+), or women with short hair.
Dust Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Everyone has preferences. I don't date single moms, fat women (120+), or women with short hair. Dude 120+ lbs isn’t fat unless the women is like 3 foot tall. Like an in shape 5’7 girl could easily be 130+ and still have perfect hour glass figure. (especially if she’s in her early 20’s)
Dust Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Thank you! I mean I am not a perfect person but as you have said my personality never changed. I just told him my preference. And I think he IS only hurt because of the fact that he likes me. If I had a friend who told me they don't date people named Tasha... more power to them lol. I would not react like that. Also I will date a guy even 5'7. He doesn't have to be tall. Just not shorter to where I am looking down into his eyes. I feel so odd lol. I went on a date a few years back where they guy was shorter and after that first experience it has just felt weird and now a preference for the guy to be taller. Oh and Tom Cruise is icky lol Tasha this is going to be ridiculous but bare with me. What if a confident smooth little guy 5’2 came onto you and you found him sexy, would you date him? Like this guy is really cool and tough. Some guy started giving you trouble and your little 5’2 man gave him the look and he ran off. The kind of guy who can handle business. He’s little but strong he could pick you up and stuff like that easy. Really good eyes makes you hot when he looks at you. What would you do then?
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Dude 120+ lbs isn’t fat unless the women is like 3 foot tall. Like an in shape 5’7 girl could easily be 130+ and still have perfect hour glass figure. (especially if she’s in her early 20’s) wow alright I am 121lbs as of this morning so I guess I am out!!! I could see single mom but that weight??? random number and unless you are dating a dancer like my friend who is 98lbs dripping wet good luck!!
patagonia Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Just to make things clear, I am not joking. I am a 5'6 and I have had extreme trouble with women. No woman has ever told me that she rejected me because I'm not tall. But if a girl ever even hints it to me, I will give her an ear-full. It is completely unfair being an otherwise completely normal dude but because of God deciding to make me short, causes me to be unattractive to women. A short guy is often compared to a fat girl because both are considered unattractive to the opposite gender. The key difference is that there isn't a damn thing outside of painful and expensive surgery that a guy can do to get taller. I'm sorry but I just can't agree. Like I've said in other posts, I'm 5'6 and the tallest woman I have dated was 6ft. She was 6ft 2 with boots on. And yes, she approached me. And yes, I decided to end the dating relationship. She was super duper attractive and a very nice woman. To the original poster, yes you might be missing out on a good guy but that is ok Every person has something good to offer and you will find em.
patagonia Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Everyone has preferences. I don't date single moms, fat women (120+), or women with short hair. And I'm assuming you don't know many women??
Yamaha Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I think the problem is you made him feel inferior because he's a short male. You have developed a friendship relationship with each other and formed opinions based on that knowledge. His opinion of you ( I think ) has changed now based on your response. He might have to decide if he can look at you as a friend and be a friend in return now that he knows how you view short men. There are some things that shouldn't be talked about b/c the answer might permanently change a friendship or relationship. That being said, he shouldn't have called you a bitch and your response doesn't make you one.
somedude81 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I'm sorry but I just can't agree. Like I've said in other posts, I'm 5'6 and the tallest woman I have dated was 6ft. She was 6ft 2 with boots on. And yes, she approached me. And yes, I decided to end the dating relationship. She was super duper attractive and a very nice woman. To the original poster, yes you might be missing out on a good guy but that is ok Every person has something good to offer and you will find em. What do you disagree with? As for how you deal with women, do you consider yourself to be smooth?
counterman Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I have a friend who is 6'1 and he's dating a girl that's around 5'6. Every time she says she misses him, she'll add him the word tall. So, for example, "I miss your tall body". Personally, I would feel like a douchebag if I thought I was self-entitled because I'm tall. Secondly, I would never date a girl just because she was attracted to me due to being tall. I am a person and I do whatever I can to improve myself as a person. My height is just a tiny fraction of the person I am and most of the time, in every situation I can think of, it has nothing to do with anything. I have a friend who is 5'3 dating a girl that's 5'6 and some of my friends kept making fun of him. Some friends they are. Those two are happy with each other and never let what anyone else said affect them. On a similar note, Jamie Cullum, who is around 5'6, is married to Sophie Dahl, who is around 5'11. She doesn't give a crap if he's shorter or whatever. That's the type of girl I want.
patagonia Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 What do you disagree with? As for how you deal with women, do you consider yourself to be smooth? I don't think it's "completely unfair" being an otherwise normal guy and we aren't 'unattractive' to women. It's the attitude you have behind it that makes you unattractive. I have never been compared to a fat girl. Why would I want to be taller? Why focus on something I can't change and that people outside of High School don't care about? And as far as being 'smooth' with women??? I was married for the last 3 years. That takes some 'smooth' out in my opinion. I am myself. I am nice, I make them laugh and smile. I'm a gentleman. When you do that, most everything else goes out the window. At least that's my experience. I'd rather not think of myself as smooth.
Author Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Everyone has preferences. I don't date single moms, fat women (120+), or women with short hair. Wtf! I am 130 and a skinny little thing. My boobs probably add a lot of weight into that lol but come on! That is ridiculous to refer to women as fat who weigh over 120lbs.
Author Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Tasha this is going to be ridiculous but bare with me. What if a confident smooth little guy 5’2 came onto you and you found him sexy, would you date him? Like this guy is really cool and tough. Some guy started giving you trouble and your little 5’2 man gave him the look and he ran off. The kind of guy who can handle business. He’s little but strong he could pick you up and stuff like that easy. Really good eyes makes you hot when he looks at you. What would you do then? I don't know. 5'2 is a stretch lol. I mean I am trying to make myself as less shallow as possible but I don't think I could see myself with a 5'2" guy. I would feel very large compared to him. Like I was his babysitter or something. That sounds terrible but I just don't see myself dating someone that shorter than me. And if he was tough that would turn me off too as I do not like the bad boy types but the soft and gentle ones lol. Besides... our kids would be like 5" when they mature
Dust Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Wtf! I am 130 and a skinny little thing. My boobs probably add a lot of weight into that lol but come on! That is ridiculous to refer to women as fat who weigh over 120lbs. To bad you live in Washington you and somedude would have made a great couple. He loves nice boobs. (I read most of his posts don't ask)
patagonia Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Wtf! I am 130 and a skinny little thing. My boobs probably add a lot of weight into that lol but come on! That is ridiculous to refer to women as fat who weigh over 120lbs. That's ok Tasha. You aren't too big for me
Dust Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I don't know. 5'2 is a stretch lol. I mean I am trying to make myself as less shallow as possible but I don't think I could see myself with a 5'2" guy. I would feel very large compared to him. Like I was his babysitter or something. That sounds terrible but I just don't see myself dating someone that shorter than me. And if he was tough that would turn me off too as I do not like the bad boy types but the soft and gentle ones lol. Besides... our kids would be like 5" when they mature Oh geez now you’re thinking of the kids. Look I hear you. I mean I don’t really like short girls for the same reason. Obviously I’m not looking for a girl taller then me but I would be turned off by a 5’2 girl not that I would absolutely not date her. I prefer women in the 5’7-5’9 range. I’m tall and I know its an advantage. I have a short friend though 5’2 lives at home, has a job but nothing special. He gets girls so I know its possible. In my head I think I could over come being short. All I know is I’ve seen other people over come it. I have my own problems girls would hate. Like my hands are really small and girlish. I sweat a lot. My breath smells bad at times. I look kind of nerdy some times. Yet I feel I do good with women. Oh and just to drive the point home you are not a bitch! I think you’re cool!
Author Tasha49 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 To bad you live in Washington you and somedude would have made a great couple. He loves nice boobs. (I read most of his posts don't ask) Hahaha. Big boobs arent always the best! I mean they are fine now but when I get old my knees may feel them more than my chest does.
Dust Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Hahaha. Big boobs arent always the best! I mean they are fine now but when I get old my knees may feel them more than my chest does. That will give short guys better reach! Well as long as they have nice shape now somedude could have enjoyed. He’s a man who lives in the now. You see how passionate he is about things. Also if you two made it work until you were old and your boobs were bouncing off your knees as you walked he’d pay for breast reduction/lift so you wouldn’t have to worry about bruised knees/boobs. No somedude loves boobs. He’s the kind of man who would drink breast milk from the woman who births his children.
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