tigressA Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Asking him just sped up the process since he already had plans to get my number and didn't get a chance to since as soon as he got me out, I drove away, afraid to stop just in case I got stuck again on the side street. As he fessed up later, he'd seen me before at my friends' home so he knew how to find me, now that we'd met. Your story is my absolute favorite, TBF. I still bring up that thread to read through every now and then. It could be written as a modern fairytale.
threebyfate Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Your story is my absolute favorite, TBF. I still bring up that thread to read through every now and then. It could be written as a modern fairytale. See, it pays to be retarded enough to wear stiletto-heeled boots in the snow! He's such an awesome man. Can't believe how lucky I was and am!
jerbear Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 See, it pays to be retarded enough to wear stiletto-heeled boots in the snow! He's such an awesome man. Can't believe how lucky I was and am! She said it! :lmao: It was great that you two met that way, just amazing.
Author zengirl Posted August 13, 2011 Author Posted August 13, 2011 Only lasted 2 months, we don't talk anymore ... but it was a nice story still. Glad you can still appreciate the experience even though it ended. I swear, "meet cute" has got to be the most annoying phrase ever turned... Can't we please call it something less girly? Well, I'm open to suggestions.
torn_curtain Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 We met in a common interest forum. I had noticed him -- he had a really cute photo and I really enjoyed his posts. I thought several times of "adding" him but didn't want to be that forward. Then one day he wrote on my wall that he really enjoyed my posts. I wrote something friendly back. Then he private messaged me yada yada...
Art_Critic Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Only lasted 2 months, we don't talk anymore ... but it was a nice story still. A fish tale..
Author zengirl Posted August 13, 2011 Author Posted August 13, 2011 We met in a common interest forum. I had noticed him -- he had a really cute photo and I really enjoyed his posts. I thought several times of "adding" him but didn't want to be that forward. Then one day he wrote on my wall that he really enjoyed my posts. I wrote something friendly back. Then he private messaged me yada yada... He's coming to your area soon, right? When?
Arasae Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I suppose I'll tackle this from earliest to latest--while I've gone on a few dates here or there with tons of men, these were the only ones that were true relationships in every sense of the word: 1st Relationship: Met in a chatroom. Had a LDR for... two and a half years. 2nd Relationship: Met at a New Year's party through my brother. Two and a half years. 3rd Relationship: Met on OkC. I messaged him. He talked the talk, but didn't walk the walk; that ended after five months. Current Relationship: Met in high school; I switched schools, lost contact.. then we friended each other on facebook, started chatting, and the rest is history. Fourteen months. =) I keep hearing how college is supposedly a great place to date people. But after a couple of years there... Yeah.. I don't get it either. Then again, my college is more of a commuter school (although some people live on campus), so it doesn't have the same sense of community, I suppose. My experience has been that many of the guys who have asked me out that I met in college were completely and totally incompatible; one was a gun-totin' dem-hatin' rich boy (and yet, for some reason, he liked me, miss liberal), one was a party boy with no substance in his brain aside from alcohol, one told me that he'd only read two books in his life (one of which was "The Missing Piece Meets the Big O" which I read to him in my living room), and the last one was morbidly depressed and tried to commit suicide multiple times.. o.O;; I don't know if that's the norm, but I've NEVER found college to be a place to meet compatible men.
torn_curtain Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 He's coming to your area soon, right? When? October. He has to get surgery first...
eerie_reverie Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 We work for the same company and play ultimate frisbee together.
Author zengirl Posted August 13, 2011 Author Posted August 13, 2011 Current Relationship: Met in high school; I switched schools, lost contact.. then we friended each other on facebook, started chatting, and the rest is history. Fourteen months. =) That's cute! We've had a couple lost connection/reconnects on here. I find those adorable. I've had a few of those, but they never worked out. But I know some people who are married who have those cute stories. We work for the same company and play ultimate frisbee together. A good version of the old classic. October. He has to get surgery first... That's not very far away. Good luck with it.
counterman Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 My ex-girlfriend's cousin and I were friends back in primary school. I saw my ex-girlfriend every now and then but we never spoke back then. Then, my ex-girlfriend ended up going to the same high school as me but again we didn't speak up until our senior years. It's funny how we could have known each other for years, from the age of 10 and it took until the age of about 17 to just start talking and really click. I met other dates in university tutorial classes, lectures, bookstore, random walk-way, etc.
Chocolat Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I can only think of one relationship that started with a cute meeting and it was back in college. I worked at a test prep place and had to go to the local copy shop (can't remember the name any more) a couple of times a week. There was a cute guy at the counter that would flirt with me but nothing ever came of it. One day, I mustered all my courage and called the place to ask him to lunch. I'd never asked a guy out before (or since!) and I was nervous. Plus, awkwardly, I realised after the phone was answered that I did not know his name! So first I had to describe him to get him on the phone and then I had to describe me to get him to know who I was. Ugggh. We had lunch and got along well, but it turned out that he was an exchange student in Boston just for the semester. He was returning to San Francisco the next week. I was disappointed but didn't think much of it. Then, a few weeks later, a thick envelope came in the mail. He'd sent me a ticket to visit him in California. (This was back when you could actually buy a paper ticket and send it to someone else.). I went and we had a blast. We never did the LDR thing, but we did see each other a few times over the next several years. It was great fun!
thatone Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 our fathers went to college together ~40 years ago and have been friends since. she was engaged when i last lived in the city she lives in but the fiance was killed in the military, she had been single for a few years afterward. my dad and her mother set us up. i think she has further reinforced my opinion that there are no normal, sane, unmarried women older than 30, unless they wind up single via extraordinary circumstances. she is the only one i've met in years.
sm1tten Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 The story of the college boyfriends goes like this. Undergrad: We met when he was a prospective at my school. I was a sophomore, he was an incoming freshman. I was part of the recruitment/prospective weekend group so one of the other guys introduced us in passing and sparks kinda flew... he kept coming by me during the events and finally, I had my friend ask him how old he was to make sure he was legal, haha. Once that was established I made it pretty clear that I was interested in getting to know him. The weekend ended with us making out on a couch near my dorm (no sex). We exchanged contact info. He came to visit me a few months later and yes, he did come to my school where we dated for about two years. The other college boyfriend I met while I was still with this one. I had graduated from the undergrad and I had chosen this grad school because it was where my boyfriend was going to finish his BA. Well, we lived with his family for a summer and all the issues that were present in the relationship were exacerbated, so we were pretty much on the verge of a breakup when I moved down to the school (he was staying out for a semester to work). I met this guy on the first day of classes - he came up to me while I was reading a book and started talking to me. I could barely understand him as he had a thick accent (he was South American), and I was a little annoyed, but I thought he was just clueless. Every class for several weeks he would come early and sit and talk to me, eventually I stopped trying to read for the class. He was a good listener, and he was cute, but he respected the fact that I had a boyfriend and never crossed any lines. But, in the meantime, college BF and I were breaking up. To console me, the new guy invited me to a house party. During the party we sat in his room drinking and talking. His roommate kept trying to hit on me but to no avail - I wasn't interested in anyone but the new guy, who -- I wasn't exactly seeing him in a new light, as I had been attracted to him before but wasn't available -- but I found myself wondering if this was something I should pursue. At some point one of us kissed the other (the new guy, not the roommate) and from that point on, we were together. We dated for three years until I moved to Chicago. I don't think either of these stories are particularly typical for the college experience though. Most of my friends who dated in college met at a party or a group function or through other friends.
grkBoy Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I met my now fiance when I just took a risk. I had gone through years of rejections and flaky chicks who played games. I was fed up with dating and everything, but rather than feel depressed, I broke myself free of the pressures of "finding someone". I've spoken of this many times. I planned my life as if I never find anyone, and made it a fulfilling life. I worked, focused on my career, hobbies, etc. I was happy again in life. One day, a girlfriend of a friend of mine pushed me to come out for coffee on a Friday night and meet her single coworker. I took a chance and went. She was pretty and charming. However, from the moment I left my work to meet up with them, I vowed I would not get all emotional early on. I'd keep my guard up, be friendly, but also be ready for when this girl flakes out on me the way the rest did. After the night coffee, we talked a bit over MySpace, and then decided to go to dinner at a place she liked. Date went well. Second date we went to a cafe I love, and she kissed me goodnight when we said goodbye. I didn't really get deep into this again because I felt like anytime I did the girl ends up showing her red flags and running. She had a birthday party for herself a few weeks after we met, but I didn't attend. I wasn't being rude, but I had made plans before she told me of it. I kept my normal plans because I wasn't going to set myself up like I would in the past. I wouldn't just run to the woman every chance she gave. No game...just being balanced and guarded. Two weeks later it was my birthday. She ended up making it a special night for me when I didn't make any plans at all. She bought me sushi from a local spot, and a piece of German Chocolate cake from another. She even bought me a gift. That was the point I saw this one was different. She wasn't going to suddenly bring up the horrible ex or past trauma, and then question if we should see one another. She wanted me and was a genuine good girl who isn't a psychological wreck or a spoiled brat. From there it's been magic...even to the point that I proposed to her a week ago. I can be a nice guy to her, and she appreciates it, rather than see me as "weak" or the other BS many women do.
Ms. Joolie Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 In 2005, I took a job in the Houston area. I spent a year adjusting to my new life, new job, taking classes and even tried a bit of acting. In June 2006, I found an active Houston singles group online. They would plan various outings and it was a great way for me to see more of Houston and meet people. In July 2006, I went to my first meet-up at a tavern. This was after a casual exchange with T via email (you could message members online through the website), in which I knew T was going to be there, and he knew I was going. I still remember the moment of first locking eyes with him. He was so sweet, he kept me company most of the night. We had our first date 3 days later. So I guess you can say we met online. Or you can say we met in a bar.
Els Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 (edited) I'm curious in hearing how the ones in college started. I keep hearing how college is supposedly a great place to date people. But after a couple of years there... Well, I'll list my college ones for you then. Met the ex in college. We were in separate classes but shared a hobby and spent a great deal of time together in a group. He did ask me out rather quickly (by my standards), about a week after we first met, and I'm usually wary of that, but well, I figured college was a good time to have fun, so I just agreed despite not really knowing him well enough to know if I really wanted a relationship with him yet. We casually dated for about a month, and I decided to say yes. I don't regret it - it was fun before he had to move and the distance began. Current bf, I also knew from college, but we were just friends back then and I was with ex. Fast forward a year, he'd moved, I'd broken up, we started talking online, and after about 3 months of constant contact and intimate conversations he admits to having liked me for a really long time. I'd pretty much also fallen for him by then, we then start our ('casual') LDR. He comes back to my country for a month's visit, we officially get together then (or at least that's when I think it got official). ...I just realized that my college life had a whole lot of LDR in it. Geesh. Edited August 13, 2011 by Elswyth
Cee Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I met my first boyfriend at 17 on a cruise with my grandparents. My parents didn't go because my Dad was recovering from cancer surgery. I saw him as soon as I boarded and had a crush. That first night. I saw him in a lounge and chatted. The week together was amazing, but he was older so I lied to my family about his age. He was 25 and a med student. I dated him LDR for a year. He visited every other weekend, but he never pressed for sex. He really helped me deal with my Dad's cancer and was straight with me he might die. Everyone else lied and said he was fine. I owe a debt of gratitude to him and I almost called him when my Dad died, but I stayed NC. Maybe this is why I believe people come into your life for a reason.
Highness Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I'm a bit of a party animal and was on a bender with some girlfriends. As usual I was the last woman standing and on my way home I decided to pop into my local dive bar for one last drink. I was standing at the bar and was about to order when this d*ckhead pushed in front of me and ordered his drinks. A guy standing next to him said "Excuse me, I think this young woman was first" and directed the bar tender towards me. He then smiled at me with the most beautiful dimples in the world. I immediately felt flushed and quickly looked away and ordered my drink and then found a seat near the bar. I played with my phone but could feel him glancing in my direction. Eventually I looked up and we caught each other's eyes and he came over and we started chatting. I invited him back to my place, we drank some more, I slept with him and thought it was one of the best flings I ever had! I didnt expect to hear from him again (and wasnt looking for a r'ship) but he was persistent and eventually we met again... and again, and again, and again! We've now been together for a year and I know that he is The One. I'm lucky he saw through the drunken slutty exterior. I was having fun being wild all those years but now with him I am happier than ever before.
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