BarrTex01 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 (edited) My gf (of 2 months) and I have been fighting alot. We both talk it out and we dont want to fight, its every day though. Today when I stoped her when she said she had to go she yelled at me. I said never mind. Well every time I ask her if she wants to break up she gets mad and says nooo!! She says she wants it to work and hates fighting with me and admits it when shes wrong. She and her good friends think I treat her like gold. Thats not an issue. She says shes under alot of stress with family with fighting I feel im adding to it and not helping but she wont let go of me. Every time we fight I think its over but she calls back in an hour and says sorry baby had to breath. I told her to go out (girls night tonight) have a great time and dont worry bout me. I think im being respectful she thinks I want to break up. I try to be happy and energetic so she feeds off it but she just gets hateful and name calls I say please dont do that to me sweety then she feels like crap. She said she didnt hear me say wait I said yes you did but I dont wanna fight at all. Is this ever going to work? I tell her to smile it means the world to me she just says I cant right now babe. If im pulling her down in anyway why doesnt she let me go? Edited August 13, 2011 by BarrTex01
Nohbody Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Sometimes the relationship dynamic between two people can sour. I don't know what else to say other than you may want to try some form of couples counseling, especially if you see yourself settling down with this person permanently.
thelovingkind Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 At two months this is a huge red flag! Whether or not she's sorry afterwards is irrelevant; emotionally demented and abusive people of all stripes and colours can feel regretful after the fact. The point is that she simply has no ability to resolve conflict or manage stress in her day-to-day life. You cannot be in a successful relationship if your only recourse is to lash out at your partner.
Downtown Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 BarrTex, in the five other threads you started, you never once said "thanks" to any of the respondents. Indeed, in three of those threads, you never responded at all. Although you did respond in two threads, you merely continued your story, never saying anything in response to the many suggestions given you. Until you learn how to treat other members respectfully, this thread is going to sink to the bottom just like the other five. Meanwhile, you are caught in another pull-you-in and push-you-away cycle with another emotionally unstable woman who flips -- in 10 seconds -- from adoring you to devaluing and abusing you. And five hours later, she can flip right back again in 10 seconds. Just like the GF you loved back in September -- this new GF fell "in love" and "out of love" with you just two months. Indeed, last year's GF was so unstable she wanted to marry you within two months. I mention this because there are many members on this forum -- like LovingKind -- who have the experience to really help you break this cycle of toxic relationships. They won't help you, however, as long as you continue being so disrespectful to the members taking time out of their lives to try to help you.
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