CatNtheHat Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Ok so I'm currently waiting for a friend-coworker that I was meeting out for drinks. I got there at the time we agreed on and I waited a few minutes but couldn't find her. So I called her and come to find out she hasn't even left her house yet and she lives almost 45 minutes away. If there's one thing I can't stand its when people are late and don't call or text to warn me. Because now I'm just sitting here..I'm not comfortable going in a sports bar alone. So I'm waiting in my car for her. She told me she hadn't left yet cause she couldn't find anything to where. Wtf? I was like "oh". She goes "oh well I'm sorry" like it wasn't a big deal. Now this isn't exactly about dating. My bf wouldn't keep me waiting without a phone call. But this could have easily applied to a man or woman and a dating situation. How do you handle it? I mean I think its just plain rude to meet someone late and at least not call them to let them know.. This is a new friend, she just started where I work. So I don't really know her too well..
zengirl Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Well, 45 minutes late (or more!) without a call is not acceptable ever. And her reason is stupid. If that were a date, I'd call it off (and fellas, if a lady ever keeps you waiting somewhere for 45 minutes because she can't decide what to wear, for the love of God, please just give up on her!) for sure. I have some friends who are perpetually late, but it's more like 15 minutes. The occasional 20-25. And when I meet them places, I tend to pick places close to my house and text to see if the left first OR pick places I'm comfortable waiting alone. Just life. I'm occasionally late as well, but only 5-10 minutes unless it's a big group thing where nobody cares and there's no super-set time and/or without calling and explaining why (and there's generally something beyond my control). P.S. Going in a sports bar alone is way less scary than you think it is. Trust me. If I were going to stay to meet her, I'd just go in. But I wouldn't stay anyway.
sm1tten Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I personally abhor lateness. I'll excuse it if it's not habitual or there's a good reason, but your coworker is showing a lack of regard, really. I would have left, frankly. I know you don't want to burn a (work) bridge but that's really uncool.
LoveandSuch Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Lol. You are having a rash lately of inconsiderate behavoir in regards to friends and lovers.
Author CatNtheHat Posted August 13, 2011 Author Posted August 13, 2011 Lol. You are having a rash lately of inconsiderate behavoir in regards to friends and lovers. Tell me About it
thatone Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 my dad was habitually late when i was a kid, and i remember sitting around disappointed waiting on him to show up. as a result of that, i'm never late to a date. if i am there had to be a huge issue that kept me from making it on time and i always apologize regardless. i don't think i've ever been more than 15 or 20 minutes late to pick a girl up or meet a girl somewhere.
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