quietGuy13 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I'm depressed because no job, etc and then i'm injured. I want to find love and date but i'm sure girls can see the sadness in me. Some of you have said....First focus on gettng a job. Well that's a tough one cause there's no jobs i've been unemployed since May. And also right now i'm working throught therapy so i don't even have a plan yet of what i want to do. or what i'm gonna do. We're working on those things now But i feel like crap and useless so i don't even care if my face looks ugly or whatever.. i'm in pain everyday and i can't walk so how can i even be happy and look happy. Today i saw a nice girl in the bus stop and i just had this face full of pain
SushiX Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Sometimes the best opportunities come when you're down and out. Never forget that.
ptp Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 You always got to take care of yourself because you never know. You should still care if your face looks groomed. What if a girl saw you hurting and wanted to come over to ask you if you need help? You could charm your way to her phone #. Just stay positive.
zlatnapolja Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I'm depressed because no job, etc and then i'm injured. I want to find love and date but i'm sure girls can see the sadness in me. Some of you have said....First focus on gettng a job. Well that's a tough one cause there's no jobs i've been unemployed since May. And also right now i'm working throught therapy so i don't even have a plan yet of what i want to do. or what i'm gonna do. We're working on those things now But i feel like crap and useless so i don't even care if my face looks ugly or whatever.. i'm in pain everyday and i can't walk so how can i even be happy and look happy. Today i saw a nice girl in the bus stop and i just had this face full of pain Can I ask what kind of injury you have? And what the prognosis is, do the doctors think things will get better? I dont know how bad the pain is, but I'm familiar with pain... Sometimes people think I'm angry or upset, while I'm just in a lot of pain. My advice to you (since I dont know what it is that you have), rest... a lot! make sure that you have the right medication (not too much, not to little!) and figure out what helps for you. Before I can advice any more, please let me no what youre dealing with!
Author quietGuy13 Posted August 13, 2011 Author Posted August 13, 2011 Thanks guys. i should stay positive
Lil1 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 I'm depressed because no job, etc and then i'm injured. i'm in pain everyday and i can't walk so how can i even be happy and look happy. QuietGuy I'm sorry about your unemployment situation. It's extremely tough right now and all I can tell you is don't give up. Keep submitting your resume, keep applying to places and use your resources (library, friends, family, church, school, whatever). Also acknowledge that you are not alone in this. There are many people experiencing the same hurt and frustration at not finding a job right now. As far as your injury I think that it would be helpful if you focused on improving your health. I'm not sure what kind of injury you have that makes it painful for you to walk but are you anywhere near a swimming pool? water works wonders for the joints! Physical therapy may do you some good. You may be in a rut right now but it is only temporary. It's hard to be happy go lucky when you're mentally and physically stressed. Maybe thinking about dating and finding love right now is adding to your stress and it would help if you put it on the backburner for now and focus on your mental and physical well being first. I'm pretty awesome with resumes and cover letters so if you ever need any advice I'm here for ya! Send out at least 5 resumes a day if you can and be diligent about following up with them. Tailor each cover letter to the position you are applying for. It is a lot of work to find a job and it's going to take a lot of dedication on your part. I think once you get a job and your health improves everything else will start to fall into place. Take it easy on yourself quietguy, and remember you are not alone!
grkBoy Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Let's be brutally honest. Women aren't going to date some depressed guy with no job and his life a mess. Deal with the hard truth. What you're doing is the mistake I and many other have made. We are down on our lives and thus think a woman is going to make it all better. Trust me...it won't. Get a job. I know you said you have been out of work for months, but I don't care. When I was out of work and alone, love was far on my mind compared to a paycheck. Focus on that, and not just seeking, but looking to see what you're missing that employers want. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get on the path to finding work. If you need deeper help, then seek therapy. In terms of "feeling attractive", you can't do it when you're depressed, but you can do things to make yourself attractive as a means to fight depression. Get your hair done, get some new clothes, explore new fashion styles, etc. It will boost your self-esteem. You want to say "woe is me" because you're unemployed and alone. Imagine you were unemployed with a wife and kids. You have it easier right now than many unemployed. Enough of the pity party...either make real plans to fix your life and do them, or stop whining here. It's pathetic and tired.
Nexus One Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 If it's any solace to you QG, I too am injured at the moment and have to wait it out at home until it's fully healed. I have a running injury due to overuse of my knee. And I can tell you it sucks, it too has me down, because I really want to go out running. I'm doing certain exercises to fix my knee. I still have one week to go before I can start running again, but not being able to run the last weeks were like mental torture to me, so I know a bit how you feel. What's the nature of your injury? Perhaps once your leg doesn't hurt anymore the exercises I'm doing might be of some help to you too.
thehead Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Let's be brutally honest. Women aren't going to date some depressed guy with no job and his life a mess. Deal with the hard truth. What you're doing is the mistake I and many other have made. We are down on our lives and thus think a woman is going to make it all better. Trust me...it won't. Get a job. I know you said you have been out of work for months, but I don't care. When I was out of work and alone, love was far on my mind compared to a paycheck. Focus on that, and not just seeking, but looking to see what you're missing that employers want. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get on the path to finding work. If you need deeper help, then seek therapy. In terms of "feeling attractive", you can't do it when you're depressed, but you can do things to make yourself attractive as a means to fight depression. Get your hair done, get some new clothes, explore new fashion styles, etc. It will boost your self-esteem. You want to say "woe is me" because you're unemployed and alone. Imagine you were unemployed with a wife and kids. You have it easier right now than many unemployed. Enough of the pity party...either make real plans to fix your life and do them, or stop whining here. It's pathetic and tired. Easy Mr. Tough Love. Unlike some of the guys on here this dude's not sitting back doing nothing about his issues. He's in therapy, he's in speech therapy, he's looking for work, he tries to get advice about breaking away from parental control. So, save it for one of the true crybabies. Quietguy, you were given some advice in another thread about exercises for your limitations. Did you follow through on that?
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