Scarlett513 Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 I am in a friend's wedding as a bridesmaid (1 of 4). We lived together in college and for 2.5 years after college as roommates. When she got engaged, I had to move out quickly bc of their short engagement. Since the engagement, she has pretty much disappeared. Though to be fair she actually disappeared before that when she met her fiancé. So I only see or talk to her for wedding related things, and there have been a few incidents since I moved out that I feel were bitchy and/or selfish on her part, but I've tried to give her the benefit of the doubt as I know wedding planning can be very stressful. I am the only one of the bridesmaids who is single, the others are all married. Now I'm in my late 20s and still alone so admittedly I am a little sensitive about that. So I invited a mutual friend of mine and the bride, as well as two of the other bridesmaids, as my date. I find out before the rehearsal dinner that I was the only bridesmaid not allowed to bring a date! I'm stunned and hurt. I feel singled out and upset that she wasn't more considerate than that. I think I should have been given the same option as all the other girls, considering I've put in the same amount of work and money into this wedding as anyone else. Plus, did she really think I wanted to be the 7th wheel in a group of couples? She told t Another one of the bridesmaids that they only wanted to invite husbands and boyfriends. Really!? One more plate was going to kill you? They have spared no expense on any other part of this wedding. That particular bridesmaid is no longer bringing her husband to the dinner bc she is also angry with the bride for this. I'm livid and on the verge of giving up this sham of a friendship. Am I being too sensitive?
Savannah323 Posted August 13, 2011 Posted August 13, 2011 Hi, I think that you should had at least been given the opportunity to bring a date. Why in the world would you want to be the "7th wheel" in a group?!! That was not sensitive of the bride. This is horrible. If I were you, I would have a conversation with bride and state that I would like to bring a date. Indicate how you will feel if you don't have a date. If she doesn't budge, then you will have re-think this friendship.
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