Author Kk47 Posted August 12, 2011 Author Posted August 12, 2011 SHE is the nutjob? Right. You're just saying that because you both are nutjobs and you know you identyify with him. Truth hurts. He flirted with her friend, hacked her FB, hacked her email, invaded her privacy, and after a year of being broken up has the audacity to harass her AGAIN with a vicious email after all that happened before. 2 years has gone by and he's still obsessing over her. He's the nutjob, not her. How is she a nutjob? Because she went out with his friend after he flirted with hers? Whatever, I bet his friend is not a psycho and a cheater like he is. Here's a lesson to the OP. Treat your girlfriends better, and show some respect when they dump you after. Your character is decided by how you carry yourself during and after the breakup. You hacked her and sent her ****. Go to counseling and seek help. You're not a well man, and playing the victim looks terribly bad on you. After dealing with an emotionally unstable man such as yourself in my past, I have no tolerance or sympathy for their bs. Get right. That's why I'm on this site... to speed up the process of moving on from this mess because I want to be happy. i flirted with her friend a month after she got with my best friend. but the part you don't understand is my best friend was like a brother to me, I trusted him with everything we went to vegas/cali/moab etc... we were too close. Then me and my ex were very close too we didnt go 1 hour without texting each other at least. So when we broke up I lost my mind , but then when she called and said "give me my lingerie back I need it for Erik" I pretty much died right there. but then i really tried to kill myself but my parents and brothers took me to hospital. so yeah ive been through a lot with this girl. Thanks for your perspective.
wilsonx Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 Truth doesn't hurt... Because you do not know the truth. I'll admit the truth. Op has a caretaking personality. I have one. Mine is not as extreme as his is but after counseling that what I have learned about myself. Our type of personalities attract another type of personality. One that meshes with ours very well. That's not the point, the point is to fix this type of personality which takes a lot of time and effort to correct. I did not see any posts about hacking facebook or email but that is a bit extreme. If I went through this at his age, I probably would have done this. I just have a lot more life experience. I will say until you go through this type of dating relationship, you do not have a single word to stand on. You probably wont ever go through it and I would not wish this on my worst enemy. I have talked with a few people via PM's that have gone through this or know what its like to go through it and its a nightmare.
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 Hell, I would have taken scissors to that lingerie and sent them back to her in 40 different pieces. I mean really? And what did your best friend have to say about all of this.
wilsonx Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 I am SHOCKED out of my MIND, that after trying to kill another human being (your "best friend") and yourself, that you are not in a hospital somewhere. People go through all kinds of **** all the time. You can be heart broken, but there is a fine line between that, and completely losing your mind and becoming an insane monster. Murder is serious. Suicide is serious. Hacking people's accounts is also serious. Harassment after a year is, too. I hope that you take these posts in all seriousness, and instead of feeling sorry for your situation, you get help and fast. It's been two years. It happened a long time ago. They aren't in your present, they are in your past for a reason, you don't need them. They possibly aren't even thinking about you anymore. Use your intense emotions to make yourself better. You're not the only one whose been screwed over something serious on this site. I never let my bull**** excuse for a "man" ex make me insane or go so low to compromise my own dignity and integrity about myself. Turn something negative into something positive, and for all that is HOLY... PLEASE don't get into another relationship without fixing yourself first. You might kill her next. PLEASE. you are reading too far into this with too many emotions, there was nothing posted about murder.
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 I am SHOCKED out of my MIND, that after trying to kill another human being (your "best friend") and yourself, that you are not in a hospital somewhere. People go through all kinds of **** all the time. You can be heart broken, but there is a fine line between that, and completely losing your mind and becoming an insane monster. Murder is serious. Suicide is serious. Hacking people's accounts is also serious. Harassment after a year is, too. I hope that you take these posts in all seriousness, and instead of feeling sorry for your situation, you get help and fast. It's been two years. It happened a long time ago. They aren't in your present, they are in your past for a reason, you don't need them. They possibly aren't even thinking about you anymore. Use your intense emotions to make yourself better. You're not the only one whose been screwed over something serious on this site. I never let my bull**** excuse for a "man" ex make me insane or go so low to compromise my own dignity and integrity about myself. Turn something negative into something positive, and for all that is HOLY... PLEASE don't get into another relationship without fixing yourself first. You might kill her next. PLEASE. Okay, I'm lost, when did he try to kill his best friend? Look, I'm not bashing on the guy, because let's face it, a broken heart makes you do some really stupid stuff. At least he's trying to reach out and taking the steps to understand that he has problems and he doesn't know how to deal with them. Hence, if you read most peoples follow up posts has instructed him to seek out MORE professional help to which he stated that he's going to do just that. Did he handle things badly in the past? Yes. However, he's trying to get his life back on track and is looking for guidance. Does that make him a horrible person?
wilsonx Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 (edited) oops i missed it because i was so attracted to graceful's post i looked through like 3 times to figure out what you were talking about... ugh i thought you were just assuming time for me to exit thread i agree he does need help... my bad lovelyg ugh ugh ugh Edited August 12, 2011 by wilsonx
Author Kk47 Posted August 12, 2011 Author Posted August 12, 2011 I never tried to kill him, if i tried you think he would be alive? not a chance... I just said that I wanted to kill him at the time. no big deal.
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 When I was in my junior year at College for my undergrad, I worked so hard on the ice over the summer, but my hockey coach put me on the second line instead of the first. I want to kill the guy and dreamed that a bus would hit him. Does that make me a homicidal maniac? Obviously, he didn't kill his best friend because he married her. But, being betryed by the two people you cared about the most in life. I wouldn't blame him for have THOUGHTS of a slow and painful death for him. I think is a rather normal response for a completely abnormal situation.
wilsonx Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 I'll be honest with you, if your ex was like mine, I will give you the benefit of the doubt on this one. You NEED counseling. I got a new roommate when my ex moved out and my roommate told me that I needed counseling because he said I looked like I was going to commit suicide. I even posted here for advice on it. People suggested it and while I do not have insurance right now, I am paying cash out of pocket for it. Its one of the best investments I have ever made. When you are there be honest about everything including stuff you did in the relationship. That way you can fix the problems that you have. Don't lie or make stuff up, they dont care. You haven't lied here which is good. As far as your thoughts you havent acted on yet, I honestly thought about slashing the guys tires that my ex left me for. I think its human nature to think about revenge in order to cope, the difference is if you act upon it. I talk to someone daily on this forum that his ex left him for his best friend now his ex best friend. I have a real life friend whos ex left him for his best friend. It happens, but you should have moved on in 2 years by now. The problem is you havent and you are in the stage you are now. Your ex is a bitch asking for her underwear back. That proves to me her character when she said something like that. The protective order is something that these type of people do the squash their guilt and scorch you out of their life once and for all. There have been 2 other people on the forums that have posted about the same thing that I have read and I talked to one of them back and forth a few times. He was actually really good guy that has dealt with a similar situation and helping someone else out posting his story with someone like you. He was the final reason why I decided to get counseling for myself so I did not put myself in this type of situation again. Go back to counseling and get better
Chi townD Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 Whatever, I'm not going to argue with you about it. I'm not in here to argue with other irrelevant people about what I think. I never replied to what y'all said in response his posts, and argued about what you all "think". Really don't care. Not here for y'all. Think what you want. No, now there's nothing wrong with a little healthy debate. He didn't commit attempted murder because the Colorado State Sentencing Guidelines state that depending on the Class of felony he would be looking at anywhere between 4-48 years in prison with a manitory 5 years parole afterwards. This happened two years ago. Now, unless he's writing from a prison computer; it didn't happen. In my opinion, the OP came here and let it all out. Put his cards on the table and left himself vulnerable to people's opinion. If we can't give constructive options and guidance, then what are we here for?
wilsonx Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 my ex still sends me emails... do i put a protective order against her? The problem is, it doesn't really matter in the end what you or I think. We can post all day long and fight back and forth and OP still is going to do what hes going to do. You are going to do and believe what you are going to believe. I am going to believe what I am going to believe. The judge in the case believed what he was going to believe. Everyone has their beliefs. The only person that matters now is the OP. We have suggest advice for him, everyone has suggested the same advice to get counseling. Everyone wins including OP.
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