Overseer Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 Alright so, I'll start from the top... I met a girl in college while I was still with my last girlfriend, I was and still am friends with one of her best friends from college because I knew her best friend from when I did Karate.. I enjoyed talking to her in a friendly way because I was in love with my ex at the time, my ex did say something about us talking and apparently gave her evils... My ex and I broke up about 4-5 months ago. So anyway, I was looking through some pictures on Facebook about a month ago, maybe 3 weeks, and I stumbled across her picture amongst some of her friends, I think I was looking over some pictures of my friend from Karate who's also her friend and she was in a picture with her... So I added her and shortly after she accepted and wrote on my wall saying how we hadn't spoken in ages, we ended up talking on my wall for half an hour and then we realized it'd be much easier in chat... so, we ended up talking on Facebook for about 6 hours, it came to about 5 in the morning when we decided we should probably go because it was getting light out... I ended up getting her mobile number during this conversation at some point... I go swimming every week, part of what I do to keep in shape and normally I go by myself so, I thought I'd ask her if she wanted to come with me, to my surprise even she said yes. I told her when I'd be going and in the end she actually took me in her car instead because it's on the way there... We had a great time, afterwards we were hungry so we went up to a subway near my house and ate that. Since she was friends with my friend from karate I asked her why she never came down and did anything like that, she said she didn't really know why so I asked if she wanted to back to mine and said I'd show her some if she wanted. To my surprise again she said yes... I have a pretty big field type thing around where I live and there's a good flat bit at the top of a small hill, so I took her over there and she just sat down on the side of the hill. I sat down next to her and instead of doing any karate we ended up talking for about 2 hours... After this we were texting all the time and talking on Facebook when we were both on. We had been having a great time and in one of our conversations I jokingly said we should go on a midnight walk and that she should come round. We didn't that night but the next night she'd been with her friends and was taking them home and text me saying "so how about that midnight walk then..." I said sure, lets do it, not really knowing if she was serious, but sure enough she turned up outside about 15 minutes later, I scared the crap out of her... not on purpose, and we set off into the dark. We walked around some woods near my house and talked some more and then ended up back on that hillside just talking again... it was a really clear night and was pretty cold actually because of that, she said she was cold so I said she could huddle up and share heat if she wanted, once again to my surprise she did and she laid with her head pressed up against my chest and we laid watching shooting stars and satellites... we stayed out until about 4 in the morning and then it got way too cold so we went back to her car and warmed up. I have a necklace with a wing on it and some other little bits and she was sat facing the other way in her car she moved in a bit closer and started playing with it a bit so I moved in closer so she could do it easier, we both looked at each other and I just went in for a kiss. Scared the crap out of myself doing it, but I didn't show it thankfully... We carried on talking loads and we ended up going out into town with a few of my mates because they were over at the same time at a friends from around the country. We all got along really great and since I was going to be staying over at my mates after I asked if it'd be ok if she joined us. My friend actually let us stay in his parents room because they were on holiday, we talked for about 10 minutes and then I kissed her again, we ended up kissing for about 6 hours... we went to sleep at 7am and then woke up at 8am... I had to go back home to let someone in to do some work in my garden and she had to go to work. After that I didn't see her for a couple of days, then we went out together again in town with my friends because it was the last day that they were here... that night is when things started getting a bit odd... I took her to the taxi place, paid for it for her and made sure she went fine, gave her a hug and kissed and said goodbye. I text her the day after and I didn't hear anything from her, she eventually replied the day after that, we hadn't talked on facebook or anything either, so, I replied straight away as I normally do with everyone if I see I have a text. She started taking a long time to reply every time from then on, and still does... We organised to see each other this last Sunday but her grandparents came over so she said I'll come on Monday instead, which was fine, it's fair enough, I knew they were actually there and it wasn't some excuse, then about an hour before she was meant to come on Monday she said her friend had been hassling her about not seeing him for absolutely ages (this guy is not a worry either, they've known each other a LONG time so I trust her with him..) so once again, she said she'd have to see me on Tuesday instead. Which she actually did, we met up and got something to eat and then walked back down to my place and watched a movie, then just laid and talked for a bit. She ended up leaving sooner than I thought because a friend of hers picked her up, we'd been watching a scary film and she was jumpy as hell when we were watching it and started shaking and stuff so she said she didn't want to get a taxi. Since then she's been even more distant and not replied to a single text I've sent her, we've talked on Facebook since and then the other day she went offline randomly without saying bye after in the middle of us talking... so I sent her a message asking what was going on and saying that if she was too busy to commit to anything then we should just stay friends for now at least... she apologised and said she's got a lot going on at the moment and that she can't commit to anything, she said she really likes me and wants it to work and hates the fact that she can't see me as often as she'd like to, so I said well, lets just keep going as it is and see how it goes, just meet up once a week and catch up, I said I want to be able to talk to her more though and asked why she'd not been replying much, she said she'd just not been using her phone much and that her Facebook had been being a bit weird... In conclusion (if you've read this far you're probably thinking 'FINALLY!') Anyway, as far as I can tell at least, she does like me, whenever we're actually together things are awesome, she seems happy and is talkative she doesn't hesitate to get close to me or kiss me, we met up more times before too but this is a long enough essay as it is I guess... I just don't know whether I'm being played like a fool and she's just doing it to have some fun when she wants or whether she actually likes me and just can't do anything about it because she's too busy with work etc atm... I don't know what to do or how to think... I really like her and I've made sure I'm not coming on too strong by texting her all the time asking why she's not texting back and all that. I just need some more opinions on the situation and what I should do next...
Author Overseer Posted August 12, 2011 Author Posted August 12, 2011 No problem, you don't happen to have any sort of input on it though do you? Do you think I'm being played and she could be seeing someone else too or something? I don't how to handle this sort of thing, I've been out of 'the game' if you like for a long time after being in a fairly long relationship... things have changed in the way relationships work due to maturing and how things happen... I'm not really sure about things at the moment
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 This is pretty much dead in the water. She has lost interest for whatever reason. It's a really bad sign that she is not even responding to your texts. You could have said/done something that she views as a deal breaker, she could have met someone she likes more, she viewed you two as some casual fun and doesn't want anything serious.. The bottom line: she has lost interest and there is not much you can do about it.
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