loverboy1984 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 the title was supposed to read need advice guys. Hello guys. Today I got a text from my ex whose across the country saying she will come get her stuff. She broke up with me exactly 5 months ago and I havent seen her in 7 months. She dumped me suddenly and last I heard she was dating a guy. She asked if I or someone was home so she can get her stuff. How should my attitude be when she comes? I just found out that Im moving to her area for school. She doesnt know that and not sure if I should tell her. I want her to see me and see how good and happy I look but at the same time Im scared to see her. She put me through alot of pain. Ive been in NC with her but shes made some sort of contact such as a text at exactly the same day each month, which coincidentaly is the day of our break up. So should I leave her stuff out? be home? and how should my attitude be? I think she may come with her friend and if Im cold it may show her friend that Im a jerk, even though she doesnt know the whole story. I woke up today feeling great now my stomach feels twisted and I got butterflies.
GorillaTheater Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Rent a storage locker for a month, move all of her stuff to it, and mail her the key. Don't break NC. And who gives a rat's ass what her friend thinks?
lymtal1 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Agree 100%, from the perspective that nothing really good can come from the encounter. I hear ya that you want her to see the new you. But what is your purpose in wanting that. Do you think that she is going to have some kind of revelation? Have felt the same way and actually made it happen and nothing good came from it except re-starting my pain clock. In reality it just doesn't mater but I hear ya. Figure out some way that she can get her stuff but that is it. Leave it somewhere so she can pick it up. And don't read into her wanting to get it from you. Don't cause yourself any new pain if you don't have to. I know the thoughts that are going through your head. Forget them. And as to you moving to where she lives, read first line above. Hang tough and be strong that is my advice.
TheHurtProcess Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Rent a storage locker for a month, move all of her stuff to it, and mail her the key. Don't break NC. And who gives a rat's ass what her friend thinks? This isn't a bad idea if you ask me. I wish I would have though of this when my ex wanted her crap back.
Author loverboy1984 Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 She doesnt have that much stuff thats worth the hassle of renting a storage space. I think Im gonna just leave it by the door for her. It feels wierd to see her since its been so long. I think if I do see her Im just going to be myself and not talk to much. Just say here is your stuff and thats it.
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