Author jackmerridew Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 From what I've seen of this girl, I see a future with her. And she sees the same with me. She also said she's been falling for me too. I think her view of what a boyfriend girlfriend means is different from the rest of ours? I dunno. Anyway, I am being leery, and will do my own thing more often now.
Pierre Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Vietnamese women cannot afford to be fast, they are expected to be pakipot (hard to get) because it is seen as an appropriate behavior when they are courted. A Vietnamese girl never shows her admirer that she is also in love with him immediately. Playing hard to get is one way by which the Asian can measure the sincerity of the man interested in her. It also lets her show the man that he has to work hard to win her love. http://www.xuvn.com/vietnam%20society/vietnamese_dating_culture.htm Maybe she was playing hard to get as per her culture.
olivec Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 From what I've seen of this girl, I see a future with her. And she sees the same with me. She also said she's been falling for me too. I think her view of what a boyfriend girlfriend means is different from the rest of ours? I dunno. Anyway, I am being leery, and will do my own thing more often now. Your doing the right thing jack. and if she is the real deal then you'll know trust me. in the mean time just have fun and keep things light. that way if you see changes in her again you"ll be better prepared this time if you gotta move on from her. overall i'm glad how your handling things. keep it up buddy.
Author jackmerridew Posted August 17, 2011 Author Posted August 17, 2011 I agree, she might switch up at anytime just as you say and playing it cool in the sense of not giving her too much attention and getting busy in his own life would be a good thing. On the other hand, confronting her about what one wants isn't playing games, and its not a salvage situation either IF you are fully prepared to move on. I would do it if the drama continues and be prepared to move on. Yes. I placed her toiletries by the trash can to show her that I was ready to move on. it was a deliberate move on my part, in anticipation that IF she ever came back like she did, she could see that I wasn't going to bother keeping her residue around the house. She brought it up as late as yesterday saying "I can't believe you were going to throw away my stuff." Jokingly of course, but I know now that it's on the back of her mind.
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