anne1707 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I wasn't talking to you. My baby has never said that he doesn't respect his wife. But making comments about arranging "over her dead body" is disrespectful as is having an affair. By the way, how would you feel if he "vented" with you one day and said he could arrange your "dead body"?
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 This thread is moving too fast for me to reply to everyone! Dreamingoftigers, why do you assume that we are ripping her life apart? They have lived separate lives for a long time. Now she has the means to do whatever she wants.
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I'm sure she will be ok with it cause she will be really happy he has a new love to enjoy.
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Why are you guys so mean to all MM? All of you were either involved with one or M to one, so why be mean? No one's being mean to him....he is not on LS and has no clue what is being said. We can only judge him based on what you've said about him...so perhaps you've not done a great job at representing his amazing character. He doesn't sound like my cup of tea but if you're happy, then that's all that matters. I was involved with a taken guy and he did have good qualities but some effed up ones too and I won't shine him in any saintly light, and in the same way I can see some of his behavior wasn't kosher, I expect if I was relaying my story, others would see it too. What are your baby's bad qualities DL, things you don't really like about him, if you don't mind sharing. I think you don't truly love or know someone until you can name those things as well.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 But making comments about arranging "over her dead body" is disrespectful as is having an affair. By the way, how would you feel if he "vented" with you one day and said he could arrange your "dead body"?I would know that he was kidding and the make-up sex would be HOT
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 The makeup sex would be hot? Even though he, at that point if it was the same, will be having sex with someone else and wanting to divorce you? That sounds kind of unrealistic.
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 One of the things I've appreciated so much since I first started reading here was the honesty of everyone. Yes, some of the stuff is stupid, but a lot of it is just plain honest. I don't think they are being mean to your baby, I think they are being honest to you. Great post!
bentnotbroken Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I prefer to think that this is due to a bit of leftover respect for his marriage and wife. Naww. You gave him too much credit.
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 The makeup sex would be hot? Even though he, at that point if it was the same, will be having sex with someone else and wanting to divorce you? That sounds kind of unrealistic. I don't know why I found that incredibly funny to imagine
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 The makeup sex would be hot? Even though he, at that point if it was the same, will be having sex with someone else and wanting to divorce you? That sounds kind of unrealistic. That is not the question that was asked. Please stop twisting other ppl's words so you can try to belittle me. I am on OW just like you. No better, no worse.
bentnotbroken Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 That is not the question that was asked. Please stop twisting other ppl's words so you can try to belittle me. I am on OW just like you. No better, no worse. Who is trying to belittle you?
anne1707 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Who is trying to belittle you? There is no need for anyone to belittle the OP
GorillaTheater Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Who is trying to belittle you? Well, do uncharitable thoughts count?
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 Who is trying to belittle you? The other OW. I would expect more understanding from an OW. Maybe she's jealous that my baby will soon make me a W and fOW?
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I belittled myself getting invovled with my mm. And I'm going to pay for it for a long time. I'm not belittling you, I'm just asking you honestly how if that happened to you you would end up having great makeup sex. If it happened to me, I'd call the cops and sue him for extra:)
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 The other OW. I would expect more understanding from an OW. Maybe she's jealous that my baby will soon make me a W and fOW? No one is jealous daisy....really. People who constantly resort to thinking that others are jealous of them usually have a problem IME.
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 No, I'm honestly not jealous. I really hope in my life I never end up with someone that would do that. I know that sounds like crap coming from me an OW, but I hope I figure out some way to make up for this.
YeahDotDotDot Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 That is not the question that was asked. Please stop twisting other ppl's words so you can try to belittle me. I am on OW just like you. No better, no worse. This thread amazes me.
LilyBart Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Hey Daisy - *woot woot* on the DIVORCE! I got tired of reading all the "it's none of your business" responses so I didn't bother going thru all the pages. Your love is under a lot of stress so cut him a little slack, alright? Yeah, I know he's all crabby having to deal with the b*tch-on-wheels but it's just something you're gonna have to deal with. He'll figure it out (or his lawyer will) all in due time. Hopefully sooner rather than later. Just be his main support, his love bunny and if it helps, giggle to yourself about how that b*tch-on-wheels can go suck it! Don't let his moods dictate yours. Now is not the time to be all whine-y. In the meantime ENJOY HIM, LIFE and YOUR FUTURE!
ladydesigner Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Hey Daisy - *woot woot* on the DIVORCE! I got tired of reading all the "it's none of your business" responses so I didn't bother going thru all the pages. Your love is under a lot of stress so cut him a little slack, alright? Yeah, I know he's all crabby having to deal with the b*tch-on-wheels but it's just something you're gonna have to deal with. He'll figure it out (or his lawyer will) all in due time. Hopefully sooner rather than later. Just be his main support, his love bunny and if it helps, giggle to yourself about how that b*tch-on-wheels can go suck it! Don't let his moods dictate yours. Now is not the time to be all whine-y. In the meantime ENJOY HIM, LIFE and YOUR FUTURE! Really? Is name calling necessary? I honestly hope the wife gets her share of the money and what she deserves of the marital assets and then moves on with her life without all this garbage and mess that will be left behind her. In the meantime ladies you can call it how you like until you find yourselves wearing the shoes of a BS. Best of luck to you both!
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Really? Is name calling necessary? I honestly hope the wife gets her share of the money and what she deserves of the marital assets and then moves on with her life without all this garbage and mess that will be left behind her. In the meantime ladies you can call it how you like until you find yourselves wearing the shoes of a BS. Best of luck to you both! At this point, the wife is the only who seems to be lucking out . She's being relieved of a man who cannot love her, she's going to get a substantial chunk of change it seems, she has fun toying her WS around then siccing her attorneys on him, she gets to piss his OW off, she apparently is making her WS so upset that he's taking it out on Daisy... I mean if she wanted revenge, she seems to be having a field day with it! She'll be just fine. Daisy and MM on the other hand seem to be the only one perturbed. And while I have no reason to wish Daisy ill, IF, things do not pan out or MM starts up his old tricks again....then the BS will be the one still laughing all the way to the bank.
pureinheart Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 My lover man told W that he wanted a D and he laid forth a VERY GENEROUS settlement.At first, BS said they wold get a D over her dead body. Then my love told her he could make that happen and then her attitude changed and she got real sweet. Then she wanted to try to fix everything and my love told her to get out of town. Then she acted like she didn't care and we thought that everything was going to be real good.Now she's being really passive aggressive and acting like a total b*itch. She will call him on the phone and be all nicey nice and try to talk about old times and crap and agree to what he says, and then she will have her lawyer send him some stupid thing over the settlement! Like she told him she agreed to his terms on keeping the house. He told her she could keep the house and it was this many dollars in value. She said ok to him on the phone. Then her stupid lawyer send him notice that it's not ok and she wants more! He will talk to her on the phone about it, and she's all sweet as pie again!I told him a whole lot of times to STOP TALKING to her! He should let his lawyers take care of everything cuz that's what he paid them for you know? But he insists on talking to her and try to get her to make nice and go away. But then he gets all upset again and real grumpy! I suggested again sweetly with a kiss that he GO NC and he was real pissed about everything and he told me to mind my own business.What should I do?? She is making my life MISERABLE!! Have only read the OP and no replies yet... He does need to cut off the communication with her asap. This is a last ditch effort to mess with him. It will cost him some money, but that will be that much less that she will get too. Her lawyer can "talk" all he wants, but it is up to the judge if they don't come to an agreement (which I don't think they will). The judge will see that she is being greedy (if in fact you guys are in a community property state that is 50 50), this happened to DM's exW...she lied and got greedy and the judge saw that...let's say she didn't even get 50%. It was a game with her and she wanted revenge...well it cost her too. It's amazing how things work themselves out in the way of true justice. Hang in there girl and I hope he cuts the communication and gets out of "the game"....
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I'm just curious, mainly cause of my own situation, but Daisy, did his having some money and thus financial security help with the love between you two? I ask cause of a previous thread you had.
pureinheart Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 *sigh* This is why this place sucks. Every body sees what they want to see. Every body ordered me to but out. Silly_Girl recognized that I have a choice in the matter and was nice to tell me how things might go if I made that choice. Please point out where she told me to butt out. She could said that I would be better off to do that but she didn't mandate it. Do you understand now? Please consider the source of this "advise" and the objectivity. I think rejection does unusual things to people unfortunately.
bentnotbroken Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Please consider the source of this "advise" and the objectivity. I think rejection does unusual things to people unfortunately. Makes one realize just how blessed they were.
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