Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 Why it is such a source of fun for me this week: misery lives company. Especially company on the other side of the spectrum. Since my own life is sadly powerless against the cheating kind and their accessories (for the time being) I take a little pinch of happiness knowing that somewhere out there, someone causing poor misery like the kind I have suffered is getting at least annoyed. I'll grow up next week, today I'll take a day off from maturity and bask in the random naïveté of others. Pass the shame along....You can belittle our love. It's ok. Your disapproval of us isn't going to stop our love! I hope you get better. Don't spend your days being unhappy! ((((BIG HUGS!))))
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 And wonder if after all this, and if he really does marry you, if he will ask you to sign a prenup? I'll bet he wishes he had with his wife.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 "her baby" is the MM! That's who she was referring to.Oh! Ok! Yes he is my baby!
Silly_Girl Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Why it is such a source of fun for me this week: misery lives company. Especially company on the other side of the spectrum. Since my own life is sadly powerless against the cheating kind and their accessories (for the time being) I take a little pinch of happiness knowing that somewhere out there, someone causing poor misery like the kind I have suffered is getting at least annoyed. I'll grow up next week, today I'll take a day off from maturity and bask in the random naïveté of others. Pass the shame along.... You're one of those who likes to pretend the OW on an anonymous forum is the OW you got messed about for. If that's healthy and/or fun for you, so be it. I just don't see any enjoyment in it.
bentnotbroken Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 You're one of those who likes to pretend the OW on an anonymous forum is the OW you got messed about for. If that's healthy and/or fun for you, so be it. I just don't see any enjoyment in it. Does it matter if you see any enjoyment in it?
dreamingoftigers Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I am not belittling your love, not trying to stop it. I am belittling both of your harmful actions towards another human being and mildly laughing over the temper-tantrum thrown over the result of it. Thanks for your well wishes. I actually do hope that you get better soon and realize that the BS is no more your enemy than your MM, who inappropriately brought you into his own dysfunctional situation. My days are brighter now then they were before and my H's days grow sadly darker. It does ware on me to see the father of our child being so retardedly self-destructive, but beyond that.... Not much. You are right in the fact that I, nor anyone else here can "stop your love." you and MM's relational patterns will do that for itself. Max two years.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 And this doesn't sound like advice to you to butt out? Why not?*sigh* This is why this place sucks. Every body sees what they want to see. Every body ordered me to but out. Silly_Girl recognized that I have a choice in the matter and was nice to tell me how things might go if I made that choice. Please point out where she told me to butt out. She could said that I would be better off to do that but she didn't mandate it. Do you understand now?
bentnotbroken Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 *sigh* This is why this place sucks. Every body sees what they want to see. Every body ordered me to but out. Silly_Girl recognized that I have a choice in the matter and was nice to tell me how things might go if I made that choice. Please point out where she told me to butt out. She could said that I would be better off to do that but she didn't mandate it. Do you understand now? No one ordered, except your hunnny bunnny. He told you to mind your own business. Now that's an order. Get pissy with him...I dare ya.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 And wonder if after all this, and if he really does marry you, if he will ask you to sign a prenup? I'll bet he wishes he had with his wife. Maybe. At least he respects me enough to never ask me to do it in BS's bed!
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 This is not what she said. Everyone told me to but out. Silly_Girl said that if I chose to stay involved, it would drive me crazy. Don't you see the difference? Daisy, I don't get it...why are you upset that people are telling you to butt out, when the main reason is because your boyfriend TOLD YOU FIRST! I don't get it...you should be mad at HIM! He's the one who told you to mind your own business FIRST!
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 No one ordered, except your hunnny bunnny. He told you to mind your own business. Now that's an order. Get pissy with him...I dare ya. Ok! Make-up sex is sooooooo good!
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Maybe. At least he respects me enough to never ask me to do it in BS's bed! I prefer to think that this is due to a bit of leftover respect for his marriage and wife.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 Daisy, I don't get it...why are you upset that people are telling you to butt out, when the main reason is because your boyfriend TOLD YOU FIRST! I don't get it...you should be mad at HIM! He's the one who told you to mind your own business FIRST!Because I believe he said it out of frustration with the BS. He has always welcomed my suggestions in the past.
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Maybe. At least he respects me enough to never ask me to do it in BS's bed! Or maybe he respects BS enough? Or maybe he was too scared to ask that.... In any case, arguing about who has the better MM is a bit ridic... But since you went there, happy should point out that at least her MM has not threatened to kill his wife and has not told her to butt out of his marital affairs Sexing your OW in your marital bed is pretty low but I think threatening to kill your wife because she is upset at your affair shenanigans trumps it...
dreamingoftigers Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 You're one of those who likes to pretend the OW on an anonymous forum is the OW you got messed about for. If that's healthy and/or fun for you, so be it. I just don't see any enjoyment in it. I am one of those likes who likes to harp on the behaviour. As for OWs, there have been quite a few but no relationships, so the correlation ends there. Furthermore considering the number of OWs there is a statistically high possibility that both you and DL have been one of my husband's OW. Especially if you have both of your breasts, are female and have a pulse. Whose enjoyment do you not see in it? Yours? Mine? Mine's obvious but mild. Yours is not any of my concern. Quite frankly I am glad that some selfish OW get a small amount of their just desserts. I hope it helps them grow into more functional and considerate people who keep themselves out of other's marriages. Glad I have other life interests as well I might add. I can count on three fingers the number of OW I have ever ripped into on these boards. There's a reason for that. The naive and loving ones, or the ones getting a raw deal I try to support. The tantrum, attack the wife whiners, that's a whole different ball game. Don't cry to me about being torn down on a public board because you can't handle being called out over ridiculous behaviour you have no remorse over. You get no sympathy. I even extended DL some very nice advice regarding her situation and relationship. Despite her embittered approach to the woman whose life she is helping to rip apart bit by bit.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 I prefer to think that this is due to a bit of leftover respect for his marriage and wife. I wasn't talking to you. My baby has never said that he doesn't respect his wife.
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Hehe, oh yeah, no kidding. Mine is a real turd to me:) Of course, I know he is, or rather was, just using me:) Im a real idiot of that None the less, it will be interesting to see if he is bright enough to ask for one that way he doesn't have to go throught this financial crap again in a few years.
MissBee Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Because I believe he said it out of frustration with the BS. He has always welcomed my suggestions in the past. Ohh okay.... Well then you should try your suggestions again next week...or after sex...and see how he responds.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 Or maybe he respects BS enough? Or maybe he was too scared to ask that.... In any case, arguing about who has the better MM is a bit ridic... But since you went there, happy should point out that at least her MM has not threatened to kill his wife and has not told her to butt out of his marital affairs Sexing your OW in your marital bed is pretty low but I think threatening to kill your wife because she is upset at your affair shenanigans trumps it... He was joking about killing the wife! Geeeeze! You guys are really reaching to make my baby look mean. He's not! He's kind and gentle and generous but like everyone else he has to vent sometimes!
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 If you get your baby, does he come with child support from the BS? That would be a real score.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 Why are you guys so mean to all MM? All of you were either involved with one or M to one, so why be mean?
Silly_Girl Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I am one of those likes who likes to harp on the behaviour. As for OWs, there have been quite a few but no relationships, so the correlation ends there. Furthermore considering the number of OWs there is a statistically high possibility that both you and DL have been one of my husband's OW. Especially if you have both of your breasts, are female and have a pulse. Whose enjoyment do you not see in it? Yours? Mine? Mine's obvious but mild. Yours is not any of my concern. Quite frankly I am glad that some selfish OW get a small amount of their just desserts. I hope it helps them grow into more functional and considerate people who keep themselves out of other's marriages. Glad I have other life interests as well I might add. I can count on three fingers the number of OW I have ever ripped into on these boards. There's a reason for that. The naive and loving ones, or the ones getting a raw deal I try to support. The tantrum, attack the wife whiners, that's a whole different ball game. Don't cry to me about being torn down on a public board because you can't handle being called out over ridiculous behaviour you have no remorse over. You get no sympathy. I even extended DL some very nice advice regarding her situation and relationship. Despite her embittered approach to the woman whose life she is helping to rip apart bit by bit. I didn't in the least bit 'cry to you', just thought you had more about you, that's all.
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 One of the things I've appreciated so much since I first started reading here was the honesty of everyone. Yes, some of the stuff is stupid, but a lot of it is just plain honest. I don't think they are being mean to your baby, I think they are being honest to you.
Author daisy love Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 You are childish with your posts Daisy and your posts indicate you are into playing games to get what you want. You lack maturity and an inability to see beyond your own wants. You can't handle conflict here in a mature way so it's not surprising that you have difficulty in real life. Where did I say I had trouble IRL? I remember saying I was really happy except when BS acts out and upsets my baby. Don't you ever get upset when someone upsets someone you love?
happywithme Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Are you not able to keep your baby really happy? Does he not feel he can confide in you and trust your judgement, your thoughts, you ideas? That would kind of piss me off.
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