jdscott582 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 The situation is this. Me and my girl had been together.for 2 1/2 years total. About 11 months ago she broke up with me for various reasons, I was insecure, jealous, didn't trust her, etc. She met this guy who I guess swept her away from me because.he was everything that I wasn't. I was devastated, but I got myself together and worked on my issues. I was able to win her heart back four or five months after the breakup. I was handling my issues really well and she was willing to give me another chance. So everything was going awesome and even my friends noticed how happy we were but I started to slip here and there. Six or seven months down the road, to where I'm at now, I had a really bad spurt of jealousy, not trusting her and trying to know everything she was doing. She said enough, I need a month to think about things and I Just wanna have fun and be "20," so five days later she decides she didn't need a month to think about things and ended it completely. She says she's fallen out of love but I don't know how, so.suddenly?? She says she's completely done and fed up and isn't trying anymore. How can this happen, I had a week of being jealous and suspicious and she leaves?? She still wants to be friends and such and says I'm her best friend. I can still see it when she looks at me that she loves me, when I catch her doing it its like she was hoping I didn't notice. I told her to look me in the face and tell me she didn't love me and she couldn't. She says she wants to have fun be 20 and not worry about me getting mad. What the hell is going on, what should I do, don't tell me to leave her because I know that I want her. I waited for her before. Please give me some genuine advice...I can't handle losing her again. If you need anymore details please let me know. Thanks How can I show her I've changed if she isn't with me in a relationship?? Do I just let her go and wait around again?? I don't feel like its over one bit but I'm nervous that I could be wrong...do I have a chance or does it seem like there's no.hope?? She still also wants to have sex, being "exclusive" and not sleeping around. I know she's dating other guys though and "talking" with them. I'm so confused
babyygirllhi Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 The situation is this. Me and my girl had been together.for 2 1/2 years total. About 11 months ago she broke up with me for various reasons, I was insecure, jealous, didn't trust her, etc. She met this guy who I guess swept her away from me because.he was everything that I wasn't. I was devastated, but I got myself together and worked on my issues. I was able to win her heart back four or five months after the breakup. I was handling my issues really well and she was willing to give me another chance. So everything was going awesome and even my friends noticed how happy we were but I started to slip here and there. Six or seven months down the road, to where I'm at now, I had a really bad spurt of jealousy, not trusting her and trying to know everything she was doing. She said enough, I need a month to think about things and I Just wanna have fun and be "20," so five days later she decides she didn't need a month to think about things and ended it completely. She says she's fallen out of love but I don't know how, so.suddenly?? She says she's completely done and fed up and isn't trying anymore. How can this happen, I had a week of being jealous and suspicious and she leaves?? She still wants to be friends and such and says I'm her best friend. I can still see it when she looks at me that she loves me, when I catch her doing it its like she was hoping I didn't notice. I told her to look me in the face and tell me she didn't love me and she couldn't. She says she wants to have fun be 20 and not worry about me getting mad. What the hell is going on, what should I do, don't tell me to leave her because I know that I want her. I waited for her before. Please give me some genuine advice...I can't handle losing her again. If you need anymore details please let me know. Thanks How can I show her I've changed if she isn't with me in a relationship?? Do I just let her go and wait around again?? I don't feel like its over one bit but I'm nervous that I could be wrong...do I have a chance or does it seem like there's no.hope?? She still also wants to have sex, being "exclusive" and not sleeping around. I know she's dating other guys though and "talking" with them. I'm so confused Ook, the best advice i can give... She has "suddenly" fallen out of love because you have pushed her away. You trying to get her back now is going to make it worse. I actually think you should still have sex. But dont make it a booty call. Invite her over one night with an extremely romantic setting. candles, soft music, wine, etc. Then have a card for her. Write in it something about how you cant imagine life without her, that you know you arent perfect and are willing to work on it for her and mostly for yourself, because you dont want to be that person, and ENFORCE that she should just take her time, enjoy her being 20." Now the next step will be the hardest. PROVE IT. DO NOT EXPECT nything soon. if she needs time to think or anything, GIVE IT TO HER. being pushy is the worst thing you can possibly do. Then it is all about proving it again, and giving her time and space. This will be hard for you, but if there is any chance of getting her back, then you will have to be calm, respectful and most of all patient. Hope it works out!!
Author jdscott582 Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 Thank you so much...so knowing that there's hope does help. I just worry about her putting more people in between us. I know I love and want her enough that I could deal with that, only if I had to though, it would really put a damper on my spirit. So even though she ended it before and gave me a chance before I can still have a chance?? I feel pathetic but I just love this person more than anything, I've known her for nearly 9 years and been with her for 2 1/2
JasonRules Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Why are you jealous/insecure? You should answer this question first before trying to get back together with her. If its because she's very flirty with other men and you can't handle it, then she's not the woman for you. People are who they are; our nature does not change. We either have to learn to accept them as they are or find someone whom we are truly compatible with.
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