Painful Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I'll try to keep this as short as I possibly can. My boyfriend and I broke up about five days ago. Before that, we were on a three day break. And I'll save you the trouble.. It was all my fault, and I'm truly, truly sorry. We were together for four months, and all of those four months, I would frequently lie to him through text, things that would make him jealous. Despite that, we were a very happy couple, never ever fought when we were together. But we texted 24/7. Saw each other 1-2 times a week. We had the break because the jealousy was getting too much for him, and he called it.. And then he decided he wanted to just be friends... But didn't do anything until I agreed, and I refused. But it was because of the jealousy. I felt so, so bad.. I thought it would help if I just came clean. In pure depression, I listened to my cousin and I called it over. The next day, I told him the truth.. And of course he wasn't happy. But I was hoping he'd forgive me. He didn't. But we continued to talk for these five days. I'll admit, I've been acting very needy. :/ But he's apparently already over me, and it hurts so much. He drinks and does drugs to cope. Even went to a girl's house to do this.. Just four days later... So we've been talking. Today, actually very recently, a few hours ago, we discussed my clingy issues. And I attempted to back off, feeling strong. And then he was having a bad day at work today (which he texts me during) seeking comfort, I guessed, and I continued to comfort him, with that girlfriend mentality mixed in with friendly jokes. Things swerved back into the trust thing, and now he won't reply.. I've sent three texts discussing friendship and forgiveness again, and it's been nearly 45 minutes since he's last replied, and it's usually instant to 10-20 minutes. I don't know what to do. I want him back, I know I do.. But he doesn't trust me and I don't know how to fix that.. If someone could tell me how, that'd be great.. I know a lot of you will say to just leave him alone. But I don't know. He's kind of vulnerable.. Can I do this? Or is it absolutely hopeless? Friendship and a relationship?
Author Painful Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 (edited) Actually, he just now texted me, telling me more of his problems and how he thinks he’s failed at life.. What do I do? I want to help.. But I don’t know.. EDIT: Yeah, what just now happened was he texted me back about how much he felt he’s failed his life, and I told him about how I was thinking about cutting contact with him, cause it might help, but I didn’t really want to cause he seemed down and I wanted to help. But he said I can’t.. And I asked him if he wanted to cut contact, he said if I wanted, I pressed further, and he said “For sure” and then “Yep” finally. So we said our goodbyes. And then I posted on Facebook, and he commented a few times, nothing big, just a few statements I didn’t understand, and then he stopped. He might’ve blocked my posts after that, but I don’t know. He didn’t delete me though.. What’s going on? Edited August 11, 2011 by Painful
SlowBlues Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Stop talking to him. You said you frequently lied to him and betrayed his trust and made him jealous. You are toxic to him. You made him feel like crap about himself and now you're trying to come up with ways to cope with the guilt you're feeling. Go NC and stay out of his life, you're only going to make things worse for the both of you if you keep this up.
Dblock10 Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 Stop talking to him. You said you frequently lied to him and betrayed his trust and made him jealous. You are toxic to him. You made him feel like crap about himself and now you're trying to come up with ways to cope with the guilt you're feeling. Go NC and stay out of his life, you're only going to make things worse for the both of you if you keep this up. agreed. .
Author Painful Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 I've tried. But we just talk. He seems to be coping quite nicely, unless he's putting up a facade. I don't initiate contact anymore.
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