mortensorchid Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 A childhood friend of mine just had his divorced finalized a few weeks ago. I was saddened to hear of his escapade, but a part of me refuses to say "I told you so" because he's my friend. Far too idealistic, far too optimistic. My friend Chris (not his real name) met his now ex wife in 02. They dated for two years, then married in 04. He told me this was her third marriage. I asked how it was that someone could reach age 30 and be on marriage #3, he explained. Her first marriage was immediately after high school to her high school sweetheart. They were young, it didn't work out. Her second marriage was a case of Florence Nightingale Syndrome. His now ex wife has millions of allergies and was bedridden by them years ago. She married her male nurse - where the caregiver falls in love with the patient. In some cases, the patient gets better and then the caregiver does not love them anymore. Then she meets Chris and he married her. He said he didn't want me (or others) to know about it because we would judge her over it, and he knew that this time she got it right. In 07, they had their daughter. Six months later, in 08, his now ex wife discovered she had breast cancer - a direct result of her becoming pregnant and the changes in her hormone levels. She went through chemo/radiation and Chris resumed the primary caregiving of their child (who is now 3 1/2). He told me within the last year or so that things were not good between them, last summer I went up for a visit and I met him and his daughter but she did not come to the visit. I thought that was a little strange, but didn't say anything about it. Then he revealed some other things. He discovered records of cell phone calls, emails, and IM chats on the computer that she had been cheating on him. He moved out and filed for divorce. He also neglected to mention that her previous two marriages ended because she also cheated on those guys. She's engaged to be married to this guy that she cheated on Chris with. He also said that their relationship (lasting a grand total of nine years, two dating and seven married) was the longest relationship she ever had. Her other marriages lasted barely two years apiece. I was saddened and furious to hear this. I'm sure others who are reading this story are also. But, I guess it goes to show that some people will never change no matter how good your intentions might be.
David Cain Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 yep very true, although there is those delusional people who say its just a cliche but its really not its the truth.That's what I've been stating for the past month. The denial in some of these betrayed spouses is crazy around here. Now one of those posters will come here and call me bitter in the next 5 to 20 minutes..... ................
DSVET9091 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I agree with zsu234 She will cheat again.. Sad Story.
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