shortee143 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I know I shouldn't be thinking about it, nor should it matter to me anymore but it does. My ex is seemingly being a much better bf to his new girl, than he was to me Due to many mutual friends..I see him and know things I should not, and get some unsolicited info....to keep it brief...he spends like every day with her...whereas with me, I saw him about once a week. He never made that extra effort (not to mention, he always told me he didnt want to be suffocated by a gf or see them daily). When we broke up- he bailed, gave no reason, never tried to talk to me about anything, etc...and now he seems like he is so happy with her, and wants to be with her nonstop. It is really hurtful still at the end of the day. Like I said, I know I should not care, but it still hurts me. Anyone ever had to deal with this?? Why do we "think" they are being better to their new SO's, when in reality, they are still the same person most likely as they were with us.
wilsonx Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I know it hurts but the less and less you hear about your ex, the easier it gets. I heard my ex is dating the 37 year old guy officially now from friends on facebook. That day it stung but in reality it, i say its there problem now. Do you really want someone that will not be there for you when you need them? Right now you need him in your time of hurt, is he there for you? Not at all so guess what, hes not the right one for you. The one thats the right one for you would stick by your side even through tough times like these. I do not want to say if it will work out or not because it does not matter. Especially down to road when you do find that one person that will be there for you when you need them. But first you need to make sure that you are there for you when you need you. Stop thinking about your ex and more along the lines of you (easier said then done oh i know trust me). Keep forward in your healing process, try to leave your ex in the past and just enjoy your new single life. Once you accomplish this, the only person you will truly need is yourself
Author shortee143 Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 I know it hurts but the less and less you hear about your ex, the easier it gets. I heard my ex is dating the 37 year old guy officially now from friends on facebook. That day it stung but in reality it, i say its there problem now. Do you really want someone that will not be there for you when you need them? Right now you need him in your time of hurt, is he there for you? Not at all so guess what, hes not the right one for you. The one thats the right one for you would stick by your side even through tough times like these. I do not want to say if it will work out or not because it does not matter. Especially down to road when you do find that one person that will be there for you when you need them. But first you need to make sure that you are there for you when you need you. Stop thinking about your ex and more along the lines of you (easier said then done oh i know trust me). Keep forward in your healing process, try to leave your ex in the past and just enjoy your new single life. Once you accomplish this, the only person you will truly need is yourself Thank you for the reply. It is hard when you are doing all you can to focus on your and your healing....but then to make matters worse, you know things about your ex and their life that still hurt. It would be difficult for me to cut him out of my life, as we are def bound to see each other, but I am doing my best to take distance. In fact, I finally took 2 whole months away from going to big events where I would see him, bc I realized whenever I did go, he would do or say things that were hurtful. Watching your ex move on sucks....but like you said, it is "their" problem now. At the end of the say, it is difficult to close that wound...the wound when someone you love with all your heart just completely hurts you with no regard. It def takes continued effort mentally to keep focusing on YOU and not them, but alas, his life still effects me to a degree. As your ex is now moved on- its funny, bc I know he is with her, having sex wit her, sleeping next to her, laughing and enjoying himself- however, I can think of that, and no longer want to break down. I am NOT looking forward to the day I am there, with the 2 of them though, ouchhh.
wilsonx Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 This is one of my favorite posts on this forum or at least top 5 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t290011/ You should read it and get inspired
Author shortee143 Posted August 11, 2011 Author Posted August 11, 2011 This is one of my favorite posts on this forum or at least top 5 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t290011/ You should read it and get inspired THANK YOU! that was a great read for me right now
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