Shanhamm Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Well two weeks ago on my birthday my ex and I broke after 20 months or so. Everything was great until the start of summer when I wanted to start a business and keep my job. Well it got a little rough not to bad. But the night of my birthday we got into an argument and that was it. So I tried talking to her what not to get this to work well shes not ready to talk yet.. Ok fine. Shes pretty mad yet. So I bought a book to get your ex back and started the first step with a hand written letter to her making it sound like im happy and ok. Now its three weeks in complete silence on my part. The question is does this stuff really work? It seems to be on the right track...
TheVSilent Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Well two weeks ago on my birthday my ex and I broke after 20 months or so. Everything was great until the start of summer when I wanted to start a business and keep my job. Well it got a little rough not to bad. But the night of my birthday we got into an argument and that was it. So I tried talking to her what not to get this to work well shes not ready to talk yet.. Ok fine. Shes pretty mad yet. So I bought a book to get your ex back and started the first step with a hand written letter to her making it sound like im happy and ok. Now its three weeks in complete silence on my part. The question is does this stuff really work? It seems to be on the right track... No, it never works, been there done that and I'm 3 months out, she didn't budge.
Author Shanhamm Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Well her freinds said shes a little curious now since she got the note so thats what its suppost to do. I guess we will see what happens....
ScienceGal Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Keep not contacting her. If you sent the letter and haven't heard anything, then give her more time, It is all you can do. Some people would say it takes a few weeks to a few months. But, sometimes it's just really over. In time, the no contact is supposed to be for you to heal and move on (I know that sucks, but it's true). I am at 2 months and not a peep from him besides that he will "talk to me when he is ready" response that I got 5 weeks ago ... I assume this means either a)when he is over me, or b) he's never actually going to talk to me again. Both suck. I miss him like hell, but sometimes things are out of our control. Accept that you can't control her. Keep a journal of everything you are feeling. The good, the bad, everything. Don't push yourself to feel one way or another, just be in the moment and deal with feelings as they come. Try to relax and go about your business each day and make the best that you can of it. Good luck. I hope she does come back. And if she doesn't... I hope in the future you find someone else that makes you understand why all this is happening
ScienceGal Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Well her freinds said shes a little curious now since she got the note so thats what its suppost to do. I guess we will see what happens.... well, there ya go! Stay quiet and stay strong!
Author Shanhamm Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Im giving her three weeks like the book said than I was going to send a text or somthing. Im sure knowing her she will contact me before that.
todd Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 (edited) It is not about getting her back. You are suppose to be taking time to reflect on yourself and fixing the problems you realized were in the relationship and your own life. If she comes back or not doesn't matter right now. If it was meant to be it will be again. Do not contact her in three weeks if you are not yet over her and have not adequately had time to heal. If you are completely comfortable with yourself, confident in yourself, and capable of understanding that if she never comes back to you you will still be fine, then you can try to contact her how the book tells you probably. If you havent had time to focus on yourself, even if you get back with her you will follow the same mistakes that got you in this position to begin with. Edited August 10, 2011 by todd
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