Top10point5 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Do you have a problem being submissive to your man? if you do, then why? reason im asking is because I was reading this article below, and after asking some of my friends, we all agreed that we wouldn't be able to date a female if she wasn't submissive. Article about how to be submissive: http://www.top10point5.com/2011/08/top-105-how-to-be-submissive.html
TBH Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 that article is total BS but quite funny though. the sad thing is there are many people in the world who actually agree with that crap. the terms submissive and dominant should be used only in the bedroom
Author Top10point5 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 that article is total BS but quite funny though. the sad thing is there are many people in the world who actually agree with that crap. the terms submissive and dominant should be used only in the bedroom Every real man wants a woman who will be submissive. It's more about allowing your man to be a man. Who wants a female who is going to argue with everything he says?
FitChick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Every real man wants a woman who will be submissive. It's more about allowing your man to be a man. Who wants a female who is going to argue with everything he says? That has more to do with communication skills, being courteous, thoughtful and polite. Good manners. Sorely lacking today.
sm1tten Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 This article isn't about being submissive. Most of this is just common sense in a balanced relationship. Whenever I see the phrase "a real man" or "a true lady" (or similar) I know I'm talking to or reading someone who is completely clueless, though.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Very good suggestions. I don't agree with all the language of it but it is very much spot on and addresses some things the women often grow up not having learned. I don't think it comes down to submissiveness as mush as being simply cooperative. Those points were all about limits that are fair for both parties and I don't see anyone going wrong if both parties follow them. The line gets crossed if the suggestion were say, something of role assignment with the woman being subordinate like what you might find in Saudi Arabia or some place--don't show up your husband because he is master of the house. Now, that's submission. But if you leave it to not show up your husband in public because he may hold that humiliation inside and have it explode in spades after a while, that's a sound suggestion.
TBH Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 That has more to do with communication skills, being courteous, thoughtful and polite. Good manners. Sorely lacking today. exactly. well said
Enchanted Girl Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I disagree with parts of the article, but not necessarily the majority of it and I do most of those things in a relationship regardless (and think men should do most of those things in return.) The funny thing is, if that's a submissive woman, then I don't know what the hell I was with my ex. XD No wonder people were actually offended by it because I took it to an extreme new level. But the thing I have to say that I agree with most is that no one, man or woman, should EVER make their partner feel unneeded. The phrase "I'd be good without you" or anything similar to it should never leave their lips. Here's what I disagree with: 1. I don't believe in compromise. I believe in win-win situations where both people discuss things until both people are happy. Compromise is about both people giving up on something important to them and leaving the situation unhappy. No one wins in that scenario. 2. If you want to be in a relationship, then you have to deal with the person's baggage. Women deal with men's baggage all the time, we just don't complain about it the way that men do. If you can't take being with a real person who has doubts, fears, tears, and bursts of anger along with smiles, laughter, cuddles, and jokes, then you're not ready to deal with a real person. I know from experience that men aren't happiness and sunshine all the time and that they regularly need to lay the baggage of their past on me to get past it. My job as a girlfriend is to help them through life, not whine every time they're struggling with something. You make it worse when you get mad at them for getting upset instead of making it better. 3. I agree that women shouldn't belittle men, but telling them to shut their ass up is just as demeaning. 4. Women should help out their men with the responsibilities, yes, but I've seen many women who work more than men AND do all the housework. If she's not doing all the housework and can't do all the chores you ask her to, that doesn't mean you should automatically get angry with her. I think its something that BOTH people should discuss and agree upon and there should be some flexibility within it as well. My Mom was a housewife and my Dad never knew how to handle it when she got sick and couldn't do the housework as well. And when a woman has children its a lot more work than a man thinks, so I hope this article isn't encouraging him to be pissed if the house isn't perfect during that time.
Cee Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I'm surprised the article never mentioned sex. Submission plays out in the bedroom very well if both partners want that. The article was pretty generic and gave mostly common sense advice. It had little to do with submissiveness, but more about being a reasonable and pleasant companion.
Hot Chick Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 No, I disagree. "Household decisions" should be made by both of the couple. It affects both of them. Household chores should be shared, especially if both are working outside of the home.
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