Eternal Sunshine Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Well, whatever happens, those are some super-hot shoes
Star Gazer Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Patagonia, thanks for the follow up You're right. The guy is probably gone after he got what he wanted. I could only cry my heart out, in my pretty shoes. http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod58470075&parentId= I won't give out the cookie so fast next time. I have those! :love: And... I have yet to wear them. They are hidden in my closet.
oaks Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 He used to text me a lot (10 times/day) and still texted me quite a bit after sex on Sunday and Monday. But today (tuesday), he only sent me a quick "miss you" text. Should I be worried? He's a CEO, so some days he will be very busy with running the business. Worry if you like, but it won't improve anything and might make things worse.
Citizen Erased Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I have those! :love: And... I have yet to wear them. They are hidden in my closet. Seeing as you're not using them, care to donate them to me?
Author confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks for your honest opinion, MrNate, thatone, and oaks! Star Gazer, Eternal Sunshine, don't we have similar taste
Author confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks, patagonia, Ruby Slippers, Hot Chick, for the follow ups and wise words
Author confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Todd, thanks for the note. I'll let the relationship play out as it will.
Ayla Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 OMG - Musemaj11 and rp7- is it really necessay to attack someone on such a personal level?!? I get the feeling that you guys have been burnt quite badly or something. Confused has a type...a lot of people do. I like men in uniform or in suits (that is just what they wear for work and what I'm attracted to). I also like a man to have brains, be respectful, funny and a gentleman. Just because Confused has mentioned the CEO part, does not mean there aren't many other traits she likes. Maybe you guys should just leave this post alone... Confused-just chill, and see what happens. He is terribly busy and might be focussed on something else at the moment. Don't have any expectations, and hopefully it will turn out. Keep yourself busy, and take this opportunity to hang out with family and friends.
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 (edited) I don't think all is lost. Don't listen to muse. He's bitter because he can't get dates. He did text "miss you" today. He didn't have to do that. I wouldn't initiate any contact with him, let him do it, play it "cool" like you stated. Also, you do not have to have sex again just because you've had it already. You have a right to say "I'd like to get to know you better before we continue having sex." If he is kind and with good intentions, this won't matter a bit to him. If he bails, then you do know it was just about the sex to him. I agree. Especially with the part about slowing down on the sex part. I'm going to disagree a little bit from the other posters though... If a guy presses me for sex early in the relationship after I've stated that I need to get to know him, I find that an indication of poor character in him. That behavior almost immediately puts him in the 'not relationship material' for me. I don't think the burden of pacing a relationship needs to be solely on the woman. For me personally, I would never accept expensive gifts from a man I wasn't in a committed relationship with. Not just 'exclusive'... committed. My love can't be bought. I prefer actions over words/gifts anyway. That's just me. 'Financial support' isn't high on my list of needs. It is for some people though... to each his/her own. Some men love lavishing gifts on the ones they care about. That is their way of showing how they care for someone. Edited August 10, 2011 by ThsAmericanLife
Ayla Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 rp7- I hate to tell you, but I make more than enough money to support myself, and never judge a person on how much they earn. I have never cheated (I think people who cheat are scum), never dated anywhere near a rich CEO type and in addition I'm not American. I'm very happy to say that there are some decent women out there, and you can not generalise all into the gold digging character. I'm sorry you have been hurt, but you are wring in taking your hurt and anger out here-especially on Confused. Most likely she is proud of his role in the company. I agree with what you are saying also ThsAmericanLife. I can't be bought either, but do agree that some men out there like to spoil the person they care about with gifts.
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I'm dating this guy. He's a CEO of a well-known company. We went on 5 dates and he really tried to impress me by taking me to all the best restaurants and even bought me a pair of $800 shoes for my birthday. I had sex with him this past Saturday. After that, he had to leave for New York for a month. I miss him terribly, even more after sex. He used to text me a lot (10 times/day) and still texted me quite a bit after sex on Sunday and Monday. But today (tuesday), he only sent me a quick "miss you" text. Should I be worried? I could feel that I'm getting attached to him after sex. How should I think of him texting less than before? Is he busy or losing interest? Should I play cool? Or let him know that I miss him terribly and can't wait to see him again? Some of my friends have recommended to show that you're less interested in him than he is in you. I think it's best to be honest, but play cool may work in the early stage such as this one. What do you think? Many thanks! I keep telling women not to have sex too soon and they don't listen.:( By the way, you should not have accepted that gift, that was poor form and perhaps a nail in the coffin.
Ayla Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I'm taking it that you are now talking about your other thread... the entitlement class of females Again you are wrong, and a lot of women (including me) dont have that problem-like I said I earn more than enough to support myself. I'm not going to bother discussing this with you further, as you clearly have nothing constructive to say. Confused-all the best love!
Hot Chick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 The gift was for her birthday! I would think he would be very hurt if she did not accept a birthday gift. I usually wait about a month or a little longer of dating before I get intimate with a guy. Five dates may have been the time over a month, I don't know.....
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 The gift was for her birthday! I would think he would be very hurt if she did not accept a birthday gift. I usually wait about a month or a little longer of dating before I get intimate with a guy. Five dates may have been the time over a month, I don't know..... A month is too son. It does not matter that it was her birthday. Accepting an $800.00 gift from a virtual stranger is poor form. Even an $80 gift should be rejected.. For this guy the whole thing is a game and a power trip. I make good money and i know it is a pleasure to spend like that, however, I have an idea of when a gift is was too much too soon. This guy was simply buying good sex.
David Cain Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 is that spoiled brat gold digger with an entitlement complex taste. This!!
Hot Chick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Wow, a lot of insecure guys on this board. You can go out and work hard and be successful, too. Get away from the computer and make it happen! How many women want to date men hanging around on Loveshack website all day taking potshots at posters asking legitimate questions in a dating section website. I can guarantee not CEOs! Get away from the computer, get an education, work HARD, make something of yourself, and you, too, can get a date!
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Wow, a lot of insecure guys on this board. You can go out and work hard and be successful, too. Get away from the computer and make it happen! How many women want to date men hanging around on Loveshack website all day taking potshots at posters asking legitimate questions in a dating section website. I can guarantee not CEOs! Get away from the computer, get an education, work HARD, make something of yourself, and you, too, can get a date! We have successful jobs so we can post while we work.:laugh: You are using that old comeback of "if you are on the Internet you have no life". It does not work very well. You should try to reply the post: It is not a good idea to accept an 800.00 gift and to be pressured into sex once the gift is accepted.
Chocolat Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 You should try to reply the post: It is not a good idea to accept an 800.00 gift and to be pressured into sex once the gift is accepted. Several years ago, I man I'd dated for a short time tried to give me a very expensive birthday gift, which I ended up refusing. The issue wasn't whether he could afford it, but whether our r/s had progressed to the point where such gifts should be exchanged. In my opinion, it hadn't and accepting would have placed me in a position of being (or feeling) beholden. Not where I wanted to be. Shoes stirkes me as an odd gift. But maybe that's just me.
Hot Chick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I did already. IT WAS A BIRTHDAY GIFT. Plus he went to the trouble of picking out shoes she would like, as well as getting her size, etc. I think it would be very rude to not accept such a gift.
Hot Chick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 We have successful jobs so we can post while we work.:laugh: You are using that old comeback of "if you are on the Internet you have no life". It does not work very well. You should try to reply the post: It is not a good idea to accept an 800.00 gift and to be pressured into sex once the gift is accepted. You aren't as successful as you could be if you are at WORK on the internet on a non-work related website. That is not what successful people do.
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 You aren't as successful as you could be if you are at WORK on the internet on a non-work related website. That is not what successful people do. If you are self employed you have the time-------------trust me on that one.:laugh: But, why are you trying to deflect the theme of the conversation? That is a very old worn out poor debate trick. Why would you accept 800.00 gift from a man so soon? It sounds the guy wanted to buy her. Don't you get it? Read the post above from another female poster.
Ruby Slippers Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Wow, a lot of insecure guys on this board. You can go out and work hard and be successful, too. Get away from the computer and make it happen! How many women want to date men hanging around on Loveshack website all day taking potshots at posters asking legitimate questions in a dating section website. I can guarantee not CEOs! Get away from the computer, get an education, work HARD, make something of yourself, and you, too, can get a date! Right?! The bitterness and jealousy are never more apparent than in threads like this. How is sex after 5 dates too soon? If you like each other and things are going well, I see no need to wait more than a few dates. If the sex is bad, I'm not going to bother with the guy, so I might as well find out sooner than later how it is. As for the $800 gift, fellas, I've got news for you -- a guy who has the money to spend and who likes a woman has NO problem spending some money on her. One of my earliest dates with this well-to-do guy started at a high-end grocery store. We were going to cook a multi-course dinner with lots of expensive seafood, and he told me to pick out anything I wanted. By the end of the trip, he had spent over $100, and he thought nothing of it. A month later, he invited me on an overseas vacation that cost $2,000+, and again, thought nothing of the money. OP, ignore these bitter men who are angry they aren't getting sex, they don't have this kind of money to throw around, and they aren't in high-profile career positions. No matter what happens from here, you had some good times, and you'll be just fine.
todd Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 four females have cheated on me. shes acts like a princess like most all american females. they are gold diggers. your one too. I don't know you but I can see why four females have cheated on you the way you portray yourself on here. Women want men, not little boys who are whining about their situation and taking out their hatred for the opposite sex on other individuals instead of looking in the mirror to discover the real problem, YOU.
Feelsgoodman Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 You had 5 dates with a guy you really liked, then had great sex. How is this moving too fast? Even if you never talk to him again, you had fun, yes? Great dates, hot shoes, fun sex. Not too shabby! What it really boils down to is that you won't know what his intentions are till you see him again. So try to chill in the meantime, and live your life. Sounds like she wanted a lot more than a pair of $800 shoes (a $2,000 purse, vacation in Europe, maybe even a fancy car down the road?) When it comes to gold diggers and the men they date, the timing of sex is always tricky. You have to give it up to keep the guy hooked, yet you can't do it before he is already somewhat hooked. Waiting too long is just as dangerous as not waiting long enough, as gucci-craving, barter prostitutes outnumber CEOs of major companies by a ratio of 10,000:1 and competition is stiff.
sm1tten Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I think it was unwise to have sex with him prior to his leaving for a month for this exact reason - now you're twisting yourself up trying to figure out what he's thinking and what actions you can take to manipulate what he's thinking. You don't know if he's busy, losing interest, or whatever. And no, you can't pull back the p-card after you've already given it up and expect that to initiate interest. Was it too soon? Who knows. Should you have accepted the gift? Who cares. Water under the bridge now. Look at it two ways - you had some nice dates, some presumably good sex, and you got some shoes out of it. No one got used and no one got hurt, although maybe it won't go anywhere and you'll end up disappointed. Or, you had some nice dates, some presumably good sex, and you got some shoes out of it. No one got used and no one got hurt, and when he comes back you can proceed to continuing dating. Either way, you can learn from this experience. Don't get sexually or emotionally attached too quickly. (And "quickly" varies by person.) Don't bother playing games. Own your decisions. Reciprocate his actions with your actions (he's contacting you less? Don't bombard him with texts, for example).
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