confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I'm dating this guy. He's a CEO of a well-known company. We went on 5 dates and he really tried to impress me by taking me to all the best restaurants and even bought me a pair of $800 shoes for my birthday. I had sex with him this past Saturday. After that, he had to leave for New York for a month. I miss him terribly, even more after sex. He used to text me a lot (10 times/day) and still texted me quite a bit after sex on Sunday and Monday. But today (tuesday), he only sent me a quick "miss you" text. Should I be worried? I could feel that I'm getting attached to him after sex. How should I think of him texting less than before? Is he busy or losing interest? Should I play cool? Or let him know that I miss him terribly and can't wait to see him again? Some of my friends have recommended to show that you're less interested in him than he is in you. I think it's best to be honest, but play cool may work in the early stage such as this one. What do you think? Many thanks!
Ruby Slippers Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Should I play cool? Yes. Or let him know that I miss him terribly and can't wait to see him again? NO.
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Damn, this guy paid so much money just for sex. Either he is such a loser or money is just like a piece of paper for him since he has so much of it.
patagonia Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 To be honest, he might have lost interest after having sex with you. Not saying the sex was bad. It could have been great sex but I think sometimes sex comes too soon and then the romance is over. Just my opinion on what I read.
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Funny how women cant see what is really going on here.
Author confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks Patagonia for your honest opinion I will hold off sex for a few months in the future.
patagonia Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks Patagonia for your honest opinion I will hold off sex for a few months in the future. Get to know them first. I'm a guy yes and I know as much as women that when things are going good and you are attracted to the person, things go fast. Unfortunately it just doesn't work that way. Sex is an emotional/heart thing for most women and I would like to think for most men(but I don't think I'm right on that). For me, sex is a heart thing. Sex is or should be connected to the heart. That is why you feel more attached and he is running away after he got what he wanted(or so that is what it appears) You will get the hang of it! Hold onto your emotions next time, it will be ok! You've got some nice shoes now! I'm sure if you see him again, he will try to spoil you and get back in your pants...don't be suprised
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks Patagonia for your honest opinion I will hold off sex for a few months in the future. I highly doubt a CEO level guy would put up with not getting sex especially when he has been paying a lot of money.
patagonia Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I highly doubt a CEO level guy would put up with not getting sex especially when he has been paying a lot of money. Maybe she wasn't talking about with this individual? You are definitely right though. Which is even more of a reason to not go back out with him!
Author confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Patagonia, thanks for the follow up You're right. The guy is probably gone after he got what he wanted. I could only cry my heart out, in my pretty shoes. http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod58470075&parentId= I won't give out the cookie so fast next time.
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 (edited) Maybe she wasn't talking about with this individual? You are definitely right though. Which is even more of a reason to not go back out with him! Dude, this woman is no angel either. Do you really think the reason she went out with the guy had little to do with the fact that he was a CEO in the first place? I mean she even has to mention how he is a CEO of a well known company and he bought her a $800 pair of shoes and she even goes as far as POSTING A WEBPAGE OF THE SHOES TO PROVE HOW MUCH THEY REALLY COST! Like attracts like. Enough said. I won't give out the cookie so fast next time. So you are just gonna take the money and not giving the good? Business fraud. Edited August 10, 2011 by musemaj11
Hot Chick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I don't think all is lost. Don't listen to muse. He's bitter because he can't get dates. He did text "miss you" today. He didn't have to do that. I wouldn't initiate any contact with him, let him do it, play it "cool" like you stated. Also, you do not have to have sex again just because you've had it already. You have a right to say "I'd like to get to know you better before we continue having sex." If he is kind and with good intentions, this won't matter a bit to him. If he bails, then you do know it was just about the sex to him.
Author confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks for your kind words, Hot Chick I think your suggestion is great. I'll let him know (if he gets in touch) that we moved too fast and I would like to get to know him better, before we become physically intimate again. His response should tell me his true intention.
Author confusedgirl56 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 Musemaj11, I want you to leave my question thread and not make any further comments. I'm posting here during a vulnerable moment and don't welcome any personal attacks. I do have a thing for successful men. Don't you have a thing for pretty women?
patagonia Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks for your kind words, Hot Chick I think your suggestion is great. I'll let him know (if he gets in touch) that we moved too fast and I would like to get to know him better, before we become physically intimate again. His response should tell me his true intention. IF he gets in touch! Don't bother with him otherwise. Make him prove himself to you. He might just be busy and people do get carried away in the moment. Don't beat yourself up over it I'm not sure I'd tell him what your plan is, that way he can just play it cool until you collapse that's up to you though, heck I suck at all of this too!
Ruby Slippers Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 You had 5 dates with a guy you really liked, then had great sex. How is this moving too fast? Even if you never talk to him again, you had fun, yes? Great dates, hot shoes, fun sex. Not too shabby! What it really boils down to is that you won't know what his intentions are till you see him again. So try to chill in the meantime, and live your life.
patagonia Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I do have a thing for successful men. Don't you have a thing for pretty women? Touche! Besides, I'd let a woman buy me my equivalent expensive shoes, ie fishing rod or something nice Nothing wrong with that, he's the one who opened his wallet, granted it might have been for the wrong reasons You'll be ok. You are much the wiser now
patagonia Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 You had 5 dates with a guy you really liked, then had great sex. How is this moving too fast? Even if you never talk to him again, you had fun, yes? Great dates, hot shoes, fun sex. Not too shabby! What it really boils down to is that you won't know what his intentions are till you see him again. So try to chill in the meantime, and live your life. hahaha we all know where ruby slips stands on this issue I'm just givin' ya a hard time ruby
todd Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Play it cool. DO NOT become one of those clingy chicks that are waiting all day staring at their phone waiting for the guy to text them back. To musemaj11, not all successful individuals are looking to score with as many chicks as they can and thats it. Hot Chick said it best, if he wasn't in it jsut for the sex then he wont care if you say you want to slow things down and bit and get to know him a little better. For me its kind of a turn-off if she comes on too me really quickly. I feel like she just sees my success and wants to hook me in by giving it up to me because she thinks thats how she can get me interested. Just let the relationship play out as it will. Stay cool, don't push too much. Dont blow up if he doesnt respond to your texts in a matter of minutes. Do not be the controlling gf. Trust in your guys relaitonship until you have actions that tell you otherwise. If it is meant to be it will be. Dont force it
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I do have a thing for successful men. Don't you have a thing for pretty women? At least you are honest about being a gold digger. Its not that I think you are wrong for wanting to trade your beauty for his money. Its just that I objected to the guy who insinuated that as if you are the victim and the man is the user. The fact is both of you are users and I dont see why you should feel upset if he is never gonna contact you again. I mean you want his money and he wants sex from you. Both of you have got what each other wants. Its fair. Everyone should be happy. Move on to your next target.
Hot Chick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 (edited) Todd gives good advice. It's only been since Saturday - today is Tuesday, and he DID text you today, even though it's only once, and he did say he missed you! You said he had a lot of contact on Sunday, just less on Monday, and less today. He is out of town for a while so I wouldn't be worried at this point. Muse - confused is not a golddigger. Just because a woman is into successful men, doesn't make her a gold digger. I personally don't want to date a stoner with no job living in his parents' basement, I want to date a guy who has worked hard to achieve. Nothing wrong with that. Usually successful men go for successful women, also. It's sad that you see dating as a business transaction such as a prostitute and sex. You will always remain single as long as you see it that way. Edited August 10, 2011 by Hot Chick
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Muse - confused is not a golddigger. Just because a woman is into successful men, doesn't make her a gold digger. I personally don't want to date a stoner with no job living in his parents' basement, I want to date a guy who has worked hard to achieve. Nothing wrong with that. Usually successful men go for successful women, also. Yea thats right. There are only two types of men in this world. Either he is a CEO or he is a jobless stoner. Confused didnt mention what her own financial status is. If she herself is at CEO level in terms of income then I truly am sorry for my judgment. It's sad that you see dating as a business transaction such as a prostitute and sex. When did I say dating is prostitution? You are putting words into my mouth. Dating is dating and prostitution is prostitution. When you are trading sex for money its prostitution, not dating.
MrNate Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 As long as you accept that he may never contact you again, and become cold, you have nothing to worry about. It's like a old saying I heard once, "If you have no expectations, you won't be disappointed."
thatone Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Thanks for your kind words, Hot Chick I think your suggestion is great. I'll let him know (if he gets in touch) that we moved too fast and I would like to get to know him better, before we become physically intimate again. His response should tell me his true intention. wrong answer. you can't undo what's been done. if you try to withhold sex he'll be gone. you gotta play it smarter than that at this point.
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