Flipper Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I tend to get "testy" and want to fight when a guy is intentionally messing with me and want to fight him, whether it's about a girl or not.... although I've never actually swung on a guy, my adrenaline starts pumping when a guy is trying to mess with me, and I stay angry about it for a loooong time. If a guy messes with me that's one thing... but when he goes after my GIRL, whether it's to hit on her or just to get at me, I don't know what to do. My face starts flushing because I'm getting so angry and I don't fight for several reasons... I become speechless because I'm so upset about it... and if the girl is pretty, it's very often the same type of guy, quarterback-type guy who feels he's got something to prove. Gosh I get angry thinking about it.... Should a guy beat the other guys ass in a situation like this? Or is that immature? What is the appropiate thing to do in this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Get a gun? Seriously, just remove yourself (and your girl) from the situation. It isn't worth the potential jail time. Link to post Share on other sites
california15 Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I wouldn't like my boyfriend to make a scene just to 'prove' he's more macho if a guy starts hitting on me. The other guy is probably looking for a reaction from you if he's a real douchebag. The mature thing is not to fight, but however in certain circumstances if the girl is being physically touched or bothered by the other guy, then that is a different situation. I think its Its also up to the girl if she's bothered by it too, to say something / get up and move to another seat. If he flirts with her, and she with him, and she tells you to relax (even after you tell her it makes you incomfortable) then thats a problem with her also. I feel that only jealous guys would get uneasy about another guy coming over to talk to/hit on his girlfriend. If the girl is mature as well, then it isn't an issue - you have an attractive girl and its flattering But no, don't try to beat up every tom dick and harry that approaches your girl. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 its your womans job to get rid of him. if she fails or does nothing then you get rid of him. if you have to beat the crap out of him. chicks love a good fight no matter what they may say Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Yeah, girls love guys who are jealous and possessive and can't control their temper. No really, you can't go around attacking people for no reason. You'll either get killed or arrested. And your girl will not be impressed. She'd probably just be afraid of you after that. If your girl doesn't flirt back, then you have nothing to worry about. Other guys can flirt with her all they want, but they'll never get her. So just be cool, act like it doesn't bother you. Unless, of course, the other guy is actually threatening her or hurting her. Then you might want to step in, but a verbal "Leave her alone" would probably suffice. I can't imagine you would actually need to hit anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 its your womans job to get rid of him. if she fails or does nothing then you get rid of him. if you have to beat the crap out of him. chicks love a good fight no matter what they may say You speak the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 If you're sitting close to your girlfriend, possibly with an arm around her and some guy starts to hit on her, he's jacking around with YOU. Your girl should know this and freeze him off. If she solicits his attention, then you stand up and leave without her. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 (edited) Agreed with the others. If a guy is hitting on your girl, it is her job to freeze him out. You can put an arm around her and suggest you guys walk to another area. If he puts her hands on her and she does not want him to, feel free to step in and tell him to back off (then you can beat his ass if necessary). I don't know how big you are, but that can make difference. I am a pretty big guy ( the size of a light heavyweight fighter) and if I put my arm around her and walk away it usually works. I have had smaller friends where the other guy gets physical. Just be careful. Edited August 10, 2011 by Sanman Link to post Share on other sites
todd Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 its your womans job to get rid of him. if she fails or does nothing then you get rid of him. if you have to beat the crap out of him. chicks love a good fight no matter what they may say Most women I know think that fighting is childish and do not think it has a place when they are out with you. I agree that it is the womans job to freeze him out and show that she is not interested while you play it cool and let her work. If you step up prematurely and try intervene then you will come off as controlling and come off negative to your girl. It shows that you do not feel she is strong enough to take care of herself. The only time you should step in is if she actually begins to feel threatened. You should be able to tell by her demeanor or she might even give you a look. In that case you step in but still try to avoid starting a fight. Times that can justify a fight is if he touches your girl inappropriately or touches her in general when she is already in a threatened state and her attempts at dissolving the individual have failed. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I tend to get "testy" and want to fight when a guy is intentionally messing with me and want to fight him, whether it's about a girl or not.... although I've never actually swung on a guy, my adrenaline starts pumping when a guy is trying to mess with me, and I stay angry about it for a loooong time. If a guy messes with me that's one thing... but when he goes after my GIRL, whether it's to hit on her or just to get at me, I don't know what to do. My face starts flushing because I'm getting so angry and I don't fight for several reasons... I become speechless because I'm so upset about it... and if the girl is pretty, it's very often the same type of guy, quarterback-type guy who feels he's got something to prove. Gosh I get angry thinking about it.... Should a guy beat the other guys ass in a situation like this? Or is that immature? What is the appropiate thing to do in this situation? No need to fight, just tell the guy to take a hike, and then lead your gf away from the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Jealous guys are usually losers who think that they cant get someone else so they are so afraid to lose their girls. If someone hits on my gf in my presence, I would fight him, not because Im jealous, but because he is obviously intentionally messing with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Jealous guys are usually losers who think that they cant get someone else so they are so afraid to lose their girls. If someone hits on my gf in my presence, I would fight him, not because Im jealous, but because he is obviously intentionally messing with me. As a total aside, I was at a local bar for a birthday party. This guy and a couple of his buddies decided to pick on one of my friends while he was with his girl (5'7'' skinny guy) and choked him. No one saw it, but he mentioned it to me right afterward. What this bully didn't know was that the entire bar was filled with our friends for a birthday party. There were literally 30 guys who would have thrown down on his behalf. This bully has no idea that the only reason that he is not in a hospital now is that my friend is the forgiving type who does not like violence. Moral of the story, you never know what you are getting yourself into with violence. Link to post Share on other sites
counterman Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I've been in this situation before where guys that I know purposely hit on my girlfriend to mess with me, especially with me there. My ex-girlfriend use to tell me to relax and would continue flirting with the guy. If a girl is going to be a girlfriend, she's going to have to be able to defend our relationship and remove herself from situations like that. If she continues to give that guy attention and flirt with him, I'm walking away... for good. No use getting myself into a fight. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 It's her job to tell a man no. I will back her up if he gives her any problems but I am not fighting over a woman. If she flirts back I will leave her with him. Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 (edited) chicks love a good fight no matter what they may sayIf they would, then I would to stay the hell away from them. If I got into a fight with guy, then afterwards we both thought that was incredibly stupid. If someone wants to make a show out of that, they are not to be kept around. It's up to her to handle guys hitting on her, unless she explicitly asks me to do that. If she likes it too much, it's about time to reevaluate, if I want her. Edited August 10, 2011 by rafallus Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 If they would, then I would to stay the hell away from them. If I got into a fight with guy, then afterwards we both thought that was incredibly stupid. If someone wants to make a show out of that, they are not to be kept around. It's up to her to handle guys hitting on her, unless she explicitly asks me to do that. If she likes it too much, it's about time to reevaluate, if I want her. This is it exactly. It's much easier for a woman to get rid of the guy anyway, takes about 10 seconds Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Get involved in Martial Arts, not to give you the ability to kick ass but to give you the self confidence to not feel like you need to. It also helps relieve tension. Link to post Share on other sites
wezol Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 No girl is worth fighting over, over something like this. Fighting over a girl is a fine line. Say if a man slaps her ass, let her deal with it. If she doesn't and just laughs then there will be an issue with HER. Now if a guy walks up to her, puts his hands on her and tries to grope her while she tries to push him off, then he will end up in the hospital. In this scenario, I will not fight fair, and I will win. Link to post Share on other sites
wezol Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Get involved in Martial Arts, not to give you the ability to kick ass but to give you the self confidence to not feel like you need to. It also helps relieve tension. Very sound advice, and it will also teach you that things you think are worth fighting over, aren't really that big of a deal. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 It's her job to tell a man no. I will back her up if he gives her any problems but I am not fighting over a woman. If she flirts back I will leave her with him. indeed..... Link to post Share on other sites
wezol Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 My exW only got hit on once while I was with her, most of the time it was while she was up ordering a drink, or using the restroom. I never took it personally. The one time someone did hit on her in my presence, she didn't take to his advances and I was nice to him, even advised him on a good drink. He was nice back, and walked away. Took him by complete surprise. Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 A person that tries to get under your skin by directing their attention to your date shouldn't be rewarded with your public anger - its what they want. Try to inject humor and see if their rudeness evaporates. If not you leave. Even the more extreme version - they begin to insult and hassle your date to goad you to public anger - even more so it should not be rewarded with your anger. Doing so could end up with you and/or your date injured. You leave...... And wait in the dark corner of the parking lot with a bat. Link to post Share on other sites
ilikesunita Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 You don't control anyone or anything, why "beat somebody up" for talking to your girl? Are most guys in Western society who follow pop culture mentality mentally ill or something? Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I tend to get "testy" and want to fight when a guy is intentionally messing with me and want to fight him, whether it's about a girl or not.... although I've never actually swung on a guy, my adrenaline starts pumping when a guy is trying to mess with me, and I stay angry about it for a loooong time. If a guy messes with me that's one thing... but when he goes after my GIRL, whether it's to hit on her or just to get at me, I don't know what to do. My face starts flushing because I'm getting so angry and I don't fight for several reasons... I become speechless because I'm so upset about it... and if the girl is pretty, it's very often the same type of guy, quarterback-type guy who feels he's got something to prove. Gosh I get angry thinking about it.... Should a guy beat the other guys ass in a situation like this? Or is that immature? What is the appropiate thing to do in this situation? If a guy actually tries to grab or threaten or overpower me in some way, I'd like a fellow I'm with (or any friends, really) to come over and help me to a reasonable degree. (Not smash his face in, but make sure I'm okay and help me get him away.) If he's just hitting on me, I can take care of that. ESPECIALLY if my guy is around. Easy-peasy. "Go away (or no thanks, if the guy is actually nice and not trying to be a jerkwad), I'm here with my fellow." The end. If a man were to get all feisty because some guy found me attractive and/or hit on me, I think I'd have to reconsider dating him. That seems immature to me. If the guy who hit on me was obviously being a jerk or knew I was there with someone and was thus inappropriate, it's fine to make fun of him later or call him a jerk, but nothing from the guy is really required. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 If he doesn't know I'm her guy, I'll come a collecting her. If he knows and he is dissing me I'll probably something like "hey, fu_k-face, get you're fu_king ass out of here if you know what's good for you". You know, sweet stuff like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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