candid_xo Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 I broke up with my ex 3 1/2 years ago, but never really got over him, a few months after the break up, I texted him to apologize for everything but he told me never to speak to him again. 2 weeks ago, I was sitting at a table in my university and I saw him, and ran the other direction because I didn't want him to see me nor did I know what to say to him, and he also has the effect on me. My best friend (and I) feel like maybe speaking to him will help give me some closure or have SOMETHING happen even if its just a "Hey" I decided that today (Tuesday) is the last day I'll be able to see him seeing as the semester is over, so I got all dolled up, and as I turned a corner, I saw him walking away on the other side of the building. I decided to try & discreetly try to catch up to maybe bump into him, but to no avail. I want to see him and just resolve things. But I feel like this is my luck, when I'm given an opportunity, I run the other way, and when I'm prepared I'm never close enough.
GaelicSoul Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Hi Candid_xo. Firstly, thanks for telling us your story. Can i ask you a few questions. 1. How long were you going out? 2. Why did you break up with him? 3. What age are you? 4. When did you last speak to him, did he try to contact you since? 5. Why do you want to talk to him now..Honestly? Thanks GS
Author candid_xo Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 1) We were going out on and off for almost 2 years 2) We broke up because he basically insinuated that if I didn't have sex with him as he requested it meant I didn't love him 3) I met him when I was 15 1/2 and we stopped speaking 9 months before I turned 18 4) The last time I spoke to him was June 2008, in which I tried to apologize to him and just have him not hate me and tell hi I was happy he was dating someone else and as long as he was happy, it was great. 5) I've actually wanted to speak to him for a while. Every so often I just get into these spirals and I always compare my relationships to the one I had with him. I've tried to get rid of all his things, gifts he gave me, birthday cards and nothing seems to work. For a while I actually thought he fell off the planet because he is so unattainable and really unsearchable. 2 weeks ago is actually the first time I had really seen him since January 2008.
GaelicSoul Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Hi Candid, Well the reason you broke up with him so is basically he wanted to have sex with you only on his terms. That doesnt make a healthy relationship. Sounds like he was selfish and immature to you, and credit for you for breaking up with him at the time. I think the fact you saw him recently, it has stirred some emotions in you again. It sounds like you still feel guitly about breaking up with him. He may still resent you, or just wants to move on with his life at this point if he hasnt spoken to you. You did break up with him, so he was probably hurt. I would let him be if i was you. If you really want to pursue it then you could try a quick "hi" if you see him again. If he ignores you then just let him be, dont contact him again and move on. Your young and you should enjoy the next few years. I would stay out of relationships however if i was you until your at least 25! Go out, party, meet new people, spend time really getting to know yourself and who you are. You wont be left on the shelf i promise Enjoy college!
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