zig Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 (edited) As a man I think condoms take away almost half of the total sexual experience. I'd like to hear from some of the women on this. Does sex feel better for a woman without a condom? Ladies, please tell us the truth on this. My g/f is always telling me she doesn't want to use a condom but I don't know if she likes it better without one (says she does) or is hoping for an accident. Edited August 10, 2011 by zig
Author zig Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 I hate to be impatient but I don't think I'll be able to sleep tonight unless I get an answer on this. peace.
CatNtheHat Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 As a man I think condoms take away almost half of the total sexual experience. I'd like to hear from some of the women on this. Does sex feel better for a woman without a condom? Ladies, please tell us the truth on this. My g/f is always telling me she doesn't want to use a condom but I don't know if she likes it better without one (says she does) or is hoping for an accident. I can't tell the difference.
LoveandSuch Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Condoms=horrible. Although, if a must a must. My vagina is super sensitive, and when aroused, is hypersentive. The penis feels degrees more natural, tight friction, against my skin. A condom feel fake, and when the penis enters you can feel the condom. Uncomfortable and does not feel nearly as nice. JMHO
Cypress25 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I'm a woman and I can't even feel the condom. I would never have sex without one, even though I'm on the pill. Having two methods of contraception makes me feel extra safe. I've never been with a guy who complained about condoms. My boyfriend just automatically reaches for a condom when we're about to have sex. In fact, he had to hunt around for the box of condoms once because his nightstand was cluttered and I made a joke about hiding them, and he was like "I'd only look for a minute, then I'd just run downstairs and get some Saran wrap." There are some women who claim they don't like condoms, but I think it's mostly in their head. Those are also the women who end up with an unplanned pregnancy because they forgot their pill one day and they had no backup method. So if you don't want to leave it entirely in your girlfriend's hands, take some control of your sperm and wrap it up. It's the only way.
FitChick Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 My g/f is always telling me she doesn't want to use a condom but I don't know if she likes it better without one (says she does) or is hoping for an accident. Of course she wants to get pregnant. Extra money for 18 years. Get a vasectomy. They aren't that expensive (certainly not compared to $250K to raise a kid). If you can't afford it, call Planned Parenthood and see if you can get a reduced rate. Don't tell the girlfriend.
CatNtheHat Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Of course she wants to get pregnant. Extra money for 18 years. Get a vasectomy. They aren't that expensive (certainly not compared to $250K to raise a kid). If you can't afford it, call Planned Parenthood and see if you can get a reduced rate. Don't tell the girlfriend. wtf? so you are saying he should intentionally lie to his gf and get a life changing procedure? that is a pretty warped answer. If he doesn't have the necessary trust that a relationship needs and he really believes she would trick him, he shouldn't be putting his penis inside her. Getting surgery and than lie about it, is the worst thing he could do.
Cypress25 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Of course she wants to get pregnant. Extra money for 18 years. Child support is not extra money. It's just barely enough to cover half of the child's expenses. The mother has to cover the other half by herself if the couple is not married. Most women understand that getting child support will not make them rich because the money has to be spent on the kid. And a vasectomy is kind of a permanent solution. I think condoms would be good enough.
Lucky_One Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I couldn't really tell the difference, if it was a well-fitting condom. I also really liked the idea that he was the one trotting away to the bathroom, while I got to stay in bed in the warm sheets.
Pierre Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 It feels like kissing a through a glass window. That is why it is better to have sex in a committed monogamous situation.
Star Gazer Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I couldn't really tell the difference, if it was a well-fitting condom. I also really liked the idea that he was the one trotting away to the bathroom, while I got to stay in bed in the warm sheets. This, totally. But the knowledge during bareback sex that we're not using a condom does make it hotter/better, IMO.
Cypress25 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 It feels like kissing a through a glass window. That is why it is better to have sex in a committed monogamous situation. I'm sure it varies depending on the person, but many guys seem to enjoy sex just fine with a condom. Experiment with different brands and varieties until you find one you like. I agree that sex is better in a committed monogamous relationship (indeed, that's the only kind of sex I've ever had), but that doesn't mean you don't need a condom. First of all, you could be in a monogamous relationship with someone who contracted an STD from a previous relationship. Some people are born with an STD. Second of all, condoms also prevent pregnancy. It's foolish to rely on just one method of birth control. The pill can fail. Condoms can fail. If you use both, you'll never have to deal with an unwanted pregnancy.
zengirl Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I think (how do you ever really know?) that I'm super sensitive compared to other gals. It means I orgasm easier (nice) but it means condoms bother me more (boo). They start to chafe if I have sex as much as I'd like to (which granted is a lot), so they aren't a good long-term solution. I go on BC when I have sex, and it's always in a committed, monogamous relationship. I could never use condoms long-term (short term, I can and have, obviously), but I'm super careful with my BC and have never gotten pregnant or had a scare. And I certainly don't WANT to get pregnant. IMO: condoms suck. They suck for me, and they suck even more for the guy. They are perfect for casual sex, but unnecessary for relationships if you can do hormonal BC (and you can always add cycle tracking, pull out---ineffective on its own, of course---and finishing in other ways to the days you're most fertile if you're really concerned). Technically BC is more effective than condoms, and I am more in control of how close I come to "perfect use" with the pill (though the guy is more in control of "perfect use" with a condom, so I can see how paranoid men might dig that). As for STDs, I would never have sex with someone who hadn't been tested and cleared.
Enchanted Girl Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Well, one huge difference for me when it comes to condoms versus no condoms is that I like the feel of his cum in my vagina after we have sex. Yes, it leaks outs and stuff, but it feels good, like he left his mark on me . . . . and with a condom, I can't feel that, but I haven't really used condoms much in any relationship. I'm always on the pill. It feels like kissing a through a glass window. That is why it is better to have sex in a committed monogamous situation. Agreed. Sex is much better that way. =D
Ruby Slippers Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 They are only slightly noticeable to me, though I prefer not using them, as then you feel more of the guy's natural lubrication and heat, which is hot. My best lover by far used condoms and had no problem with them at all. What a champ.
iris219 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 My biggest complaint about condoms is that they interrupt the moment. You have stop, find one, open the package, roll it on. This is definitely a mood killer. I think sex feels different and not as good with a condom, but the difference isn't so big that it ruins sex. I like that it's cleaner for me--no cum on my stomach or back, although sometimes I like to see the cum. Depends on my mood. I don't take the pill so coming inside me is not an option (I prefer not to have cum inside me anyway).
Cypress25 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 My biggest complaint about condoms is that they interrupt the moment. You have stop, find one, open the package, roll it on. This is definitely a mood killer. This should take no more than 10 seconds. Keep the box of condoms on the nightstand next to the bed so you don't have to go looking for them. It doesn't kill the mood for me; personally, I kind of like the few seconds of anticipation it gives me. You could always put the condom on for him, if you want to make it part of foreplay. Better yet, roll it on using your mouth. Just watch the teeth. I don't take the pill so coming inside me is not an option Relying on the pull-out method? Good luck with that.
iris219 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 (edited) Relying on the pull-out method? Good luck with that. I'm not having sex at all right now and won't until I'm in a committed relationship. I'm 32, so getting pregnant wouldn't be a terrible thing. I keep track of my cycle so I know exactly when I'm ovulating, and this has been completely effective. Edited August 11, 2011 by iris219
Feelin Frisky Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Try some of each type. I find the lamb skin ones--a sheathe instead of a latex balloon--to feel very much like nothing but pussy. And my g/f(s) sometimes like them more than you'd think. I asked one once "should I put it back on?" And she was very emphatic about how good that thing felt. She said "yeah, the bag, gimme the bag" (meaning the sheathe I was using). They are not the safest condoms and supposedly don't stop HIV but they work well enough. Just don't leave it in there osmosissing by itself--they do come off easily inside. Latex condoms are totally different and can be the opposite--a downer for a guy. Some women like the ribbed ones.
Dust Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I'm a woman and I can't even feel the condom. I would never have sex without one, even though I'm on the pill. Having two methods of contraception makes me feel extra safe. I've never been with a guy who complained about condoms. My boyfriend just automatically reaches for a condom when we're about to have sex. In fact, he had to hunt around for the box of condoms once because his nightstand was cluttered and I made a joke about hiding them, and he was like "I'd only look for a minute, then I'd just run downstairs and get some Saran wrap." There are some women who claim they don't like condoms, but I think it's mostly in their head. Those are also the women who end up with an unplanned pregnancy because they forgot their pill one day and they had no backup method. So if you don't want to leave it entirely in your girlfriend's hands, take some control of your sperm and wrap it up. It's the only way. So you’ve never had sex with out a condom so how would you know? As a man it is so much better with out a condom. I especially like to cum deep inside the girl.
Cypress25 Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 So you’ve never had sex with out a condom so how would you know? Once I had sex without a condom...for two minutes. My boyfriend had taken Percocet that day (prescribed for severe headaches) and we all know what opioid painkillers can do to an erection. They make it last forever, in case you didn't know. So we started out with a condom as usual and I noticed that it was taking a long time. Finally he said he wouldn't be able to cum with the condom on, so I let him take it off. I was also on the pill and he said he'd pull out. So he tries again without the condom and he was like "Oh wow, does that feel different to you?" I said yes, but honestly, it felt exactly the same. I believe it felt different to him, but I couldn't tell the difference. The best part is, he still couldn't cum. After a few minutes of that, he just gave up and we went to sleep, lol. He was muttering about his Percocet and I was like "Well, look on the bright side, at least you don't have a headache." It's funny because the only time the condom bothered him was when he was on hardcore narcotics. Removing the condom didn't solve the problem. As a man it is so much better with out a condom. I have no doubt. But people don't use condoms because they love the way they feel. They use condoms because they're serious about protecting themselves. I mean, I think seatbelts are uncomfortable but I still wear them because they protect me. Sometimes you have to sacrifice a little comfort to keep yourself (and your partner) safe. If you use the right kind and the right size, condoms should not seriously affect your enjoyment of sex. Maybe they bring the experience from 100% to 90%. Big deal.
Mr. Slim Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Totally hate them. Though, they do give me for all intents and purposes unlimited staying power, since they reduce the feeling so damn much...
Dust Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 Totally hate them. Though, they do give me for all intents and purposes unlimited staying power, since they reduce the feeling so damn much... For me its so uncomfortable I feel like I’m not even enjoying and could lose my erection.
Enchanted Girl Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 For me its so uncomfortable I feel like I’m not even enjoying and could lose my erection. My current boyfriend actually does lose his erection every time he puts on a condom, so I insisted that he stop using them. It was unsafe and ruining our sex.
OliveOyl Posted August 11, 2011 Posted August 11, 2011 I can definitely tell the difference. Not only can I feel condoms, I can smell them; that latex smell really turns me off. It's a much better experience without condoms. However, they are a clear necessity for many people's situation, and if there was a risk of pregnancy or STDs, I would definitely insist on their use.
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