He broke up with me out of the blue(what do you think he wants?)

[lana_sa]

So me and my ex have been in a long distance relationship thing for around 11 months.During that time it was always he that was the one searching for more,,99% of times he wrote or called first.He always used to say that even though we live far away from each other he wants to continue and is willing to sacrifice for that.This continued to be so untill the very day he broke up with me.All of suddenly i got a text from him where he "explained" how long distance doesn't work for him,he needs a gf close to him,he doesn't want to lose contact with me and asked me not to delete him from facebook.It came out of the blue..i could not believe it,so i just didnt know what to say,so i wrote back and said if that's what you want i respect it.We haven't heard since then(now its 2 days)

 

I really would like to know what really happened to him,,i dont believe in his story,,it cant change that radically during one night.What could it be? should i contact him first ?

[SugarLily]

It 'could' be anything. He 'could' have met someone else, he 'could' have cheated on you, he 'could' have decided that he actually wants to be a woman and is going ahead with a full on sex change! My point is - it 'could' be for any reason. But you know what? You need to accept that you're probably never going to find out the truth about it all. The fact is whatever happened, he came to that conclusion - he made the decision to break up with you. I know it's beyond tempting but DO NOT CONTACT HIM. You need to focus on yourself. You need to move forwards with your own life. Heartbreak is the worst feeling in the world, but guess what? The world keeps spinning. Life goes on. You need to initiate no contact - I don't give a flying f*** what he says, delete him off fb NOW. And can I also just add that I really don't have much respect for someone who 'dumps' their girlfriend of 11 months via text. What a di*k. This does not sound like the kind of person you (or anyone else) should want to be with. Do not contact this twirp. Be selfish and think about what you want from life - and go after it. This is an opportunity for you to work on yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness.

 

x

[dylan797]

I couldn't agree more. It could be anything. Most likely he met someone else, and is not being completely honest about it. But who knows. People are strange. ....DO NOT CONTACT HIM! That being said, it's really not hard NOT contacting and ex--the hard part is not responding when he contacts you.

[lana_sa]

Thanks for your answer,,,well what can i say I really like this guy and he never did anything wrong to me until this ..it was rather me that hurt his feelings a few times,so i cant hate him...the fact that i don't know why he did this is making me crazy.THIS IS SO NOT HIM,its like a new person.and I WONT contact him first,never ever...but i thought that if he contacts first i will give him a short answer...nothing about our breakup or so.I guess i still hope that we will solve this out

Edited August 10, 2011 by lana_sa