Cosmo14 Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 I know most guys watch porn but is there such thing as too much? I'm freaking out that my guy is fantasizing about the things he sees in porn when were having sex... He tries to put "porn moves" as I call them, on me and I swear I can't help but get freaked out and laugh because I know he's getting these ideas from videos!
Feelin Frisky Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Sure there can be too much. And it doesn't have to come under the heading of addiction. Human being have never had an instantaneous way to have actual sexual activity represented to them for free at their click of a button. This demands a formal understanding of the issues. Since most people have already passed through education and have no mechanism to understand the new cultural rights and wrongs, many people are just defaulting to whatever happens and at potential perils and pitfalls. What's more, education does not yet even address the kind of social literacy needed to understand information age powers and responsibilities. And education won't change as it is being squeezed by the right wing in America to go private. That debate is taking forever and it is the republicans who are least likely to address sex education and social development in their privatized model due to their co-opting the religious-type folks out there who vote for them. There are plenty of cases--and a lot of them addressed here on Love Shack in recent months--where men are driving their partners crazy with excessive use of porn. Check around for the many thread where women say that wonder what is wrong with them that their guys are choosing porn over them. It ain't right or healthy--it's social illiteracy illustrated. But we are all socially illiterate for having just been processed though the education factory that neglects the development of individual identities. I write about this a lot. Good luck.
Leumas Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I'm sure there are some extreme cases but I think a lot of women make too big a deal of their guy watching porn. It doesn't necessarily mean he's unsatisfied with you or finds the other women in the video more attractive. I'm sure most guys don't fantasize about having a porn slut as a girlfriend either. Maybe what you should do is watch some porn together. Ask him questions about what he finds most appealing. Maybe you will learn more about how to satisfy him. It might be a certain position, angle, or way to move your hips or whatever. Now if you do this and find out that your man is into some really extreme and hardcore ***** then you may have a problem. There is a lot of stuff out there that is pretty gross. What kind of "porn moves" are freaking you out?
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