Unbalanced Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 I am 21 years old. ALL my friends acne problems seem to have gone away but mine. My acne problem is extremely bipolar as far as the severity of it, and it is this bipolar trait of it that has made me realize it is negatively effecting my relationship. Basically, it is effecting it because it is effecting me. Whenever I break out in certain ways such as big pimples, many small ones, bad located big or small ones, whiteheads, or any combination of those, I obsess over it. I can barely go 10 minutes without thinking about it because I hate the way I look when this happens. On the other hand, once in a blue moon I'll have a perfectly clear face which lasts up to two days if I'm lucky. When I am perfectly clear, I feel that everything is going well in my life, especially my relationship with my girlfriend. I feel like its only when I don't have acne that I can focus on only my girlfriend when we are out, and not on my face. Two days ago I had a somewhat perfectly clear face, and I really had the best time with my girlfriend, I enjoyed every second of it, and I was able to confidently say she did too. Now two days later, and I have 4 more pimples .. I wish I could get rid of them of course, but no matter what perscription I try, or diet I use, nothing seems to work 100%. I guess more importantly, I just wish it didn't effect my self esteem the way it does, and I don't know how to go about not worrying about it and only it once the breakouts occur. Whenever my self esteem is low, I think my relationship is failing, and when its high I feel like I have the best thing going on. I don't know what to do. She has never commented on or looked at me different when I have broken out, but I guess I subconsciously can't believe she doesn't notice anything if its the ONLY thing I can notice.
conehead Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 I am 21 years old. ALL my friends acne problems seem to have gone away but mine. My acne problem is extremely bipolar as far as the severity of it, and it is this bipolar trait of it that has made me realize it is negatively effecting my relationship. Basically, it is effecting it because it is effecting me. Whenever I break out in certain ways such as big pimples, many small ones, bad located big or small ones, whiteheads, or any combination of those, I obsess over it. I can barely go 10 minutes without thinking about it because I hate the way I look when this happens. On the other hand, once in a blue moon I'll have a perfectly clear face which lasts up to two days if I'm lucky. When I am perfectly clear, I feel that everything is going well in my life, especially my relationship with my girlfriend. I feel like its only when I don't have acne that I can focus on only my girlfriend when we are out, and not on my face. Two days ago I had a somewhat perfectly clear face, and I really had the best time with my girlfriend, I enjoyed every second of it, and I was able to confidently say she did too. Now two days later, and I have 4 more pimples .. I wish I could get rid of them of course, but no matter what perscription I try, or diet I use, nothing seems to work 100%. I guess more importantly, I just wish it didn't effect my self esteem the way it does, and I don't know how to go about not worrying about it and only it once the breakouts occur. Whenever my self esteem is low, I think my relationship is failing, and when its high I feel like I have the best thing going on. I don't know what to do. She has never commented on or looked at me different when I have broken out, but I guess I subconsciously can't believe she doesn't notice anything if its the ONLY thing I can notice. I bet you your acne is not nearly as severe as you put it, and that is why your gf prob doesnt even notice it!! Have you ever considered the drug Accutane? It has a 99% success rate at actually CURING acne...that means you take it for 5 months then you are cured for life! I took it and it cleared my skin...it did for my sister and a few of my friends too. You should really consider it...it will change your life!
rightfield Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 The drug that worked for me is a topical named Duac. It's an antibiotic that is absorbed deep into the skin. Different things work for different people. I assume you are seeing a good Dermatologist.
ivalm Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I bet you your acne is not nearly as severe as you put it, and that is why your gf prob doesnt even notice it!! Have you ever considered the drug Accutane? It has a 99% success rate at actually CURING acne...that means you take it for 5 months then you are cured for life! I took it and it cleared my skin...it did for my sister and a few of my friends too. You should really consider it...it will change your life! Accutane has something like 30% side effect rate. You can severely and permanently damage your liver or brain with it and thus it's not recommended for use unless all other options (ie, antibiotics) have failed.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I know that you won't want to hear this, but some women don't care about stuff like this. And I'm sure that your girlfriend doesn't care about it. Have you talked to her about it? Maybe she will help raise your confidence in yourself?
stillafool Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 What state to you live in? If you are near a large city, start getting deep cleaning facials. They will steam your pores and open and clean them. (It will probably hurt like crazy the first time but your face will be on it's way to clear in no time.) My friend was troubled with severe acne and she did this and her face is now 'smooth sailing'. It's worth the money.
HappyPanda Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Accutane has something like 30% side effect rate. You can severely and permanently damage your liver or brain with it and thus it's not recommended for use unless all other options (ie, antibiotics) have failed. On top of this, Accutane is also extremely volatile. It can have many adverse side effects, namely extreme suicidal ideologies... No offense to the poster, but it seems as if his depression (seemingly) could be problematic. It has proven to work for one person I know, but he had to go to a counselor throughout his prescription, due to a family history of bi polar as well as boughts of depression... It also took him 4 rounds of the drug to completely clear his skin, which is (apparently) practically unheard of, and very dangerous. However, His ends justified his means, because he's had clear skin for years now. For what its worth, I cant exactly say that I know what you're going through... But I can say that I dated a man once with acne, and from what you've described, it was WAAAAY worse. Throughout our 3 year relationship, It didnt matter if he had a break out on his face, or a horn growing out of his head. I loved him dearly.
Rinas Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 When I was younger I had numerous problems with this. I also went to a dermatologist and was prescribed some antibiotics. You can get them in pill or cream form. It's worth a visit if it's really hitting your confidence.
D-Lish Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Accutane worked wonders for my exH- but he took it long before they knew about side effects. Have you tried pro-active? I know so many people that have had major success with it.
california15 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I knew a friend who tried all the acne face washes out there, but had the best success when she switched to super gentle baby soap - I guess all the acne face washes were too harsh.
D-Lish Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I knew a friend who tried all the acne face washes out there, but had the best success when she switched to super gentle baby soap - I guess all the acne face washes were too harsh. They all start out as harsh at first- before they begin to work. It's usually just something you have to endure in the initial stages. When my husband started accutane- his face peeled and his lips cracked and this lasted for a couple of weeks. I met him shortly after he took it- it worked for him, that's for sure. I think it's more harmful to women than it is to men.
krz12 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 They all start out as harsh at first- before they begin to work. It's usually just something you have to endure in the initial stages. When my husband started accutane- his face peeled and his lips cracked and this lasted for a couple of weeks. I met him shortly after he took it- it worked for him, that's for sure. I think it's more harmful to women than it is to men. It is, that is partially due to what it does to pregnancy.
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