DSVET9091 Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 What is your intake on people who have long term affairs like 8-9 years than marry their mistress. Do these kind of relationships last?
David Cain Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 What is your intake on people who have long term affairs like 8-9 years than marry their mistress. Do these kind of relationships last? People who have long-term affairs are people who need to be locked up in a mental ward. They have serious narcissistic, pathological issues.
Chi townD Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Nope! Stats show that relationships that start out as affairs are only about 14-17% sucessful.
David Cain Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Nope! Stats show that relationships that start out as affairs are only about 14-17% sucessful. Yea, within the first two years of the "relationship." After that it's just another open marriage.
Owl Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 DSvet...I'd say that your best bet here is to do your best not to worry if that "other" marriage will last or not. You're far, far better off removing yourself from that entire situation as best as you can. He cheated on you for 8 years. That's not someone you can ever trust again. Remove him from your life...and realize that you're better off without him. Rather than waste any time focusing on him and what might or might not happen in his relationship...rebuild your own life into something better, something wonderful that couldn't have happened had he remained in it. Don't focus on him...focus on you. Let karma deal with him.
nyrias Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Don't focus on him...focus on you. Let karma deal with him. Don't even think about karma. There is no such thing. Just get rid of him from your mind.
Spark1111 Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 What is your intake on people who have long term affairs like 8-9 years than marry their mistress. Do these kind of relationships last? I am so sorry you are going through this. How painful it must be! I DO believe the old adage that "living well is the best revenge." So what are you doing for you? Are you taking a class? Gym? Volunteering? Yes, it is natural to mourn the end of your relationship. But to worry whether they last or not? Honestly, who the H knows? Generally, not, unless pride keeps them together, pride in that they will not admit to themselves or each other that they made a mistake because 8 years have been invested. Look, their happiness or unhappiness can no longer be your concern. Only your happiness should matter to you. Think long and hard now on what would make you happy, and what it will take you to get there. Then, get busy.
Author DSVET9091 Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 I'm just wondering, I've made plenty of self improvements for myself and trying to make a better life for my kids... I'm no mother of the year by all means but trying to deal with a situation I have no control of. I know the stats are low when one marries one's mistress but what hurts is that I tried my best to make a marriage work without success. To all of you that have been hurt by a cheating ex knows how bad it hurts and it's something that will for a while. We all have some sort of selfish in us and I guess mine is that I only hope that he has what is coming to him in a worse way. I'm just being honest.....
YellowShark Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I'm just wondering, I've made plenty of self improvements for myself and trying to make a better life for my kids... I'm no mother of the year by all means but trying to deal with a situation I have no control of. I know the stats are low when one marries one's mistress but what hurts is that I tried my best to make a marriage work without success. To all of you that have been hurt by a cheating ex knows how bad it hurts and it's something that will for a while. We all have some sort of selfish in us and I guess mine is that I only hope that he has what is coming to him in a worse way. I'm just being honest..... Look at it this way. If he had an 8-year affair on you chances are pretty high that her will eventually have an affair on her.
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