Attraction of woman to men

[bluenightowl]

I'm curious for the men out there and for the women too. After years of dating this is what I've found seems to attract woman to you.

 

I used to be very shy with woman, but then I started to be more sexually aggressive. More times than not, I've found woman love that you find them attractive and that you show that you find them attractive. It has often lead to fooling around, and has often lead to woman even initiating sexual contact.

 

On the negative side, I've found in general talking to woman about how much you like them too soon has the exact reserve effect, so being cool with the words (at least at the beginning) seems to be the best approach. Perhaps because it spoils the excitement and the fun.

 

Is this just that the time are a changing, and that woman are more sexually liberated and don't always put having a relationship as a key goal these days?

I find most woman in general love sex at least as much as men, if they feel respected and comfortable.

[dasein]

It has always been this way, actually it's only been very historically recently that men have been made to feel that open expression of sexual interest in a woman is wrong. "Objectification" of women and "sex objects," nonsensical notions in any context other than sociopathy or psychosis, were successfully used by political interests to encourage feelings of victimization in women, that they were being done wrong somehow by male sexual interest.

[Pierre]

Some women love attention and admiration, particularly if they are insecure. Sometimes these women are relatively easy as long as you say the right things to validate them. I have seen many stories on this board about women that were not initially into a guy and later fell in love because the guy treated them well and was attentive.

 

If the woman is very sure of herself you need another method. Too much attention will not work with these females. They are likely looking for intelligence and a no nonsense approach.