AfriendAllie Posted April 29, 2004 Posted April 29, 2004 I am insecure when it comes to women. I have never been with one intimately, no hug or kiss.What can I do to break the ice with them? Also, does size matter?
AZNNTYCE Posted April 29, 2004 Posted April 29, 2004 hrmm, what exactly is going through your mind when your with a women? are you afraid?
fundamental Posted April 30, 2004 Posted April 30, 2004 AfriendAllie, Well, first you will have to find out what it is that makes you afraid of women. Is it all women, or women you like? If you are worried and insecure around women you like, it is probably just anxiety.... a lot of people suffer from it when dealing with the opposite sex. You just need more interaction with the opposite sex. You might want to talk with women that you are not interested in, just to get experience socializing. Confidence builds with time. Don't give up on yourself. Overcoming Shyness link: http://www.datingfast.com/report/shyness.asp Hope it helps.... fun da mental ******I am insecure when it comes to women. I have never been with one intimately, no hug or kiss.What can I do to break the ice with them? Also, does size matter?********
Author AfriendAllie Posted April 30, 2004 Author Posted April 30, 2004 Honestly I am afraid of making moves with women that I am into. I have actually improved in talking to those that I am not as much into. Its those that I dig that I can't quite make the moves. I had a huge crush on this girl in high school . I felt as if she was the most beautiful girl I had ever laid eyes on. I NEVER approached her. I actually e-mailed her a year after graduation. She mentioned that she was seeing someone. She also noted that I was a nice guy. I guess the nice guys really don't get the girls. I guess I will NEVER understand women.
fundamental Posted May 1, 2004 Posted May 1, 2004 AfriendAllie, It's not that girls don't like nice guys--they do like nice guys. Women/girls just want a guy with a backbone. A guy who can say no when he wants to say no; a guy who can make his own choices and decisions without catering to a girl's needs 24/7. Basically, you can't be a wimp. There is nothing wrong with being courteous and respectful = nice. If you're too nice to a woman, she will not respect you. She will feel that you are not being real and you are up to something. Just be real. By too nice, I mean gift giving, constant attention (you are constantly giving and not receiving , she is receiving and never giving), agree with everything she says (be a man and have your own opinions)-- you probably have your own opinions when talking with friends and family, right?!?!? As for your shyness with your crushes, again you are not alone. There are plenty of people (men and women) who become insecure and fear the person they have a crush on. It is something that you are going to have to deal with yourself. I suggest reading other posts about situations like this, so you know that you are not alone. One day you will be ready and you won't feel so shy.
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