luvsickpuppy Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Now for those who have been reading my posts know, I am helplessly in love with my ex. It feels so wierd typing it. All I want in the world is to be able to pour everything I have into him, and be the best damned woman he could ask for. I think I've done that. So why am I upset? Because with all that I put into him, very little comes back to me, and I don't want much. Just you know: be honest with me, talk to me, love me, don't keep me on the back burner kinda thing. I would turn down any guy for him, and have been.. Then yesterday, a guy I've known for years, practically grew up together. Well we bumped into eachother, exchanged numbers, he asked me out immediately. Said he understands how I feel: me, my children, zero friends, no support from anyone. I didn't tell him about my him and I. But he continued to say he just wanted something good in life, a good girl to take care of him, and he could take care of her (financially) wow right? I don't have any feelings for this guy, and through out the years I've known him to be.. Shady I guess, I mean he has babies with women all over town, no one is off limits. He has slept with girls in relationships, even with his friends, he seems to keep surprising me with new lows. But we have been friends forever. He doesn't point out all of my flaws I don't point out his. Then he's here telling me all the things I want to hear from my love, well except the financial part, money has no place in my feelings for him. And I start to consider it. I know it would be wrong on so many different levels, mainly because he would just be a replacement for all the hurt I feel. But I want so badly to just feel appreciated. I told him we haven't talked in years, we might as well get to know eachother again before trying to try anything. Even that felt wrong. I only have love for _____, and anything else would be a lie.
aussie_bloke Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Luvsic, I don't think you are ready to date yet. You have to be strong alone, and content that things are over with your ex before you get into anything else or you will only be setting yourself up for more sadness. Also I would be suspicious about any guy that speaks straight up about a relationship when you havent seen him/been around him recently. Relationships are built on a connection, trust and attraction, you can't just be like 'hey, we're both single lets give it a shot'. Well you can but you know how it will end. I believe what you need are friends, that will support you and cheer you up!
Author luvsickpuppy Posted August 9, 2011 Author Posted August 9, 2011 I agree, I told him thats what I wanted but I wasn't gonna jump the gone on anything. I miss my ex too much to be able to try with someone, I felt like what little I did was cheating. But it was definitely tempting.
aussie_bloke Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 Good for you! Take the interest as an ego boost and a sign that there will be other guys interested once you are over your ex, you're just not there yet. As everyone says time heals everything, but there is nothing harder than going along with time waiting for it to bloody happen:p Cheers, Aussie
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