wilteringrose Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Well last year I was 2 weeks from getting married but he breaks it up suddenly. It was sooo unexpected and there was no reason other than ''I just don't feel the same anyone, I'm not sure what I want and feel trapped''. Needless to say I was shocked but ok at least he told me. My parents till this day hates him and doesn't want me to even be friends with him. Now he has a GF and I've learned from his sister who I still talk to that he got cheated on twice on (it got to the point where she got an abortion) and he still took her back. I'm really confused? Did I do anything wrong? IMO if someone cheats on you twice (even once) then it can't be love. I never did but still got dumped. I feel like I've been terribly replaced.
rafallus Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 He's probably getting the taste of his own medicine (whether he cheated on you or not)
bluenightowl Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Well last year I was 2 weeks from getting married but he breaks it up suddenly. It was sooo unexpected and there was no reason other than ''I just don't feel the same anyone, I'm not sure what I want and feel trapped''. Needless to say I was shocked but ok at least he told me. My parents till this day hates him and doesn't want me to even be friends with him. Now he has a GF and I've learned from his sister who I still talk to that he got cheated on twice on (it got to the point where she got an abortion) and he still took her back. I'm really confused? Did I do anything wrong? IMO if someone cheats on you twice (even once) then it can't be love. I never did but still got dumped. I feel like I've been terribly replaced. This sounds terribly messed up. Its good you are not with him IMHO. I would try as hard as you can to create new experiences and move on.
Author wilteringrose Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 (edited) This sounds terribly messed up. Its good you are not with him IMHO. I would try as hard as you can to create new experiences and move on.After what he did I want nothing to do with him so it's really his loss. But seriously why do some people leave a good relationship, only to go for a crappy one with a terrible partner? Or do some just like being treated poorly but when treated with respect, they leave you? Edited August 8, 2011 by wilteringrose
bluenightowl Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 After what he did I want nothing to do with him so it's really his loss. But seriously why do some people leave a good relationship, only to go for a crappy one with a terrible partner? Or do some just like being treated poorly but when treated with respect, they leave you? His loss is right. As for your question: its hard to know. Maybe he didn't realize himself what he got himself into. Its really possible he is feeing very insecure. For whatever reason, he didn't want to get married. He may now be chasing a fantasy in his head. I suspect he's even messed up from breaking up with you. He might have known for a long time it was not right for him. He might feel really guilty or not. He might have had some crazy fantasy of this other woman. Whatever it is, he messed up. Just by your message you seem strong to me and you will do well. Him, who knows. I would just avoid even following what's going on in his life. He's gone now, and your future seems bright.
Author wilteringrose Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 The more I thought about this, I think he even did me a favor by breaking off the engagement. Who knows what I could have gotten myself into? From then on, he never even bother contacting me, not even for my birthday. After all those times I was by his side during stressful times, I don't even get at least a thank you. Wow. I'll have to be more careful in dating this time. But I still want to get married when I find the right one.
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