jchips Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Hi Everyone. Thanks for all your help these days. I certainly need it! Now I need help reading these crazy mixed messages, OK? Quick recap: we were together 2.5 years, we broke up over 4 months ago - mutual agreement, he moved out 2 months ago & just now finished getting all his stuff out of here. I hadn't seen him in 2 months when he came over for stuff recently. It was a super sweet interaction, warm feelings, very civilized, etc. I'm feeling really hopeful after this. Next day he comes over for more stuff and was an angry jerk from the moment he came in until he left. I get an email apology that afternoon. I don't respond because I'm still pissed & hurt & I don't want to be reactive. Then I get a letter- yeah, a letter in the US mail! What? Another more in depth apology, and in it he mentions he got me a bunch of CDs of music that I love as a "parting gift" and a "sweet good-bye card." Parting gift? Good-bye card? I would think he's still into me but there's no mention of getting together to talk, just "sorry and good-bye." Then, the day he got the last of his stuff, when he drove away, he tapped his horn twice, like we used to do when we were first together & were really happy. He knew how much I loved this ritual. It always felt like one last sweet hug before he was off. So what's up with suddenly resurrecting the two-tap-horn-honk at this stage of the game? Part of me thinks that if he wasn't still into me, the last thing he would be thinking about is apology letters, CDs that I love & horn honks, right? But then why the angry outbursts? Why no suggestion that we get together & just hang out or talk? It's very confusing. I definitely want to get back together with him but cannot until he deals with a very specific problem & he knows exactly what it is. Until then, no go. Is there any chance all of these sweet things are designed to get me to hang in there while he deals with it? Or to hang in there even if he isn't dealing with it? Should I just chuck it and forget I ever met him? Ack! I hate this! Thanks for any insights you've got.
flitzanu Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 as most on here will say, you need to quit reading into things. unless he is saying "i want to work things out" you need to just block him out as best you can and continue moving on. we all know how to use words and express what we want, boys and girls. if he wants you, he'll tell you, not honk at you.
Author jchips Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 flitz, you're right, a honk is a proclamation of zip. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/smilies/tongue.gif Thanks for the reality check.
stretch Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 I'm with flitz on this one... I'm in a similar position with mixed messages flying around... in fact, just posted a new thread on it but you're absolutely right. A honk of the horn says nothing and possibly just indicates that the hope within you is searching for signals that may not even be there. For the preservation of your sanity (trust me I know), move on in whatever way you can until he addresses whatever he needs addressing and physically tells you he wants to be with you again.
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