without Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 "The one you love and the one who loves you are never, ever the same person." I know this is not the right forum but i wanna ask you guys.
radiodarcy Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 in my experience; yes - - i would have to agree. but, of course, i don't speak for everyone
ScienceGal Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 This has been my experience. I have shared loving moments with men, but it will never work out with the one I truly want as he will never love and respect me in the way that I deserve. Though I am not currently in the 30% of women referenced in this article, it looks as though I might be someday http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-gauvain/doubts-before-marriage_b_919868.html
WTRanger Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I disagree completely. Though, you'll probably get most people agreeing with you since this is, after all, a forum for breakups and people are not exactly chipper on the whole love thing.
Author without Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 i disagree completely. Though, you'll probably get most people agreeing with you since this is, after all, a forum for breakups and people are not exactly chipper on the whole love thing. ........
ScienceGal Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Good point WTRanger, I hesitated before answering and then I remembered that article I read this morning. Being in love and having it fail changes a person. It affects them and puts them (sometimes) in less of a position to open up and love again. So, some people will settle and do the best they can. I personally still have faith that I will find someone what will make my ex look like a ratty old stuffed animal that I used to love when I was 8. It just takes time... and lots of personal growth.
Author without Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 This has been my experience. I have shared loving moments with men, but it will never work out with the one I truly want as he will never love and respect me in the way that I deserve. Though I am not currently in the 30% of women referenced in this article, it looks as though I might be someday http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-gauvain/doubts-before-marriage_b_919868.html I read that but it has nothing to do with the quote.
Audrina Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I agree that because you posted this in the break up forum you're probably going to get a lot of jaded answers, but I disagree. I'm totally in love with my boyfriend and I know that he's in love with me as well. However, I also know that one of my exes will carry a torch for me to his grave, it's just a love that can't be returned.
ScienceGal Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 "The one you love and the one who loves you are never, ever the same person." I know this is not the right forum but i wanna ask you guys. You mean I can't give whatever I want for an answer to a question posted in the wrong forum? But seriously, I disagree with the never EVER phrasing.
Woggle Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Not true at all. Some people are just stuck on what they can't have.
Mack05 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 (edited) Do not agree. I believe if you want something badly enough and you put in the personal sacrifice and work on personal growth, to improve yourself in everyway that you will get rewarded. When we are ready (in the right place in life), love ourselves in the right way, then things tend the happen. Fail to prepare, prepare to fail. People don't work on themsleves enough or learn from their mistakes. They wait and then expect things to just happen for them and feel sorry for themselves when it doesn't happen. These people (I was one of them) attract the wrong kind of people and end up in unhealthy relationships. Now that I like myself again and put the hard work in, opportunites are happening in my life that I would never have dreamed about in March. This is no coincidence. "In order to succeed, your desire for success has to be greater than your fear of failure" "The Rationale behind hard work is to feed the belief and starve the doubt" The people showing the doubt, are the people waiting for things to happen instead of actually doing something about it.. Edited August 8, 2011 by Mack05
KathyM Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Of course, that's not true. There are plenty of couples that both love each other.
PelicanPete Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I actually think it's true on a psychological level. Think about it, we rely on our perception to help us defy what type of person someone is. We never really "know" anyone though, because the second we defy someone as something and give them that mold to fit into, we are only appreciating one aspect of themselves. We label people with certain qualities and characteristics because its automatic, the human brain needs to feel it understands. It isn't satisfied with not knowing when it feels all the pieces are right infront of it. In truth, we can never fully know anything or anyone because it's impossible for someone to show their entire self in all forms to someone, they can only show pieces of it. You need to "know" someone to love them, and in order to "know", you need to define and label characteristics and attributes of that person to decide how you feel about him/her. You can never love a person in their full entirety, you can only love what that person shows you. Therefore, the one you love and the one who loves you are never the same person.
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