what gives?? after some hardcore ignore and nc, ex tells me she is still single.

[buranko]

hi all,

 

my break up story is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t278093/

 

anyway, to cut my post short, its been 2 months of close proximate working relationship with her. with some hardcore NC and ignore all conversations except official business, strictly no personal conversation.

 

Well, we were planning some events together, and post event, we had a little debrief and people had some negative comments about her job quality. she got really upset about it, and the next day she pulled me one side and began to pour her sorrows to me, abt how hard she worked but she aint gonna please every1 etc. den she teared a little, and it was all strictly business until the end where she said that there is still " no one in my life right now, and there is no guy that i like".

 

well, a little side story here is that a little while ago, she came and talk to me about some outings she went to (she initiated that conversation), and the entire conversation was revolving about this guy she met etc. so the next day, one mutual friend who saw the both of us talking, came over and ask me what was up, i just told her that it was about some guy she met, i think she is interested in him.

 

Anyway, i simply brushed off my ex and i continued talking about our event and how it could further be improved upon. we did hug her a little to show her that i'm still by her side no matter what others say about her event and i did use my hand to rub her tears away in which she did not resist both the hug and me rubbing her tears away.

 

I really dont want to get sucked into this whole she still has feelings for me thing, and i have no idea what possesed her to tell me that she has been single all the time we broke up and she is interested in nobody. although i just brushed it off, it really bothers me alot, and it has played on my mind a little bit.

 

To be honest, i still think about her, still miss her and still want her in my life badly. and for this 2 months, i've really put on a very brave front and had a **** load of fun without her. but inside a part of me still feels empty without her.

 

yes she dumped me, considering that i never really begged or talked about us within this 2 months. but do i really go hardcore nonchalance until she cracks and tells me she wants me again. or is it really ok to just give in and show her more and more obviously that i still want her in my life?

[2011]

I wouldn't crack, you know she is just looking to see if you are still interested, women are strange (guess i'm not the first too say that lol) they will do as you describe and then if you reciprocate she will drop you like a hot stone as she knows you are going to be there and therefore she can get on with her life knowing there is always going to be a lifebelt there for her when she needs it.

 

Mate I would seriously resist from propping her up when she has crocodile tears just keep it strictly business and no more. Remember she dumped you, so now do you want to be her shoulder to cry on for the rest of her life?

 

2011

[flitzanu]

I wouldn't crack, you know she is just looking to see if you are still interested, women are strange (guess i'm not the first too say that lol) they will do as you describe and then if you reciprocate she will drop you like a hot stone as she knows you are going to be there and therefore she can get on with her life knowing there is always going to be a lifebelt there for her when she needs it.

 

Mate I would seriously resist from propping her up when she has crocodile tears just keep it strictly business and no more. Remember she dumped you, so now do you want to be her shoulder to cry on for the rest of her life?

 

2011

 

wow, saved me a lot of typing

 

ditto to this.