lalalandman Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I can't ****ing take this anymore. I'm on week 5 of NC after a 5 year relationship, got dumped in May. I've been doing really well, up until this past week. EVERY NIGHT I'VE HAD A DREAM OF MY EX. Sometimes good, sometimes bad, sometimes just weird. This dream was bad. I've never woken up in the middle of the night from these dreams. This is a first. This is not ****ing fair. I'm not asking for these dreams. I want to erase her from my memory. It's like, something will NOT allow me to move on. I don't get it!!!!!!! I changed my phone number, my email, deleted my FB. Dumped mutual friends. I've been going out having fun. Meeting new people. Trying to accept the breakup. This dream really hurt. It was something along the lines of my friend telling me that she took a big chance with me, but how she never really cared all along. Then she sent me this string of really blunt, hurtful text messages. Then I wake up at 230am. What is going on? Why won't these dreams let me move on?
BrokenFool Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Dont beat yourself up deleting facebook, changing your mobile number these are all things you can do going inside your heart and removing your love for her isnt possible because your love was true it will subside in its own time stay strong im in week 19 NC and the dreams have got less be positive the dreams are there because you have the capacity to love from the bottom of your heart and thats a good trait which will stand you in good stead in the future
Arikel Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 First off, good job on moving on with your life! The dreams are a bit of a block, but I'm a firm believer that our dreams are our subconscious trying to work something out. Maybe you could spend an evening just reflecting on things, take some time to yourself, acknowledge that you are hurting, but that time will heal you. I've been a bit hyper myself trying hard not to think about my previous relationship, but today was a reflective day and I had to acknowledge how angry I am. Now that I realize that, I can keep moving on. I'm sure you can too. Just keep it up!
Author lalalandman Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 Thank you both. Made me feel better tonite. I like this idea of reflection. I think I will do that today after work, and see what I come up with. This is just very confusing.
written in the stars Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Dont feel bad, im going on 7 months and I still dream about my ex almost everynight. They used to bother me but now I've just accepted them and know eventually they will go away.
Author lalalandman Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 (edited) Thanks for sharing... That must be hard. But I suppose with time yes. Obviously there is a part of me that has not come to grips with reality. Maybe I've been ignoring coming to terms with the break up due to all my shenanigans this summer. I think this reflection time idea is a good thing. The sooner I can finally ACCEPT the better. Edited August 8, 2011 by lalalandman
sookiie Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 i can understand ur feelings...i myself jus wok up 2 realize dat i jus had a dream abt mi ex...m havin dese dreams daily...its bin 2weks sinc i got dumped n 1 wek of NC aftr 7 yr relationshp.i knw hw it feels...its lik u r puttin so much efforts in movin on n r on d verge of healing bt suddenly dese dreams pull u several steps backwards...its nt lik v r askin 4 d dreams...its frustratin realy cos v hav no control on dreams...i thnk d advice othrs hav givn is rite 2 reflect upon it..come 2 terms wit it..
Author lalalandman Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 Yea, I think maybe the dreams are pulling me back to the point of where I really should be in the healing process as opposed to where I'm trying to be. I've been bombarding myself with new things, new people, going out, tons of new girls, that maybe I'm just putting on the "I'm over it" hat but not truly done. I think I'll spend a good week in reflection/meditation.
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