sbradford2 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 I am so depressed right now. Since my kids father moved out he acts as if he doesn't even know us anymore. He told me that we were still going to be together just live apart. I accepted that part because we were having a very hard time getting along. And I even started to get violent with him and I knew that we just needed to take a break away from eachother to let things calm down. I do feel bad about pushing him and regret doing so. Last week he told me that he was going to spend time with me and the kids this weekend and it is now Sunday evening and I still have not heard from him. While he was here living with us he put us first and always made sure that we had what we needed. Now he never calls and whenever I call him he acts like he's too busy to talk. It is a possibility that he could be seeing someone else because he has done this in the past. That's really not my concern though. Its just heartbreaking to feel as if he has forgotten all about me and the kids and does not want to be around anymore. Although it will hurt i can accept him not wanting me but at least still being around for the kids. The day he left we got into it and he grabbed his bags and asked me to take him to his cousins house to live with him. Although I was hurt and wanted to beg him to stay I did not want my kids to see me that way so I just drove him there, he got his bags out of the car and said goodbye to the kids and walked off. I feel like I pushed their father away and I am hurting for that. I knew that eventually things would come to an end because I have had so many trust issues with him. The lying and cheating that he has done in the past had really taken a toll on me and I was always so insecure. I wish I could have put my insecurities aside so that he would still be around for the kids. I am still waiting for him to call and every minute that he doesn't seems like I grow more and more depressed. I have not called him since Friday night because I figured that if he cared enough that he would at least call to see how we are doing. I have to pull myself together. I don't want to feel this type of pain anymore. I have two little ones that are depending on me and its hard to look at them and feel that they may never see daddy again.
Mcnulty Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Firstly, he is neglecting his parental responsibilities. If he said he would be seeing the kids at the weekend, then he should have showed up. You did the right thing in taking him to his cousins, you didn't push him away by doing that, you were the mature adult amongst the melee and didn't want the kids to see, you should be commended for that. Also he has cheated and I hate to say it but it sounds like he has another iron in the fire - hence him going missing this weekend and hardly calling. No wonder you are insecure and hurt. You were wrong to get physical by pushing him, yes, but it sounds like frustration for his shortcomings within the relationship. Really, you sounds like a responsible parent..unlike him. Do you really want to be living your life with him... not trusting him? It sounds like the relationship has taken it's toll on you mentally Think about you for once. Wishing you lots of strength and luck.
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