sleepykitten Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 So just as i am doing ok, went nc, broke nc, saw him a few times, not for the past moth. He e mails etc tells me he is struggling having only just faced its over etc etc. Found out 2 weeks after we split he is in a relatioship with someone else and was seeing her before we broke up. Still lied to me after w ebroke up slept with me said how sad he was and how sad it would make him to think of me with anyone else...and he was with someone the whole time. Of course found out on fb i had blocked him but her profile is open so could see exacly what had been happening. She is now blocked. But i felt utterly defeated, it just seems like one blow after another, not just with him but family and other news. Am dreading going to bed as i know i will be thinking of all his lies, everything he said, and just analszing. At least i have my answer as to why he stopped making any effort and being so indifferent and said things but his actions were the opposite. Felt like i was going mad. Why cant people just have some backbone and be honest. Why string someone along watching them fall apart telling you they love you when all the while with someone else?
wilsonx Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 So just as i am doing ok, went nc, broke nc, saw him a few times, not for the past moth. He e mails etc tells me he is struggling having only just faced its over etc etc. Found out 2 weeks after we split he is in a relatioship with someone else and was seeing her before we broke up. Still lied to me after w ebroke up slept with me said how sad he was and how sad it would make him to think of me with anyone else...and he was with someone the whole time. Of course found out on fb i had blocked him but her profile is open so could see exacly what had been happening. She is now blocked. But i felt utterly defeated, it just seems like one blow after another, not just with him but family and other news. Am dreading going to bed as i know i will be thinking of all his lies, everything he said, and just analszing. At least i have my answer as to why he stopped making any effort and being so indifferent and said things but his actions were the opposite. Felt like i was going mad. Why cant people just have some backbone and be honest. Why string someone along watching them fall apart telling you they love you when all the while with someone else? They do it because people allow them to do it. I am not saying its your fault at all sleepy but I am sure if this ever happens to you again, it wont. We all need to learn in our own way and from our own experience about these things. You could read the forums, listen to advice from your friends family but when you are in love, the only person that you believe is yourself and the other person you are in love with. Now that you have experienced it, you know that you can not trust an ex that you are still in love with ever again. People were telling me left and right that my ex was a cheater and she was cheating on me. I caught her and somehow I still did not want to believe it. It has taken me about 2 months to accept what she really is. Did she sleep with me after the break up, sadly yes many times, even though I KNEW she was cheating on me and I couldnt stop it until the last time. Things will get better, you will find someone better. When you are done analyzing this, start moving forward =)
Author sleepykitten Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 Thanks Wilson, it always means alot whe someone replies. Yes I was so stupid to not go nc from the outset and to see him again, its been since 25 may that we broke up and the last time i saw him was the 1st july wwhen we went to a concert i had got tickets for his birthday. What a mug eh! At least he paid for his! Facebook is evil its how i read everything, on that night she wrote am just trying to be patient but i want to smash your heads together. He rushed off in the morning after mentioning the night before he forgot he had to babysit his nephew. At the time I had my doubts about that! Oh I could go on and on about what he said and what he then went and did. I guess the main thing is I thought the worst it was was that we broke up, finding out he was cheating on me now at this stage is bitter pill to swallow. I had to e mail him i couldnt let him think he had got away with it, i didnt swear or get bitter but said what i needed to say. Then i got a friend to change my password and throw it away, i set a holiday auto reply as i couldnt shut it down. It just said this account is no longer active. I dont think he would have replied but i dont want to know either way now. And i knew if i didnt change that password everytime i thought of another lie he is now caught out on i would have been in that mail..! I wish i didnt know his e mail off by heart!!!! It does change so much of the memories I had, and of how i think of him and i feel such an idiot! And shes not even attractive!! But at least i am in work and not in tears, yesterday morning I just wanted to dissapear and i dont feel like that now. Lesson learnt.
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