carhill Posted August 9, 2011 Posted August 9, 2011 I only have one decent data point. This person's comments about men were always negative in some way, she openly used men to play with and she was even openly rude to me in my own home on multiple occasions, some prior to my exW and I getting married. Unfortunately, she probably played a role in our D. The irony was, wait for it, universal attractiveness. Absolute power corrupts absolutely, at least in one data point. I remember the last time I saw her after my exW and I decided to split up, in the kitchen at exW's new house. Her demeanor had completely changed. Pleasant and personable and even a bit flirtatious. Mission accomplished.
Disillusioned Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 That's nothing. I can name one misandrist who's been running a website for at least 8 years, and she says straight out that all men are a bunch of no-good dogs, while in the same breath admitting that she's still looking for the ultimate orgasm (and she's almost old enough to cash in an IRA). But yet it doesn't matter how "successful" a man is; if he's male, he's a failure and a loser in her book. Even billionaires like Bill Gates and Richard Branson are losers to this woman. Her website has some of the sorriest drivel I've ever read from a (presumably) straight woman. Pathetic.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Sometimes guys or girls get frustrated with the opposite sex in general. It doesn't mean that they're a gender hater.
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I only have one decent data point. This person's comments about men were always negative in some way, she openly used men to play with and she was even openly rude to me in my own home on multiple occasions, some prior to my exW and I getting married. Unfortunately, she probably played a role in our D. The irony was, wait for it, universal attractiveness. Absolute power corrupts absolutely, at least in one data point. I remember the last time I saw her after my exW and I decided to split up, in the kitchen at exW's new house. Her demeanor had completely changed. Pleasant and personable and even a bit flirtatious. Mission accomplished. That's really sad... Yes, misery loves company. You see that with people who can't form long term relationships or are bitter about their current state in life in some way. Always sabotaging the happiness of their friends. I've have one female friend who routinely tries to 'bait' me into being the bitter divorcee. The one she comes to when she is upset with her husband. As tempting as it might be sometimes, when I see it ramping up I give her some variation of... "Look, I care about you. I want very much for your marriage to work." then find a way to change the subject or send her to other resources. From her, I also take it as a form of gloating, like "I'm married, you're not" kind of thing. Like the thin person always bitching about being too fat. That kind of thing. Really is annoying.
Disillusioned Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Sometimes guys or girls get frustrated with the opposite sex in general. It doesn't mean that they're a gender hater. Yeah, but if they're still doing it when they're pushing 60, they've got a problem.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Yeah, but if they're still doing it when they're pushing 60, they've got a problem. Are you talking about yourself? Just curious. I personally don't feel bitter. Like I said, I can't help it that most women aren't attracted to me. The worst thing I could do is change myself. Eventually, someone will come along who will love me for who I am.
Author Woggle Posted August 10, 2011 Author Posted August 10, 2011 People trying to sabotage happy relationships played a part in both my parent's divorce and the breakup of my first marriage. They both let manhaters talk them into turning against the men in their lives. Sadly this happens too often.
Disillusioned Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Are you talking about yourself? Just curious. Nah, I'm 43 and I don't hate women. I only hate the cockamamy attitudes most of them have.
ilikesunita Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 You cannot control what others think and believe. Live in the real world, and get over it.
zengirl Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 Low empathy. Empathy for other human beings -- all races, genders, etc -- is something I value in a partner and look for strongly. Hatred and prejudice are generally extinguished by empathy, excepting those that are deeply ingrained in a cultural sense (i.e. the person has never encountered a culture other than their own in depth, and their own culture holds those prejudices strongly with no room for change; I'm actually quite sympathetic to this kind of prejudice, as it's rarely the individual's fault, but that's not what we're talking here, and doesn't apply to modern, Westernized cultures and countries).
ilikesunita Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 This may sound silly, but there is a woman at work who is, shall we say, more endowed and this mesmerizes me. how can i get to know her better and ask her out?
oaks Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I was going to title this post how can you spot a misandrist but I figured I would be fair. What are signs of a misandrist or a misogynist? So you thought you'd save the bias for the first sentence of your post, before you asked the question.
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