bertdru Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Serious question. Can a guy live a quiet life and yet be angry? Only because of sexual frustration? Things are becoming worse now. Sleep is actually not so bad. But when I am awake, I am filled with fury. I want to hurt somebody (but I won't). Certain people piss me off. The smart sleazy guys piss me off. The fashionable girls piss me off. The lesbians piss me off. Everybody who has a chance at sex pisses me off. Now that is totally ridiculous, I know. But I can't help it. I want to do something but I know I will regret it. I can't go out without this festering anger. I don't go out to movie theaters because I can't stand to see the beautiful fashionable girls. I would just be filled with anger and jealousy that just eats me up. Even negative stuff makes me jealous. Date rape makes me jealous. I know that is disgusting. But I feel that those guys are somehow able to get sex. They are disgusting filth but I can't help but feel jealous. Btw this stuff does not interest me at all in real life but my natural reaction is to be jealous. Is it normal to be fixated upon something so much? I am trying to learn some technical course or something to take my mind of it. But the minute I am outside walking among regular people, I can't take my mind off it. Now, please don't mistake me as a violent person. I am not capable of hurting anybody at all. Just that I have some negative feelings inside me.
Professor X Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 You should seek professional help; After all, you know it's not healthy to be like this.
sagetalk Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 (edited) Serious question. Can a guy live a quiet life and yet be angry? Only because of sexual frustration? Sexual frustration is an excuse, there is no reason to feel this way even if you aren't getting any. My advice is to get a gym membership and convert all this wasted energy into wide shoulders and big biceps. Throw in some education and a decent job and your girl with girls will be over. Get moving and lose the negative attitude! Edited August 7, 2011 by sagetalk
Ross MwcFan Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 When I was very sexually frustrated I just felt very miserable. But, sometimes when I see a couple, I do feel annoyed at the guy, even now that I don't feel sexually frustrated anymore.
somedude81 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 I feel the exact same way. Sexual frustration has generally put me in a constant bad mood. It's under control the vast majority of the time but I'm quick to anger. Certain things can set me off and before I know it I'm throwing things around my apartment.
Author bertdru Posted August 8, 2011 Author Posted August 8, 2011 I feel the exact same way. Sexual frustration has generally put me in a constant bad mood. It's under control the vast majority of the time but I'm quick to anger. Certain things can set me off and before I know it I'm throwing things around my apartment. Wow, maybe that's a bit much. I don't throw things around the apartment. Maybe guys overreact a bit on the sexual frustration thing. Who knows?
sugarmomma Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 It seems like anger is usually the easiest emotion to grab a hold to. I would look beneath the anger and just examine what's there. Could just be loneliness.
Star Gazer Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 ...when I am awake, I am filled with fury. I want to hurt somebody (but I won't). No, that is not normal. At all.
carhill Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 OP, tell us about your friendships and family life. I've been celibate for 2 years and 8 months now. As a mature man, I understand some of the psychology and physiology and do see signs of the negative effects of celibacy, but have also found that a full life greatly mitigates them. IOW, with more positive actions and thoughts, there's less room for negative ones to intrude. Generally, men are wired and socialized to process emotions into anger and aggression or stoic avoidance. However, it's not ordained; we have a choice. If you find these feelings to overwhelm you, or inhibit the formation of healthy relationships, like friendships, I'd suggest getting professional help. There are tools you can learn to process emotions differently. I learned a number of them in MC, mostly utilizing the typical male ability to visualize in one's minds eye. See a different path clearly, then follow it. It doesn't have to be the first one which emotions impel. Choose. Welcome to LS
thehead Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Sexual frustration is an excuse, there is no reason to feel this way even if you aren't getting any. My advice is to get a gym membership and convert all this wasted energy into wide shoulders and big biceps. Throw in some education and a decent job and your girl with girls will be over. Get moving and lose the negative attitude! ^Yup. Hit the gym, hit the heavy bag, hit up someone to talk to about all this. The level of anger you have OP, definitely isn't healthy.
musemaj11 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Sexual frustration makes people go nuts. This happens to women with high sex drive also. It is called 'Hysteria'. When you see a constantly hysterical woman, chances are she is suffering from sexual frustration. During the Middle Ages, women who suffered from hysteria were encouraged to marry or to get vaginal massage from a physician or a midwife (it seems back in the days women didnt know what masturbation was).
somedude81 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Wow, maybe that's a bit much. I don't throw things around the apartment. Maybe guys overreact a bit on the sexual frustration thing. Who knows? Heh, I only throw things on rare occasions. When reading stuff online or a particular thought pops up in my head, I get the urge to just throw my mouse as hard as I can but I resist. For me though, it's sexual frustration, depression, poor anger management skills with anger issues that run in my family. Plus I hate my life so much. I really should get a hooker in the near future, as a birthday present to myself. Maybe that will calm me down for a while?
cerridwen Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Sexual frustration makes people go nuts. This happens to women with high sex drive also. It is called 'Hysteria'. When you see a constantly hysterical woman, chances are she is suffering from sexual frustration. During the Middle Ages, women who suffered from hysteria were encouraged to marry or to get vaginal massage from a physician or a midwife (it seems back in the days women didnt know what masturbation was). Yes, because we all know how advanced medicine was in the Middle Ages. @Somedude--Sure, get a hooker.
somedude81 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Yes, because we all know how advanced medicine was in the Middle Ages. @Somedude--Sure, get a hooker. Noooo, you're not supposed to encourage me Nevermind the fact that I don't have much cash and I'll be using part of my grant money to pay for her. Guess I should write Uncle Sam a 'thank you' card. In this situation I wish I was a woman. Just go into a bar or club and pick out my favorite one. Wow, that's the complete opposite of how I am.
cerridwen Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Noooo, you're not supposed to encourage me Nevermind the fact that I don't have much cash and I'll be using part of my grant money to pay for her. Guess I should write Uncle Sam a 'thank you' card. In this situation I wish I was a woman. Just go into a bar or club and pick out my favorite one. Wow, that's the complete opposite of how I am. I'll give you a loan.
betterdeal Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Do you masturbate at all? I've found that's great fun, releases lots of tension etc.
cerridwen Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I don't understand why I'm not suppose to encourage you. Getting a hooker will relieve some tire pressure.
runner Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Do you masturbate at all? I've found that's great fun, releases lots of tension etc. after reading this i'm now waiting for someone to post a follow-up thread titled, "if someone is really calm and cool does that mean they masterbate alot???????"
somedude81 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 I'll give you a loan. I don't understand why I'm not suppose to encourage you. Getting a hooker will relieve some tire pressure. LOL, you're serious. I am considering it but it's not something I'm going to plan in advance. I really want to try my hardest with the current girl I'm chasing. Maybe if I'm lucky she'll give me . Heh probably not. I haven't had a prostitute in five years and it's not really something I'm proud of doing. Back in 09 I found a swinger thing that was accepting single guys. Best $50 I've ever spent. I just really want to do things the right way. Paying money is basically admitting defeat. I think I'll hold off till this semester is over in December. That way I'll let my horyness drive me in pursuing the girls I meet. Do you masturbate at all? I've found that's great fun, releases lots of tension etc. Two to three times a day. I have a very high sex drive and masturbation doesn't do a lot for me. Plus there are some times when my depression kicks in and I get really down when I'm done, basically nullifying the experience. I'll probably do it again before I go to bed as it can help me fall asleep. For once in my life I'd like to have as much sex as I want in a day. Hookers limit you to an hour and that's just not enough.
cerridwen Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 LOL, you're serious. I am considering it but it's not something I'm going to plan in advance. I really want to try my hardest with the current girl I'm chasing. Maybe if I'm lucky she'll give me . Heh probably not. I haven't had a prostitute in five years and it's not really something I'm proud of doing. Back in 09 I found a swinger thing that was accepting single guys. Best $50 I've ever spent. I just really want to do things the right way. Paying money is basically admitting defeat. I think I'll hold off till this semester is over in December. That way I'll let my horyness drive me in pursuing the girls I meet. Right on. Well, you know where to find me. I'm with bd though, about maybe lightening up a little and just shooting for some fun right now. Even just making that a mini-goal would be progress, sd. BTW, you didn't just throw your mouse when you found out she's going to Vegas did you? Those get expensive, buddy.
somedude81 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 Right on. Well, you know where to find me. LOL that's probably not the best thing to say right after I just said how horny I am I'm with bd though, about maybe lightening up a little and just shooting for some fun right now. Even just making that a mini-goal would be progress, sd. BTW, you didn't just throw your mouse when you found out she's going to Vegas did you? Those get expensive, buddy.Ah, so you've read my crappy thread. Right after she told me she was going to Vegas I told her that I was jealous and asked who she was going with. She said her family so there is no reason for me to get upset. I obviously can't join her in that situation. I'm just a little bummed that I can't see her this week either. Though just having this conversation with her relieved me. I was afraid that she was mad at me or ignoring me etc.
cerridwen Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 LOL that's probably not the best thing to say right after I just said how horny I am :lmao::lmao::lmao: Though just having this conversation with her relieved me. I was afraid that she was mad at me or ignoring me etc. I'm glad. Stay solution-oriented, somedude. It helps to vent, but the willingness to implement some suggestions is key. Peace.
musemaj11 Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 (edited) I just really want to do things the right way. Paying money is basically admitting defeat. I think I'll hold off till this semester is over in December. That way I'll let my horyness drive me in pursuing the girls I meet. And pursuing girls is going to cost you more money than you would have spent on escorts. In terms of quality-price ratio, paying for escorts is cheaper than paying for regular women. A friend of mine said that he paid $150 for a night with a stunning girl in Vegas whom he would probably have to fork out probably thousands of dollars for if he tried to get with an equally attractive ordinary woman. Taking a girl to dinner is no different than giving an escort money to buy herself a dinner. Neither one is more degrading than the other. Depending on how attractive the type of woman you want is, you will have to dish out money either way. Edited August 8, 2011 by musemaj11
Ross MwcFan Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 No, that is not normal. At all. How do you know if you've never been a sexually frustrated guy?
Ross MwcFan Posted August 8, 2011 Posted August 8, 2011 LOL, you're serious. I am considering it but it's not something I'm going to plan in advance. I really want to try my hardest with the current girl I'm chasing. Maybe if I'm lucky she'll give me . Heh probably not. I haven't had a prostitute in five years and it's not really something I'm proud of doing. Back in 09 I found a swinger thing that was accepting single guys. Best $50 I've ever spent. I just really want to do things the right way. Paying money is basically admitting defeat. I think I'll hold off till this semester is over in December. That way I'll let my horyness drive me in pursuing the girls I meet. Two to three times a day. I have a very high sex drive and masturbation doesn't do a lot for me. Plus there are some times when my depression kicks in and I get really down when I'm done, basically nullifying the experience. I'll probably do it again before I go to bed as it can help me fall asleep. For once in my life I'd like to have as much sex as I want in a day. Hookers limit you to an hour and that's just not enough. Well, at least you managed to attract a woman there. It shows that you are capable of attracting women.
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