dumpedandsore Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 looking at the adrupt breakup:lmao: i realise i have always been played. What does it mean? This means my two ex or the two "cheats" have never genuinely liked/loved me or were serious about me. They just strung me along, played with my feelings (to feed their ego that they could get a girl), then dumped me adruptly without a word (when they sense that im getting serious about the r/s" and couldnt care less about my feelings. They just simply cut me off their life permanently (facebook, msn, email, change cell hp no) and couldnt care less if im hurted or scarred by their actions. They would simply say very cruel and heartless stuff to brush me aside ( i never liked you, I was just testing, Im sure you can find someone else, i never have feelings for me) then zoom they go (thinking they have done me a big favour by cutting my losses short...never feel any sense of remorse.. feel they are doing me a big favour..i never heard from them again. the next thing i know..they have new gf or dating interests a day after dropping the bomb on me what does it keeps happening to me? cos im simply too naive to believe these guys? plain lousy that these guys like to fool and hurt my feelings intentionally? i feel i have been used as a plaything..played then dumped and left to die in the lurch...why it keeps happening... i feel i can never find true love..
Author dumpedandsore Posted August 7, 2011 Author Posted August 7, 2011 looking at the adrupt breakup:lmao: i realise i have always been played. What does it mean? This means my two ex or the two "cheats" have never genuinely liked/loved me or were serious about me. They just strung me along, played with my feelings (to feed their ego that they could get a girl), then dumped me adruptly without a word (when they sense that im getting serious about the r/s" and couldnt care less about my feelings. They just simply cut me off their life permanently (facebook, msn, email, change cell hp no) and couldnt care less if im hurted or scarred by their actions. They would simply say very cruel and heartless stuff to brush me aside ( i never liked you, I was just testing, Im sure you can find someone else, i never have feelings for me) then zoom they go (thinking they have done me a big favour by cutting my losses short...never feel any sense of remorse.. feel they are doing me a big favour..i never heard from them again. the next thing i know..they have new gf or dating interests a day after dropping the bomb on me what does it keeps happening to me? cos im simply too naive to believe these guys? plain lousy that these guys like to fool and hurt my feelings intentionally? i feel i have been used as a plaything..played then dumped and left to die in the lurch...why it keeps happening... i feel i can never find true love.. i think what has happened to me is very primetime drama.. when a rich lady gets cheated (of her money and body) by some loverboy. Then the loverboy dumped her and eloped with his lover. He then breaks the news to her that he was just playing and fooling her.. what have i done wrong? i never cheated their feelings and treated them sincerely and nicely as much as I possibly can... my friend was saying..oh man..the way im treated by these heartless scumbag , its as if they hated me and wanted to seek revenge on me.. they couldnt care if i go kill myself..as if i deserved all the drama and the pain.. why? i dont think its karma..cos i have never played any guy's feelings
Author dumpedandsore Posted August 7, 2011 Author Posted August 7, 2011 i think what has happened to me is very primetime drama.. when a rich lady gets cheated (of her money and body) by some loverboy. Then the loverboy dumped her and eloped with his lover. He then breaks the news to her that he was just playing and fooling her.. what have i done wrong? i never cheated their feelings and treated them sincerely and nicely as much as I possibly can... my friend was saying..oh man..the way im treated by these heartless scumbag , its as if they hated me and wanted to seek revenge on me.. they couldnt care if i go kill myself..as if i deserved all the drama and the pain.. why? i dont think its karma..cos i have never played any guy's feelings im treated and taken like a joke
DSVET9091 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Look up Narcissistic than you will learn about your ex.
Author dumpedandsore Posted August 7, 2011 Author Posted August 7, 2011 Look up Narcissistic than you will learn about your ex. i don't know. Im of eligible dating age, i tried to look as best as i could and look deserving and eligible for a decent r/s but i never get it Guys treat me like the biggest joke on earth. Then it will be over their dead body to like/ date me seriously I dont know why. Im a normal eligible lady..but simply they dont see it this way, they rather fooled me and make me feel bad and alone for the rest of my life. Yet, they feel they have done me a favour..
smudge21 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 You've just been unlucky - don't just take two relationships and presume the rest of your relationships will be the same. If you're that worried about it, try to see the connection with these two exs; where did you meet them and what backgrounds did they have? Were they the bad boys that you got interested in and thought you could change? Did they have dodgy friends who influenced them? Anything really, just see if there's a pattern and then change it. Just don't take this personally and move on best you can. The more time you spend thinking about these two, the less you spend finding someone better.
Author dumpedandsore Posted August 7, 2011 Author Posted August 7, 2011 You've just been unlucky - don't just take two relationships and presume the rest of your relationships will be the same. If you're that worried about it, try to see the connection with these two exs; where did you meet them and what backgrounds did they have? Were they the bad boys that you got interested in and thought you could change? Did they have dodgy friends who influenced them? Anything really, just see if there's a pattern and then change it. Just don't take this personally and move on best you can. The more time you spend thinking about these two, the less you spend finding someone better. I wish it was so. NO, these are boy-next-door kinda guys, they were serious about their ex, wanting to marry them but gotten dumped. Yet, they treated me like some crap. I wonder seriously what's wrong with me? Should i even consult a asethetic (plastic) surgeon and asked if i'm too ugly to be loved or taken seriously and treated with basic respect as any other living human being? I don't know if its a strike of plain bad luck over the years. My trend is im either rejected instantly (guys just look at me and write me off based on my looks) or im used/fooled, dumped and left in the lurch to rot and ie. what have i done to deserve it? I wish god could tell me? I have no answers left, i have perused literally every single dating, interpersonal skills books.. its rocket science... i can't find the reasons. anyone, able-bodied or disabled, can find a decent bgr and be treated with respect, love and care in it, while im taken like a fool and dumped like crap.
smudge21 Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 Slow down a bit there, are you still basing this entire belief on two exs? You do know that relationships, serious ones, the ones that last, are based on much more than looks. You can not let the actions of two individuals dictate how you live your life. If you're feeling this low than may I suggest you try to find out why - there is more to a happy life than being in a relationship. Maybe it's worth talking to a professional, seeing if there's some reason why this affects you so much. Please consider thinking about that rather than talking about surgery to change your looks. You need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Don't give up on yourself. Please.
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